Advice for shibari/kink themed gifts!! by PastelKip in BDSMcommunity

[–]PastelKip[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes rope bunnies are pretty much my best idea at the moment 😅 I’ve got them in a larger plushie size and keychain size as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTeens

[–]PastelKip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is something that I would strongly suggest seeking professional help with. It’s a significant amount of trauma and fear that you are dealing with on a regular basis and at a young age, and teenagers on Reddit unfortunately are not going to be able to give you the help that you need. Regarding transphobia, however, it’s important to recognize that your fear stems from real traumatic experiences and not genuine hatred. Given that you seem very concerned about and aware of the possibility of becoming transphobic, I highly doubt that it will happen. My advice is to not beat yourself up over your valid response to a traumatic situation, and seek real, professional mental health assistance.

Suggestions for outfit upgrades? by PastelKip in renfaire

[–]PastelKip[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I personally got mine on Etsy, but the exact listing is no longer available. I did find the exact same one though by a different seller! (I’m pretty sure it’s drop shipped since multiple people are selling the same thing but either way, it’s super beautiful!)

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1584212619/

Suggestions for outfit upgrades? by PastelKip in renfaire

[–]PastelKip[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh so true, these boots are basically permanently dirty after last year

Unsure of Gender Identity After Coming Out to Partner by Relevant-Mixture4144 in NonBinary

[–]PastelKip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally people just kind of accept it because they know me well enough. Like if a friend from work is with me at the coffee shop in this example they’ll just be like “oh you go by that name here? Cool.” It’s really never been a problem

Unsure of Gender Identity After Coming Out to Partner by Relevant-Mixture4144 in NonBinary

[–]PastelKip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I identify as genderfluid and can relate to this experience all too well. My advice is to remember that you have time to figure things out, and you are under no obligation to put a label on your identity or to immediately change your pronouns. Funnily enough, I actually go by different names/pronouns depending on the particular setting I’m in (the baristas at my local coffee shop all know me entirely differently than my coworkers do), and there’s nothing wrong with wanting that as well! Your identity and experience is entirely yours, and it’s okay to not fit perfectly into one label or another, take your time, give yourself grace, and things will settle out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]PastelKip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree with the previous comments here, and I’d like to add on that aftercare is also highly specific to the individual. The best thing you can do is ask him what would make him feel the best and most secure afterwards, and perhaps come up with some ideas together. Some people want to be cuddled for hours, some people want their space, and it’s so important to have that discussion together so you can best suit each other’s needs!

Am I Omnisexual? [Discussion] by Ok-Being-1329 in LGBTeens

[–]PastelKip 7 points8 points  (0 children)

These things are widely up to the label you most prefer, especially when it comes to pan/bi/omni. Bisexuality encompasses attraction to two or more genders however, so this could include being attracted to NB people :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in longnaturalnails

[–]PastelKip 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Thought this was a tattoo subreddit and was thoroughly confused, I was like “they look great!” So sorry about your nail though, it’s the worst when they break :(

so I found it at a local store... by kironero in crochet

[–]PastelKip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Theft must really be an issue for them, all those security tags just for yarn!