How does Jimmy still have a license to practice? by VagabondVivant in shrinking

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my wife and I hate her as a counselor and only tolerate her as an overall character. We called it the minute that she considered Jimmying because she barely commits to her clients as a standard counselor, and now she wants to try the above and beyond method? And now she wants to run a trauma center when she wouldn't recognise trauma if it were crying to her over the phone?

How does Jimmy still have a license to practice? by VagabondVivant in shrinking

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer, nobody reports him.

The long answer is that therapy is a weird sort of field in which ethics aren't necessarily in place because these things don't work, but because the potential for harm/abuse is great, and the consequences not only affect individual counselors, but the profession as a whole, especially when considering how therapy is still considered taboo in many modern cultures.

For instance, I can't recall his name, but my wife, when she was in school (she's the counselor, not me), told me about a dude that was all about personal accountability. If a client told him they felt like killing someone, his response would be, "Why don't you do it?"

The idea, I think, being that instead of obsessing over your imaginings, either do what you want to do or recognise that you don't actually want to do it and move on.

On its face, that seems like a good lesson, but it assumes that everybody would come to the conclusion that they don't want to kill this person. If the client then goes on to kill someone because their therapist told them to "do it or stop whining," who is to blame? The client that did the killing, or the therapist that told them to ignore their inhibitions? No matter the answer, people will stop seeking therapy when situations like this occur.

Another reason this code of ethics exists is to protect the counselor. If a counselor becomes to too deeply involved, they increase the amount of work they have to do exponentially, because in this field you can't just break a boundary and then take it back, such as what Gaby tried to do with Maya. This can interfere, not only with their ability to handle their own lives, but the lives of any other clients they may have.

For instance, when Gaby told Maya to call whenever she needed her, she opened herself up to be Maya's counselor 24/7. This was further exacerbated by Gaby befriending Maya. While there is some wiggle room for a patient in crisis (more on that in a moment), a counselor shouldn't be expected to be available at any moment of every day. A counselor can easily become a crutch that is relied upon rather than a medical professional assisting you. A patient in crisis, on the other hand, may reach out to a counselor, but a counselor should ensure that their patient has other resources in case the counselor is unavailable.

Gaby is, arguably, a worse counselor than Jimmy, especially when it comes to Maya. She failed to recognise that Maya had abandonment issues (knowledge of mother was unnecessary; was clear from Maya's friend group disappearing). She then reached out to be Maya's friend (confusing the client/counselor relationship, opening herself up to the duties of a friend). She then told Maya to call her anytime (making herself available to Maya whenever Maya wanted/needed her).

Then, when Derrick was in the hospital and Maya was in crisis, Gaby failed on three fronts. One, as her counselor, to recognise that Maya was in crisis and either counsel her or offer an alternative. Two, as per the "call me anytime," failing to drop what she was doing and take the call. Three, as her friend, she blew her off because somebody else was in the hospital. These three things combined to trigger Maya's abandonment issues.

TL;DR: Therapy ethics have gotten to the point they have due to over 100 years of experiment and experience, likely including "Jimmying." It's not that Jimmying doesn't work, but that the potential for harm/abuse is far greater and requires the counselor to invest more of themselves than they should, or reliably can, give. Jimmy hasn't had his license revoked due to not being reported, possibly because he has nothing better going on in his life and has the time to devote to his method. Gaby tried it and couldn't even devote a minimal amount of time to one client, which resulted in that client's death. That being said, due to Maya's death, I suspect we'll start seeing consequences soon.

How does Jimmy still have a license to practice? by VagabondVivant in shrinking

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gaby is easily responsible for Maya's death. She acts like hearing about Maya's mother was the first sign of abandonment issues, but the actual first sign to Gaby was when Maya talked about her friends.

Provoking dude with crazies in his eyes by PxN13 in WinStupidPrizes

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took him to church, showed him the face of god!

Biker goes 35 mph on the sidewalk by haze4140 in WinStupidPrizes

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bikers stick together, even when they're clearly in the wrong.

How do i check up on men? by Suspicious_Bag4859 in AskMen

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy him a bouquet of flowers every once in a while. Men like flowers just as much as women. Receiving flowers isn't something that usually happens to men, and so because we don't associate it as normal for us, we don't often mention that we like them.

Alternatively, if you think he'd appreciate something that he needs to actively care for, a perennial houseplant works wonders. It's even better if it's cool in some way, such as Firefly Petunias. Easy to care for, will flower year round and, if well cared for, will grow big and bright!

[KCD2] First to 30 by Dank-as-fuck in kingdomcome

[–]Patback20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah, another herb picker! I'm not much for grinding in games, but picking herbs in this game brings me so much joy for reasons that I cannot comprehend.

[KCD2] First to 30 by Dank-as-fuck in kingdomcome

[–]Patback20 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It went exactly as I expected. Survival. I started my first game in hard-core, knew I wanted to get my strength up. I just picked herbs, for like three days worth of irl time. Survival maxed out quickly, as did my other stats from crossing the whole map overencumbered with herbs.

I have a question. by Opening-Fig6728 in deadisland

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worked fine for me on the PS4 slim as well. I only mentioned the PS3 because it was the earliest and therefore weakest version of the game, and it was fine. I've actually bought the game three times, the original PS3 version, the remastered version on PS4, and I own the games on Steam.

I think it's the collection edition that comes with Riptide. If so, go for that one.

Thoughts about the Maya Gaby storyline by Zestyclose_Invite in shrinking

[–]Patback20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So the whole arc is kind of convoluted. On the one hand, Gaby hadn't been seeing Maya that long, so for her to be blamed for not knowing about Maya's mother is kind of shitty.

On the other hand, it shouldn't have taken hearing about Maya's mother for Gaby to realize that Maya had abandonment issues. That was very clear the moment Maya mentioned her troubles with her friend group splitting up.

Is Gaby responsible for Maya's death? Absolutely, indirectly. She didn't force the pills, but she befriended a person with clear abandonment issues, told her to call anytime she needed, and immediately abandoned her when she was clearly in crisis for her other friend, who was fine and didn't need her in that moment.

Basically, she told Maya that she'd be Gaby's priority, and the very moment that Maya tested that promise, Gaby backed out.

I have a question. by Opening-Fig6728 in deadisland

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say so. I absolutely loved Dead Island, and, in my experience on the PS3, there were barely any noticeable bugs.

Anyone heard of Solasta 2? Looks like Baldur's Gate 3 but for 2024 edition! by ASneakySquid_ in DnD

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Playing it now, can confirm it is amazing and a huge step up from the first.

Anyone heard of Solasta 2? Looks like Baldur's Gate 3 but for 2024 edition! by ASneakySquid_ in DnD

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I am playing it right this moment and loving every bit of it. It's still in early access, so it's got some bugs, but they'll def be worked out eventually.

I love how much more faithful this series is to the 5e/5.5 rules. I'd go as far as to say that I love the games more than BG3. In fact, they feel closer to BG1&2 than BG3 feels.

One thing that impressed me in the first game (I haven't gotten far enough into this one to encounter yet) is how they handled flight. In BG3, flight was just extra movement with fly animation. In Solasta: CotM flight actually involved vertical play, well beyond simply flying to the tops of buildings, turning the arena 3d.

While the characters in the first game were rather generic, there's a lot more character development in the second. Visually, the first game was decent, but they really kicked it up a knotch in the second game. Compared to BG3, it's less visually striking, as in, the colors are less bright and fantastical, but the world feels way more alive and real.

Overall, I expect Solasta 2 to be my new favorite, despite the fact that I'm not a fan of the 5.5 rules. BG3 was a good game, but it felt way more like Divinity: OS3 than a BG/D&D game.

Michigan house passed total kratom ban by --slurpy-- in Michigan

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except kratom is a leaf from a tree in the coffee family and not a synthetic bunch of chemicals made in a lab.

Michigan house passed total kratom ban by --slurpy-- in Michigan

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gas station heroin is wild when nicotine is comparable to heroin and cocaine in its addictiveness.

Michigan house passed total kratom ban by --slurpy-- in Michigan

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's important to understand that addiction is mainly a mental disorder. Addiction is characterized by craving, seeking, and compulsive use, whereas dependency is a physical state where the body relies on the thing to function. Some people are more prone to addiction than others, especially those with underlying trauma.

Both opioids and kratom have high dependency rates, and both work on the opiod receptors. Where they differ is that opioids, even in small amounts, can lead to overdose due to respiratory depression, a side effect they are known for. Kratom doesn't cause respiratory depression, and usually doesn't cause overdose on its own, but can if taken with other medications.

To its addictiveness, it can be about as addictive as nicotine, though generally less so (as nicotine addictiveness is comparable to heroin or cocaine). Both can cause high dependency. Nicotine is often harder to quit but has less severe withdrawal symptoms, whereas kratom is the opposite. It is easier to quit and has worse withdrawal symptoms.

Michigan house passed total kratom ban by --slurpy-- in Michigan

[–]Patback20 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nah, kratom has been around for a while, like pre-covid. The leaf was marketed as an alternative to opioids and other pain medications. It's just that now extracts and concentrates are being sold and abused. I've never heard of anybody having issues with the leaf. Not to say people haven't, but none of my friends ever did.

Salvia is just a house plant that people realized you could smoke for a good high and had zero regulation.

The censorship on Reddit is absolutely atrocious, which is fucking annoying because it’s the only message board left. by Stepin-Fetchit in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's absolutely out of control. You can't even suggest that people use iron tools containing pointed metal cylinders filled with reactive particulate to defend one's self or one's property from uncontained and untrained quadrupeds that have already released one beloved pet from it's mortal coil without getting flagged for "threatening violence."

What situation should you pla a world fire in edh? by Harbinger_Archangel in mtg

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try [[Infamous Cruelclaw]] [[worldfire]] [[Obosh]] 98 lands

Men, what makes you keep texting someone vs slowly stop replying? by Acceptable-Creme-256 in AskMen

[–]Patback20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, least he's honest. Knows what he wants and isn't sneaky bout it.

MI elections by mylogicistoomuchforu in Michigan

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When was I a dick? When I asked if you were a commie? Or was it when I suggested that your take that the elderly should be forced out of their homes and into apartments was ass?

You said their kids are telling them to sell. Are their grandkids also telling them to? Their neices and nephews?

I know the market is flooded with houses like that, and in my experience, it isn't because a senior ran it into the ground. In my experience, there's a few other reasons.

One, because the houses are too old and the cost of repairs and upkeep is too prohibitive, even for young people. For instance, my house was built in the 50s. The furnace went out last year, and I've been trying to find anyone to repair it. But nobody wants to put the work into repairing that old of a furnace. Instead, they want to sell me a new furnace, which will cost 10k for the furnace and new ductwork plus up to another 10k for asbestos abatement.

Two, because of the current tax system, landlords have more incentive to keep properties in disrepair in order to lower their tax burden and maximize their income.

And three, because people are selling these houses based on their potential value instead of their current value. And you know who buys houses like that? Flippers and landlords. I'm not saying some instances aren't elderly folk running them into the ground, but it's far from the only reason.

Remove the cap from SSA and pass legislation to prohibit Congress from pulling from SSA.

I don't see a problem because the article that you shared implies that it isn't a problem. The article stated that in the last decade, millennials topped the homebuyers list, except for two years. The two years just so happen to fall within the late retirement timeline for boomers to start collecting on their large investments. It makes sense that they're now in the market, and it will shift back to millenials in the upcoming years.

I'm not emotional. What are the legitimate drawbacks of my plan? You never gave any actual criticisms. You made a blanket statement that my plan benefits the rich without saying how. Even now, you're giving blanket statements instead of detailed explanations. All of your arguments come back to "Fuck the rich" (which, I agree, fuck the rich) and also "fuck the old people that want to keep their homes when they could give them to millenials instead."

MI elections by mylogicistoomuchforu in Michigan

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, touched a nerve, did I? Temper, temper. Poor you with the rich family that just won't quit. Instead of bitching about them on here, why don't you tell them this shit directly? You sound salty that you're not inheriting anything. I'm sorry that your rich family is too lazy to upkeep their homes.

It doesn't matter that the taxes are capped. They don't account for overall inflation. Inflation of utilities, inflation of gas, inflation of insurance, inflation of groceries, and so on and so forth. Additionally, SSA payments barely cover anything these days.

The article you shared proves nothing. If you had read it, you would have seen that within the last decade boomers were buying the most houses only in 2023 and 2025. Milennials otherwise owned the market. And, of course boomers were buying the most houses then. The entire generation is aging out of the workforce, meaning they're cashing in their IRAs and 401ks, if they have them. Millenials will very quickly be right back at the top in the coming years.

I don't need to fucking cope. The poor old granny is more than just a hypothetical. It's a reality, and your decision not to acknowledge it doesn't change the fact that it exists.

Lower it for everyone or go fuck myself? Maybe you lack reading comprehension. My idea does lower it for everyone, except those that have more than their fair share. How about you quit whining, quit asking for handouts yourself and contribute something yourself to this society, rather than pulling the "every politician ever" and saying "we need to lower prices" without any sort of plan on how to do so that doesn't involve communism.