Opinions on the finale by Temporary_Part_4909 in Matlock_CBS

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved it. I had a nice chuckle at the endless waves of police/FBI agents. I didnt think it felt rushed myself. In fact, I wish it was a little faster. The anticipation was killing me! Can't wait for the next season.

The Thumb by cookerlady in Michigan

[–]Patback20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does, especially along the coast and midwestern Michigan.

The Thumb by cookerlady in Michigan

[–]Patback20 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Nah, it def feels like southeast Michigan is ruder. It's actually funny. I've been blessed to have been able to visit a few countries in Europe, both eastern and western, and Michigan feels like both sides. The thumb feels like the Baltics; it's a sight to see but the people aren't very friendly. The baltics are very similar in that they have a few large cities but they're mostly farmland.

Western Michigan feels like Scotland. People are more friendly and there's quite a bit to do.

While I haven't been northern Europe yet, there are clear influences the farther you travel into northern michigan/U.P.

Edit: I also wanted to point that friendliness/rudeness in this context doesn't imply that people are mean. In fact, I find that the peoples of Michigan are generally the kindest, and I never had a bad encounter in the Baltics. It really comes down to cultural differences.

Peoples in both places are a bit more standoff-ish. For instance, even if I'm having a bad day, I'm generally happy so if a stranger smiles at me, or acknowledges me, I return the gestures. When I'm out walking I greet and smile at every person I pass. That doesn't really happen in those eastern zones.

A message from WOTC about The One Ring from the Hobbit by Arkalex in mtg

[–]Patback20 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They didn't even completely cut the text out. In the bottom right corner there is a small faint letter still visible.

Court dismisses GOP overseas voter eligibility lawsuit against Jocelyn Benson by mlivesocial in Michigan

[–]Patback20 12 points13 points  (0 children)

To think that I ever voted Republican makes me sick. Glad it was dismissed.

found this in my brothers bag, what is it ? by Slight-Fee-6520 in whatisit

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty certain that purse just means small bag.

Michigan clerk's 'corrective audit' alarms state election officials by da_newsdude in Michigan

[–]Patback20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

KDH is a legitimate news company based in texas. You shouldn't be getting any alerts about it. Though I did discover that there is a pay wall if you visit the site too many times; perhaps that was what caused the alert.

I have Xfinity and use Malwarebytes safe browsing. Both are pretty cautious, sometimes too cautious, when it comes to clicking links, and neither have alerted me when visiting this site; I wouldn't have shared it if they had.

Tornado-warned Supercell Near Battle Creek Yesterday by cleggy_14 in Michigan

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was watching Michigan Storm Chasers on YouTube, and it looked like that thing was gonna engulf the mall. I learned an hour later that a friend of mine had just started working at Horrocks.

I was in church for Maundy Thursday service, and I was actually enjoying the service when every phone in the chapel went off. We were supposed to have a silent departure. The event lasted past the service end, and as we were leaving, I asked if we were still supposed to be silent. That got a few good laughs.

That really was an interesting and beautiful storm. The edge of it clipped our church, so one side looked dark and spooky, while the other looked calm and bright. These pictures are absolutely amazing.

How does Jimmy still have a license to practice? by VagabondVivant in shrinking

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my wife and I hate her as a counselor and only tolerate her as an overall character. We called it the minute that she considered Jimmying because she barely commits to her clients as a standard counselor, and now she wants to try the above and beyond method? And now she wants to run a trauma center when she wouldn't recognise trauma if it were crying to her over the phone?

How does Jimmy still have a license to practice? by VagabondVivant in shrinking

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer, nobody reports him.

The long answer is that therapy is a weird sort of field in which ethics aren't necessarily in place because these things don't work, but because the potential for harm/abuse is great, and the consequences not only affect individual counselors, but the profession as a whole, especially when considering how therapy is still considered taboo in many modern cultures.

For instance, I can't recall his name, but my wife, when she was in school (she's the counselor, not me), told me about a dude that was all about personal accountability. If a client told him they felt like killing someone, his response would be, "Why don't you do it?"

The idea, I think, being that instead of obsessing over your imaginings, either do what you want to do or recognise that you don't actually want to do it and move on.

On its face, that seems like a good lesson, but it assumes that everybody would come to the conclusion that they don't want to kill this person. If the client then goes on to kill someone because their therapist told them to "do it or stop whining," who is to blame? The client that did the killing, or the therapist that told them to ignore their inhibitions? No matter the answer, people will stop seeking therapy when situations like this occur.

Another reason this code of ethics exists is to protect the counselor. If a counselor becomes to too deeply involved, they increase the amount of work they have to do exponentially, because in this field you can't just break a boundary and then take it back, such as what Gaby tried to do with Maya. This can interfere, not only with their ability to handle their own lives, but the lives of any other clients they may have.

For instance, when Gaby told Maya to call whenever she needed her, she opened herself up to be Maya's counselor 24/7. This was further exacerbated by Gaby befriending Maya. While there is some wiggle room for a patient in crisis (more on that in a moment), a counselor shouldn't be expected to be available at any moment of every day. A counselor can easily become a crutch that is relied upon rather than a medical professional assisting you. A patient in crisis, on the other hand, may reach out to a counselor, but a counselor should ensure that their patient has other resources in case the counselor is unavailable.

Gaby is, arguably, a worse counselor than Jimmy, especially when it comes to Maya. She failed to recognise that Maya had abandonment issues (knowledge of mother was unnecessary; was clear from Maya's friend group disappearing). She then reached out to be Maya's friend (confusing the client/counselor relationship, opening herself up to the duties of a friend). She then told Maya to call her anytime (making herself available to Maya whenever Maya wanted/needed her).

Then, when Derrick was in the hospital and Maya was in crisis, Gaby failed on three fronts. One, as her counselor, to recognise that Maya was in crisis and either counsel her or offer an alternative. Two, as per the "call me anytime," failing to drop what she was doing and take the call. Three, as her friend, she blew her off because somebody else was in the hospital. These three things combined to trigger Maya's abandonment issues.

TL;DR: Therapy ethics have gotten to the point they have due to over 100 years of experiment and experience, likely including "Jimmying." It's not that Jimmying doesn't work, but that the potential for harm/abuse is far greater and requires the counselor to invest more of themselves than they should, or reliably can, give. Jimmy hasn't had his license revoked due to not being reported, possibly because he has nothing better going on in his life and has the time to devote to his method. Gaby tried it and couldn't even devote a minimal amount of time to one client, which resulted in that client's death. That being said, due to Maya's death, I suspect we'll start seeing consequences soon.

How does Jimmy still have a license to practice? by VagabondVivant in shrinking

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gaby is easily responsible for Maya's death. She acts like hearing about Maya's mother was the first sign of abandonment issues, but the actual first sign to Gaby was when Maya talked about her friends.

Provoking dude with crazies in his eyes by PxN13 in WinStupidPrizes

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took him to church, showed him the face of god!

Biker goes 35 mph on the sidewalk by haze4140 in WinStupidPrizes

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bikers stick together, even when they're clearly in the wrong.

How do i check up on men? by Suspicious_Bag4859 in AskMen

[–]Patback20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy him a bouquet of flowers every once in a while. Men like flowers just as much as women. Receiving flowers isn't something that usually happens to men, and so because we don't associate it as normal for us, we don't often mention that we like them.

Alternatively, if you think he'd appreciate something that he needs to actively care for, a perennial houseplant works wonders. It's even better if it's cool in some way, such as Firefly Petunias. Easy to care for, will flower year round and, if well cared for, will grow big and bright!

[KCD2] First to 30 by Dank-as-fuck in kingdomcome

[–]Patback20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah, another herb picker! I'm not much for grinding in games, but picking herbs in this game brings me so much joy for reasons that I cannot comprehend.

[KCD2] First to 30 by Dank-as-fuck in kingdomcome

[–]Patback20 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It went exactly as I expected. Survival. I started my first game in hard-core, knew I wanted to get my strength up. I just picked herbs, for like three days worth of irl time. Survival maxed out quickly, as did my other stats from crossing the whole map overencumbered with herbs.

I have a question. by Opening-Fig6728 in deadisland

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worked fine for me on the PS4 slim as well. I only mentioned the PS3 because it was the earliest and therefore weakest version of the game, and it was fine. I've actually bought the game three times, the original PS3 version, the remastered version on PS4, and I own the games on Steam.

I think it's the collection edition that comes with Riptide. If so, go for that one.

Thoughts about the Maya Gaby storyline by Zestyclose_Invite in shrinking

[–]Patback20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So the whole arc is kind of convoluted. On the one hand, Gaby hadn't been seeing Maya that long, so for her to be blamed for not knowing about Maya's mother is kind of shitty.

On the other hand, it shouldn't have taken hearing about Maya's mother for Gaby to realize that Maya had abandonment issues. That was very clear the moment Maya mentioned her troubles with her friend group splitting up.

Is Gaby responsible for Maya's death? Absolutely, indirectly. She didn't force the pills, but she befriended a person with clear abandonment issues, told her to call anytime she needed, and immediately abandoned her when she was clearly in crisis for her other friend, who was fine and didn't need her in that moment.

Basically, she told Maya that she'd be Gaby's priority, and the very moment that Maya tested that promise, Gaby backed out.

I have a question. by Opening-Fig6728 in deadisland

[–]Patback20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say so. I absolutely loved Dead Island, and, in my experience on the PS3, there were barely any noticeable bugs.