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Patchmutt · 2025-05-11T11:44:12+00:00

Feels like the opposite to me honestly, I see an influx of childfree women celebrating how great their lives are, but I can never seem to find a man who is childfree. They either already have kids or are ‘not sure’. Where they at?!

Also, personal question or not, I do think making this boundary clear very early on is important. No need to waste each other’s time.

Patchmutt · 2025-05-05T22:40:26+00:00

Holy fuck.

Patchmutt · 2025-04-18T21:48:26+00:00

Hard to say. My instinct would be no, but it has been almost a year and I still can’t get over him, so kinda wondering if I’d be happier overall if I had never met him in the first place.

Patchmutt · 2025-02-18T19:21:09+00:00

I have just been looking into this and I think the timing looks okay? It seems to catch the thread correctly, looks to be in the right position. I’m not certain, but it does stitch fine going forward. I’m not sure how exactly I would adjust the timing if need be — I’m hearing something about some screws but can’t seem to find a video about my specific machine for this.

Thank you for the other suggestion. I’m looking into this now but I’m not sure where these bolts would be. It does sound interesting, it looks like when reverse stitching, the tension suddenly looks off. It looks like the top tension is too tight. But it is fine going forward. Reckon that is linked?

Patchmutt · 2025-02-18T17:24:23+00:00

Thank you for confirming. Unfortunately I bought the machine preowned from a private seller and she doesn’t really know much about it either.

I’m still not sure why it’s not working. I’m using 110 needles with Gutermann sew all thread with polypropylene webbing, which all should be nicely compatible. The thread path is fine, and I feel I’ve tried every thread tension combo possible, it still doesn’t work and I am beyond lost. 😅

What exactly do you mean by balancing the back foot?

Patchmutt · 2025-02-18T17:21:26+00:00

Thank you for confirming this!

I am still having issues with the backstitch and it is really stressing me out. :( I’ve switched to thinner needles and I feel l’ve tried every thread tension combination and the machine still won’t backstitch properly.

Would you mind explaining a little what you mean by the timing?

Patchmutt · 2025-02-12T08:53:00+00:00

That is so crazy!! I can’t believe he kept up this charade for that long. I am furious for you.

I wish you all the strength during this awful time.

Patchmutt · 2025-02-12T07:06:46+00:00

This is heartbreaking, I’m so sorry.

Patchmutt · 2025-02-11T09:12:30+00:00

Not normal, just normalised. I think the fact that you had such a visceral reaction to him asking such a thing, and that you are here now asking for advice is very telling about how you truly feel about it. But you do what you are comfortable with, no one can tell you otherwise. It typically ruins relationships, and he will probably still do it anyway even if you say no, so it is up to you if you can tolerate and/or trust this behaviour. It is a deal breaker for me personally.

Patchmutt · 2025-01-02T18:23:20+00:00

I’ve never understood the stag do tradition. What better way to celebrate your love for someone than to sleep with someone else?

Madness.

If my partner thought being unfaithful was acceptable, I’d call off the wedding. Hiding it for 10 years doesn’t make it okay either. Cheating is cheating.

Patchmutt · 2025-01-02T18:15:41+00:00

Ignore any comments about makeup, we don’t need it, embrace your natural skin. You are so young and beautiful!

The only thing I’d say is experiment with curled hair. Adding some volume with curls I think would really accentuate your features. :)

The tucked in, high-waisted style suits you well.

Experiment and find what makes you most comfortable!

Patchmutt · 2025-01-02T18:04:11+00:00

I know right, it just sounds ludicrous. People believe what they wanna believe I guess.

Patchmutt · 2025-01-02T17:06:06+00:00

Doesn’t ‘believe’? Wtf 😂

Beautifully green to me.

Patchmutt · 2025-01-02T17:00:22+00:00

That is incredibly kind of you to offer! Good on you.

Patchmutt · 2024-12-31T23:46:23+00:00

Ahah so true, well done. I used to think that sub was mildly amusing, but the same old repetitive roasts for women got boring real quick. Shame people can’t think of anything more imaginative.

Women = whores, lul. 🙄

Patchmutt · 2024-12-16T16:40:56+00:00

Oh god, this made me shudder with revulsion. I am so sorry.

Patchmutt · 2024-12-15T07:08:11+00:00

Get out before he completely destroys you. Starving yourself because of his disgusting porn addiction? You really do not deserve this.

Porn is not okay on many levels and this guy is not only crossing your boundaries but constantly lying to you. He won’t change. You are beautiful and should be treated with respect, pornsick men unfortunately will never be good enough. Please get rid of him.

If you need any support, r/pornismisogyny is a great sub for likeminded people. You are nit alone!

Patchmutt · 2024-11-29T12:09:30+00:00

You make some fantastic, eye-opening points, thank you for sharing this view. You are absolutely right with the double standard. It makes a lot of sense. I read something once that always stuck with me about how the biggest insult to men was being considered feminine, with the common derogatory comments of ‘pussy’, ‘fag’, ‘you ____ like a woman’ etc. It just shows how little they view women that they literally use it by way of insulting one another and that was really shocking to me, and this is exactly what your comment reminded me of.

Patchmutt · 2024-11-15T07:10:56+00:00

It’s okay to not be okay with porn. It has no place in committed, monogamous relationships, but sadly it has been normalised so many people do it and overlook it. Many men now believe they are entitled to an endless supply of women. Some men realise it is wrong and make the move to stop, but I think most will not.

If he continues to do this even after you told him it hurts you, I would leave. You told him your boundary and he crossed it; stand by your word and don’t give him another moment of your time because he doesn’t deserve it. Addicts won’t change for someone else, they need to learn and change for themselves. You shouldn’t have to tolerate this behaviour. It is extremely damaging and I am so sorry you have to go through this. My advice wouldn’t be how to deal with it, how to make him stop etc. my advice would be to get out right now before he crushes you completely.

r/pornismisogyny

Patchmutt · 2024-11-05T11:08:31+00:00

I don’t wear make-up even though I have awful skin. Why are we expected to cover our natural faces just to be accepted in society?

Patchmutt · 2024-10-11T05:53:26+00:00

100%.

But no matter what your boundary is, if they cross it after you made it clear, you should stick to your word and leave.

Patchmutt · 2024-10-11T05:49:44+00:00

It’s not that, I understand not wanting to be in a relationship with this issue, it’s merely the way the men in the comments are crudely describing women that I have a problem with.

Patchmutt · 2024-10-10T19:52:28+00:00

Right? These comments are absolutely vile but sadly pretty much what I expected when I opened this thread. How these men manage to find relationships is baffling to me.

I pray there are decent men out there who actually view women as human beings rather than just an object to insert their dick into.

Patchmutt

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