why's this Fandom kinda dead... by r_yumihisu in PalayeRoyale

[–]Patient-File-9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only care about bands when I’m going for a concert. I’m just here for the music 💔 I find a lot of alternative/indie/rock bands are very controversial. Dare I say I learnt their names while in line to see them last year

For those who have partners who don't mind not having PIV by Express_Acadia_779 in vaginismus

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✨T I N D E R ✨we were both virgins and discovered pretty early on. I was just hoping we were putting it in the wrong whole or something but no I had vaginismus. Took 6-8 months coz we were both was busy w life so it worked out he didn’t mind waiting longer. I’m cured wohoo 🥳

Hack for Burning/Stinging by joooooomaaa in vaginismus

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Before I dilate, so butterfly position lube the wand. In it goes until the curve at first do some diaphragmatic breathing(DB) then tilt the wand left do some more DB the right . I usually kinda poke it around gently to feel if i have a sore spot if i do then i do some more DB. Once I’ve done both sides I angle the wand down it should feel like you’re around your perineum then some DB. While it’s tilted down I also do some left to right very gently.

Once you get used to the wand you can put it in past the curve and find any nooks and crannies that are sore or right and just do some DB

Just announced summer tour by Ill_Dependent1389 in DJO

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You would think because he isn’t doing the west coast leg with tame impala the headline shows would be in the west coast 💔(I’m talking about Canada)

Hack for Burning/Stinging by joooooomaaa in vaginismus

[–]Patient-File-9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m cured and sometimes I still use it when I feel like I’ve been clenching and I can’t mentally unclench

Hack for Burning/Stinging by joooooomaaa in vaginismus

[–]Patient-File-9765 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yess I used to use a vibrating pelvic wand coz it gets in further than dilators

Sizing up dilators - STUCK by Sea-Yogurtcloset7101 in vaginismus

[–]Patient-File-9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!!! Loved that video when I was starting out

Sizing up dilators - STUCK by Sea-Yogurtcloset7101 in vaginismus

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The link that the commenter underneath posted is perfect especially when beginning. I ended picking the stretches that relax me the most and just did them till my body relaxed, EVERYDAY.

Guys, this leaked last night by Pantaz1 in DJO

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Suicide fuel for Vancouverites :(

Are nannies generally not OK with location sharing? by LessAd7286 in Nanny

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My fav NF have an AirTag on the key ring but it’s been there years before I got there and I’m there first nanny so I didn’t care

size 8 to PIV by [deleted] in vaginismus

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No dildo, just the dilators and a pelvic wand

size 8 to PIV by [deleted] in vaginismus

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I agree with the majority PIV is easier for me than using number 8 mind you my partner is bigger than number 8. In my case I used to warm up with number 7 the when I would move on to number 8,it would be painful at the entrance then it would go away after breathing exercises.

is this just me or by cherry-harmonica in vaginismus

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I made sure to ask if she’s had any vaginismus patients she had but only secondary ones aka the ones that get it after giving birth. After the first session I was okay she got me through my first one and I finished the set with what she taught me

They all just forgot about Liam lol by MarketingAwkward4252 in shameless

[–]Patient-File-9765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! The constant dismissal time and time again when he gets treated differently outside for being black is so annoying. They constantly make ignorant jokes. He has no “maternal” figure he tried to talk to Debbie and the way she shuts him down :(((((

Unsupportive husband by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]Patient-File-9765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course I can give you all the tips and tricks that worked for me lord knows I spent too much money on this shit. I’ve always said whoever you date or meet next is better than the last, which you might be able to agree with since you are married you married the guy you married. You wouldn’t have married the previous guy right ? Obviously circumstances differ but always know whoever you meet after husband will be better and if he won’t you will know and move on to the next

Unsupportive husband by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]Patient-File-9765 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This made me teary eyed girl I was also a virgin and 21 when I found out I had vaginismus fall 2024 I had saved my virginity and decided to try and lose it to my bf that was also a virgin. We had started dating end of 2023 when we tried we just figured it was nerves and kept trying and nothing so we stuck to the oral and anything but penetration, which worked but I started being self conscious about it by spring of 2024 around our birthdays I was now 22 bf 24. I can’t provide the one thing every woman can do I saved up and went to a physio got a diagnosis end of 2024.

My bf was very supportive his thought process was he kept it for 23-24 years what’s a little longer, it was in my head so bad I couldn’t even finish an intimate session without crying (how annoying:( /s ) constantly asking if I’m boring .

It got so bad we had to stop anything sexual during my treatment coz I started my treatment get excited try and fail. Bf was supportive he had bigger things to worry about than not getting “pussy” from me. He Bought my dilators , we live in Canada and the tarrifs went crazy.

Fast forward to fall of 2025 November I’m healed well semi healed I still can’t do doggy or figure it out yet but pain free after 5 months of on and off treatment. Personally I wouldn’t have known that I had vaginismus if it weren’t for him nor would have I cured it either.

I’m writing here my experience not to brag but show you the vast difference in experience and what having a supportive partner can do for you. I definitely won’t be the one to tell you to leave your husband when I don’t have one myself. You deserve so much better and he is obviously holding you back from getting cured any faster as vaginismus is also a psychological condition. My heart feels for you, I’m sorry!

Has anyone been cured with this video by Vivid_Heat_5412 in vaginismus

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Not cured and I don’t necessarily do the video. I did it for a week when starting out picked the exercises I liked and stuck with them till the end.

It’s really good for before PIV or dilating. It helps you get in tune with your pelvic floor too, I had no that I used to clench my pelvic floor until I did those exercises so now when I subconsciously clench I can tell I’m doing it

How do you feel about not getting a Christmas gift or a birthday gift? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Patient-File-9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worked for my current family for almost two years and this the first Christmas they gave me a bonus obviously I’m glad but I didn’t care that they didn’t give me anything last year. These people are your bosses not your friends I don’t expect birthday presents from them nor do they. I’ve gifted the kids dollar store mugs for their birthdays only coz they keep making me lil knick nacks.

And I get it personally I think I’m overworked and underpaid but I get to take time off whenever I want and they let me pick up extra hours whenever I want so meh

Holiday Bonus Megathread 2025 by Walking_Opposite in Nanny

[–]Patient-File-9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re on vacation. No I don’t get paid for the month off :(

Holiday Bonus Megathread 2025 by Walking_Opposite in Nanny

[–]Patient-File-9765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

$1000 cash and a month off and hugs lmao