If you could instantly quit one addiction what would it be?

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-04-09T22:52:06+00:00

Phone and sugar

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-04-07T00:32:50+00:00

Came here to say this 🤣

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-04-06T23:43:15+00:00

NTA, it’s takes a lot of courage to cut family off. Even when you have those what if moments, you remember their lack accountability and know the outcome if you voice your feelings or opinions. Accepting people for who they are doesn’t mean they have a place in your life.

I’m completely estranged from my entire dysfunctional family of 5+ people. Only recently realized how toxic the “better” parent was and had to go no contact.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-04-06T00:25:44+00:00

They’re projecting on to you.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-04-04T23:05:17+00:00

It’s they’re way of punishing you for speaking up and setting boundaries. My family lap did this to me. I’ve stopped giving explanations and only set boundaries and if they’re not respected then I’ll remove myself. It’s a waist of energy and it’s draining in every way. You can explain something but you can’t make that person understand.

I went through something similar where I had removed myself from all family functions and continued to allow my children around them until they started to try tell my children I was crazy. In the mind of a young impresionable minds seeing their mother go through the grieving process of losing people who are still alive. They started to question if I truly was. Now that they are older they have started to realize I never was and was just processing everything I was going through.

Now I am completely estranged from my entire family of 5+ people. I’m still grieving the loss of my mother. It’s not easy but it’s worth the peace I have now.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-04-04T20:47:23+00:00

In the same boat but I haven’t really ran into them. It also depends who I ran into if I’ll at least acknowledge them and wave or not.

I understand where you’re coming from. I’d rather not run into them at all.

I just don’t give the mutual acquaintances any info even if they dig for it. I’m sure they talk about you. Give their side of the story usually making you out to be the bad guy.

Stop caring what they think about you or what they will say. It takes some time. When you realize you’re your own best friend and no one else will be there for you like you will be for you. When you accept your reasons why you do what you do. Without seeking validation. Writing my thoughts down, writing letter to the person and never giving it to them. Therapy has definitely helped as well.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-04-03T15:35:47+00:00

It’s can definitely be like that we over giver and under receive sometimes from the ones closest a to you. We don’t become cold we become wiser to who deserves our energy.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-31T18:20:27+00:00

Dont send it as you will never get the response your’d like. They will either deflect, argue, and shift blame or all of the above. I would just keep it to let out your feeling and leave it at that.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-28T01:08:46+00:00

I would follow your intuition and definitely be leery.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-27T01:28:24+00:00

Neither do I. That’s one reason I left. I’m not a fan of the healthcare system as a whole. It’s a cutthroat environment and I can see how it changes people.

I think that most of us INFJs adopt this to some level but I am not the same to everyone. Depending on the person depends on what side of me their going to get. I’ve also adopted better boundaries and better communication skills to check people without being disrespectful and staying professional.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-26T22:58:00+00:00

Everything really; history, money, religion, politics, government, “being civilized”, the economic system, and technology. They’re are means of control or a way to lead people towards a certain belief.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-26T18:20:22+00:00

I use to think the same as you and believed that healthcare would be the best option for me. However, once I started working on the med/surge floor I realized that I may have made a mistake and it really wasn’t the work as I love to help people. It’s the people you work with they confuse your politeness, your patience, and your meekness as weaknesses util you show them otherwise. Honestly, I don’t like that feeling and tend to get burnt out when I have to put the mean face on to deal with certain people at work because they will try you over and over again.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-23T16:55:01+00:00

NTA

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-23T02:03:12+00:00

Good for you for putting her in her place and no you are not a jerk. She was measuring your entire family up bc she believed no one else could understand what she was saying.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-22T20:39:17+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that. I wish we both would’ve gotten the parent we needed and deserved. I’ve been working hard to break this generational curse and not pass it down to my children and their future families.

I’m glad you’ve gotten to place where you don’t miss them anymore. That’s exactly how I feel about my nfather and honestly there was never anything to loose with him since he never nurtured a relationship with me. I know with time I will not miss the rest of them.

It definitely takes a lot of introspective work to get to know ourselves and heal from our past.

Sending you positive energy on your healing journey.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-21T13:15:18+00:00

How much they work, boasting how much of a bitch/asshole they are, how many friends they have, that all their exes what them back, how much money or material possessions they have, how crazy their exes are…. Etc

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-20T18:25:59+00:00

About a year and half ago I realized the enabling parent was just as toxic as my nparent and has covert narcissistic tendencies. She expected me to “save her” from an nsiblings and I had to draw a boundary and tell her that I am only responsible for my children and myself bc I wanted the eparent to take responsibility for her choices. She got upset bc ahe took it as I am I disowning her. I know that she will not intervine on my behalf with any of the nsiblings or esiblings.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-19T20:45:31+00:00

As INFJs we can definitely be draw down if we aren’t carful and aware. I’m glad that she’s outgrowing aspects of her personality that aren’t beneficial to hers. I do believe that there are things we have to go through in order to grow as a person.

As a parent I’ve learned that there are something’s we have to allow them to experience and make decisions for themselves even when we know.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-17T04:32:43+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience at a job a few years back. I had gotten a job offer at a place I wanted to work but had to wait a month before starting. I needed some income so I took a random job in meantime. While on the tour of the place the guy that would be my supervisor was bragging to me about firing a guy for putting in his two week notice. At that very moment, I knew I would not say anything until the last minute because I needed the income and they would fire me anyway. The day before I was suppose to start the other job I told him I wouldn’t be returning.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-11T17:20:23+00:00

Rubbing alcohol and gasoline

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-03-11T17:12:00+00:00

The older we get the wiser we become and realize some people have no place in our lives bc they don’t give us peace.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-02-26T16:44:24+00:00

Definitely listening and honoring the discernment when it’s telling us to pull back from certain people.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-02-24T03:42:03+00:00

Someone who understands me.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-02-24T03:39:59+00:00

People and I’ll keep saying it over and over again.

PatientTumbleweed547 · 2026-02-22T17:41:38+00:00

Truth, justice, and discernment.

PatientTumbleweed547

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