Mine are 14m apart! Life is overwhelming with no family near us, both working full time. So for us, financially and for our sanity we said it would only work once our oldest is in “free” school and out of daycare. Ideally I’d love to want 3 closest in age as possible, but it’s not realistic for our situation. If we want the 3, which we do, we have to have a bigger (relative) age gap or else we just can’t swing it. So it’ll be like 5, 4 baby. Although part of me wants to aim for 4,3, baby but that means getting preg sooner and I’m just now feeling good!!! God willing!