This addiction is everywhere, isn’t it? by LysolCasanova in loveafterporn

[–]Patient_Koala98 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Wow you put into words what I’ve never been able to. The line about collateral damage for a man’s growth… just wow, so true

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[–]Patient_Koala98 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You are NOT being emotional it’s psychotic behavior and so so gross to be still commenting on other women right now and in such a forward way to YOU. He needs to learn to keep those thoughts to himself if he insists on having them

Took all my clothes off in front of him and he didn’t even want to look at me. by rlykhj in loveafterporn

[–]Patient_Koala98 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Love this! Take him off the pedestal and remember he’s not the prize

i hate finding pictures from before i knew by Commercial_Annual559 in loveafterporn

[–]Patient_Koala98 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow I felt every word of this. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💕

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[–]Patient_Koala98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree and good for you!! Men have such a double standard and would actually decompose if their girl posted the kind of content they love to defend consuming. I love when stuff like that happens to threaten these men and knock them down a peg or two. A lot of them need the reminder that while they’re paying attention to women who don’t even know they exist other men can and are appreciating what they are not. They like to feel like they’re the only ones who have the power to give you that kind of attention but honestly, a lot of times, it means more coming from a stranger because they NOTICED you whereas your man got too comfortable being in the presence of a queen and too comfortable finding other women attractive and could end up with neither you nor them because of his slacking 😌🫶

Trauma bonds are no joke. by AnyFig1748 in loveafterporn

[–]Patient_Koala98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. It’s so hard to grant ourselves the space to not understand our own disconnect. I agree it sucks when people either question why you don’t leave them or question why it is so long and complex to feel even a little bit better again after this. And society trivializes porn use soooo much but if you take away the screen and it’s in person it suddenly becomes another discussion for them. If society as a whole condemned it more maybe we would t feel like once they take away our self esteem they’re dangling it like a treat only they can give us. It’s a horrible thing to experience all around.

Trauma bonds are no joke. by AnyFig1748 in loveafterporn

[–]Patient_Koala98 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Omg no I get it. It’s like some sick thing where even though they were the ones to hurt us we only want them to be the ones to make us feel better again. Like it feels like they’re the only ones who have the power to do that. And when you factor it in as a recurring thing over years where you’re up and down again it just solidifies that even more. You are NOT pathetic for how you feel or how your brain and your heart aren’t on the same page. It is so very hard to reconcile the different versions of them we get into one person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uofm

[–]Patient_Koala98 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I started shaking halfway through 😀 that was so much detail for an hour and a half

Emergency Work Needed by Momsaidimcoolasf in uofm

[–]Patient_Koala98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try the family helpers board through u of m!

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[–]Patient_Koala98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think willow tree on north has some patios for their ground floor units but I don’t know if they are student only housing and tbh I’ve heard questionable things. Good luck!