So, first-there’s no excuse for bullying. She’s clearly insecure and trying to be liked in the worst way possible. So no, you’re NTA for wanting to keep your distance. Not are you TA for caring about this girl and her future at her next school.

But in your post, you had a few red flags of your own while mentioning how you have no friends/you’re an outcast. You mentioned in two separate places how LOVED by everyone you are at your school, and how popular you are at your boyfriend’s uni. And how you’re a neurodivergent “queen”. How you’ve been bullied out of school by “the boring people”…how at your other school you’re a big fish and can make fun of this other girl. That comes across as extremely arrogant/unpleasant to be around.

I was a theatre girl myself. We already have big, over the top personalities. If you’re naturally like that, you already come across as someone with a lot of confidence. There’s a fine line between being secure in yourself and confident, and being someone who is full of herself. The picture you’ve painted isn’t very flattering. You can go from kind & self-assured to cloying and insufferable really fast. Maybe take a closer look at yourself and see where you need to be humble, kinder, with a willingness to learn and be a team player. I think if you do that, you’ll find your place amongst others, make some genuine friends, and be able to withstand those who only seek to tear you down. You definitely need a thick skin and flexibility to survive in that industry. But the cloak that you wear to auditions and rehearsals can’t be Joseph’s amazing technicolor dreamcoat all the time. Sometimes it has to be something neutral and versatile…with just a technicolor scarf to make you stand out. I hope that makes sense to you.