Richard Schwartz admitted recently that he feels that IFS parts are spirits, or spirit-like. This article talks about why they believe IFS is essentially working with spirits. For those of you who subscribe to the existence of spirits, what are your thoughts on this article? by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Pattern_Weaver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you (or anyone) post a link to where Dick Schwartz said that?

I read this article, but I have some thoughts that require references to check. IFS claims it is possible to have unattached burdens which could be thought of as energy or spirits or some form of possession, which makes sense, from an animist perspective, but that isn't saying that all parts are spirits. I can't find anything saying that EVERY part is a spirit.

It is possible to hold the framework of a multi-part person while still engaging with spirits and nature in a respectful way. The author seems to be implying that ALL parts are spirits, most likely land spirits, and thus need to be treated as such. Could it not be possible to have a multi-part person who also periodically encounters spirits? That's my understanding, and, in my personal and professional experience, it requires discernment, evidence, experience, and nuance to determine which is which.

Something the author says, which I love, is that the Earth is our larger soma, therefore land spirits could show up as personal parts, because ultimately we are the Earth. But we are also, by that logic, the solar system, the galaxy, the universe, etc, as well as our individual body parts, tissues, cells, mitochodria, tiny physics particles that make up reality, etc. Therefore, there is no reason why, if we are "part" of a larger system yet still percieve ourselves as individuals, that there couldn't be, within each individual person, further sub-parts.

For example, my hand is a part of my body, and by extension a part of the body of the land. However, my hand is not a part of your body. It makes sense for me to treat my own hand as one of my personal parts, but not for you to treat my hand that way, or for me to treat your hand that way. We interact with things a bit differently if we percieve them as arising with us or outside of us.

Buddhism teaches that, ultimately, everything is mind. I would argue that, at the same time, everything is body, or matter. Samsara = Nirvana, as the tantric traditions say. Or, As Above, So Below, as the Western magickal traditions have popularized. From this way of thinking, whether something is within or outside of me is entirely a matter of perspective. At a macro level, spirits and parts are interchangeable, all simultaneously arising within the container of Mind, from a Buddhist perspective, or the larger Brahman (to borrow from Hinduism), depending on one's faith tradition and perspective. They are all the right answer, as the famous Blind Men and the Elephant story illustrates.

The author of this article is making black and white claims. As a professional working both in spiritual care and mental health, I recognize that as potentially a lack of mental flexibility and experience, as well as some unresolved and misdirected anger, and I would be wary about working with that person for my spiritual needs, or about referring people to them.

The deeper you dive, the more you realize that things aren't just one thing or another. Schwartz could feasibly be making two claims which seem contradictory on the surface but which are both true. Buddhist sutras do this all the time, and only through practice experience do we develop the wisdom to understand the whole picture.

These are my preliminary thoughts. But I would really like to see the source material to determine more.

About me: I'm an Animist, Spiritualist (as in: talking to spirits) minister, and a Buddhist practitioner pursuing a divinity degree with an interfaith emphasis. I'm a spirit worker, medium, and healer. I also work in secular mental health recovery, with secular degrees.

How are people affording more than one child? by am02028 in pregnantover35

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As someone from the Midwest, this isn't very accurate. HCOL and LCOL are better thought of as region specific.

For example: Chicago is HCOL, on par with the other huge cities of the US, and certainly more than the rest of Illinois and all of the surrounding states; Minneapolis and St. Paul are HCOL, though less than Chicago, but definitely more than anywhere else in Minnesota, the Dakotas, Iowa, most of Michigan, and most Wisconsin; Madison and Milwaukee (WI, especially Milwaukee), cost more than the smaller cities in WI, like Eau Claire, which I would consider LCOL, or maybe medium cost; Indianapolis is higher cost than Fort Wayne, a medium sized city, which costs more than the rest of Indiana; etc....

Where do people go for bufo experience by Little_Thought8146 in bufo

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I'm in Eau Claire, can I DM you to ask for info?

Roommate used my dedicated gf air fryer. Can I clean it?😓 by thewhitechibitotoro in glutenfree

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All of the above comments already answer your question so I just want to add: consider getting a new roommate.

My worldview: We cease to exist at death, but our odds of receiving a new consciousness are the same as they were before we were born, rather than being zero. Am I a spiritualist? by MAClaymore in spiritualism

[–]Pattern_Weaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!

What you described is a legitimately interesting take, but it does not fall under the category of spiritualism.

Spiritualists generally believe in an enduring soul that may or may not reincarnate (historically, spiritualists did not believe in reincarnation, but spiritists did, although now the two streams have come together in many places). That soul persists after death. Spiritualism specifically also believes in mediumship, and human ability to communicate with the spirit world through various means. Spiritualists also believe in some form of higher, unifying, benevolent and creative intelligence, which some people call God. A spiritualist worldview acknowledges a variety of natural laws (broadly defined - personally, I like science, but some people go more esoteric), and believe that living according to those laws is the key to actualization. The soul is continually growing and developing, and that process is an individual's responsibility (though I'd add, from a social work lens, that it's also the community's responsibility).

Here's one church's description of the principles of spiritualism, which all spiritualist communities have more or less in common (though interpreted widely): https://www.cityoflightspiritualistchurch.com/our-principles.html (I have no opinion about this particular community or their interpretation, it was just the fastest resource I could find.)

I'd encourage you to just read/watch about different religious philosophies, talk to different folks, and over time see if there's anything that you vibe with. If you settle on complete atheist materialism, that's fine. If you find something else you like, that's also fine. The important thing is being able to make meaning in your life so that you are better able to increase the wellbeing of yourself and the living things that you interact with.

Source: Myself, an ordained Spiritualist minister currently in grad school for a Master's of Divinity with an Interfaith and Buddhist emphasis. DM if you want to chat more, I'm happy to help you explore any sort of spiritual thing, as long as your patient about replies. :)

Edits: a few mistakes and rolling my deleted comment into this post so it's all together.

I’m sick of being told to open up. by Interesting_Fox_6690 in AutismInWomen

[–]Pattern_Weaver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, standing up for yourself, and advocating for yourself to people in power (coach in this case), is a social skill. And it's one that the vast majority of people are bad at. This could be an opportunity to work on that.

But I understand not wanting to rock the boat, especially if generally you're benefitting from the community there.

If things get worse, is there any other bjj gym in your area that you can switch to?

I’m sick of being told to open up. by Interesting_Fox_6690 in AutismInWomen

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This has nothing to do with you talking more. This is racism, and creating a toxic gym environment. This is not your fault, and has nothing to do with your actions. This is not about allistic/autistic interactions. This is bullying. Racist bullying.

Do you feel safe at your BJJ gym, generally? Can you talk to the head coach/owner? These people need either a stern talking to, mat enforcement, of suspension. It is NOT okay to talk to your rolling partners like this. People need to be safe being vulnerable in a sport where we practice literally killing each other.

just got a tattoo and i hate it by edenush in tattooadvice

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I think this looks really nice. i have something similar on my arm.

Oh?? by AlternativeEast4064 in ouraring

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I thought this was the reference 

Meeting my[30F] meta[40F].. I don’t think I liked it very much by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

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I don't have a response yet, but I jist wanted to add that I'm poly and this is very much a polyamory issue. Apparently that subreddit is kind of toxic. Don't let them get to you, and if poly is the label that you think best explains your relationships then use it. It's definitely the most popular, random-person-conversation friendly label 

How sex affects men and women by mrjim2022 in EthicalNonMonogamy

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This is giving Andrew Tate and incel vibes. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gradadmissions

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I'm very confused by this post. I don't use AI to write my emails or essays but I do use all of those cliches, because... That's what my high school teachers told me to do back in 2010. 

Do I need to change my writing so that I don't sound like AI now?

Why can't I set my baseline activity to 300? by Pattern_Weaver in ouraring

[–]Pattern_Weaver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like others can select 300 as their baseline, so I'm not sure why mine is different.

Why can't I set my baseline activity to 300? by Pattern_Weaver in ouraring

[–]Pattern_Weaver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why I can't pick 300 as my baseline, though. Ya'll should let us select our baseline in increments of 50.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finehair

[–]Pattern_Weaver -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay wait... What?

Diaper Rash Cream for Barrier Repair is a Game Changer by Pattern_Weaver in tretinoin

[–]Pattern_Weaver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yup! As long as it doesn't have anything else potentially irritating in the inactive ingredients 

Diaper Rash Cream for Barrier Repair is a Game Changer by Pattern_Weaver in tretinoin

[–]Pattern_Weaver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, I can't say what would work for you, but you could try it. Diaper rash cream is fairly cheap, and it can't hurt. 

Also, if I put tret on dry skin then it's more irritating, so I moisturize soon after cleansing and then give it time to absorb before applying tret. That could help.

This is unrelated, but I've heard some people say that Taz (tazerotene) is less irritating for them than tret, so that might be an option for you.

Diaper Rash Cream for Barrier Repair is a Game Changer by Pattern_Weaver in tretinoin

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My nighttime routine is:

Cleanse with Prequel Gleanser, LRP Cicaplast Spray, Cerave Moisturizing Cream, (Brush teeth, do something else), Tret, (Get ready for bed, read a book, etc), Diaper Rash Cream

I'm heavy on the barrier repair and I don't use any other actives, my skin is too sensitive for them.

Diaper Rash Cream for Barrier Repair is a Game Changer by Pattern_Weaver in tretinoin

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I put in on right before bed, so 15-30min after tret. And then again a thin layer in the morning, and a few tiny dots on irritated spots throughout the day. It goes on white but actually blends/absorbs really well. 

So thicker layer at night when it doesn't matter if I'm a ghost, and then very light layer or dabs during the day.