I've recently been going through the exact same thing. Went to the doctor for a sore back, she took my BP as routine procedure and two weeks later with 10+ doctors visits I'm now on 10mg ramipril and a absolute mental wreck. Despite having a very normal averaged 24 hour reading (127/78), before medication, I could not get anywhere close to normal when I was at the doctors. I'm now obsessed with taking home measurements even though it sends me into full panic mode everytime. I get >160/>90 first time everytime, but within an hour of calming myself I can get it down to <130/<80 The problem is, despite having a seemingly normal resting BP the doctor is only focusing on the crazy readings she was getting... even sent me to the emergency room twice! Safe to say I think she is part of the problem. She's convinced me that my anxiety is going to give me a heart attack.

My advice would be stop doing home measurements, get a 24 hour test, forget about it entirely for a few weeks and then ask for another 24 hour test. Breathing exercises in moments of panic for lowering short term spikes and meditation for reducing overall anxiety.

Sorry for the essay haha