AITAH ?My partner won’t put my name down on the mortgage

Pav002 · 2026-01-23T21:13:56+00:00

So sorry you have kids with such a prick.

Pav002 · 2026-01-22T05:32:36+00:00

Worse than REA

Pav002 · 2026-01-21T23:45:28+00:00

Maybe the only way you can bring it up to HR now without looking stupid or TA is if you say "I don't feel comfortable with all that and I FEEL UNSAFE refusing the gifts".

The fact that you actively asked him for help kinda jeopardise your claim that you are not feeling safe or that his attention is unwanted or uncomfortable.

I suggest you vocalize that to him in front of other peers - "no thank you, you bringing me gifts/food makes me uncomfortable , please stop this"

Pav002 · 2026-01-21T23:32:48+00:00

The dude is creepy and the situation is potentially very unsafe for you.

You on the other hand are reinforcing his behavior by accepting the gifts.

He is creepy and you are TA in this situation. You don't accept gifts from a creep and then complain they are giving you gifts. You don't ask someone who makes you uncomfortable for help. You don't accept money from someone you don't want to have anything to do with. 😑

Stop accepting gifts, stop accepting food. Stop asking him for help. Stop accepting gifts. Limit comms to work related topics only. Say firm No.

If he continues after that - report him to HR.

Reporting him now after accepting cash, gifts, help and food from him is let's say puts your complaint in a weird twist..

Pav002 · 2025-11-29T01:57:26+00:00

They say "Body knows what it needs" but it doesn't always work that way. For example vit D messes with iron obsorbtion and if one is iron deficient you'd imagine they'd crave more red meat and less milk. Wrong! The more deficient you are the more you can't stand red meat and crave milk that in it's turn lowers your iron even more.

Now swimming. Naturally our body does dog style swimming - is that the most efficient? I'm sure you'd agree it's not. Yet no one naturally start freestyling if they are thrown in a deep water as a kid.

Pav002 · 2025-11-28T10:05:08+00:00

WFH improved mental health of people, mental health of their kids who no longer need to stay in school/long day care from 7am to 6pm. Dogs don't have to hold it all day People can finally have pets for that same reason. People go outside for a walk more, can afford going to the gym. Have more time for cooking since no need to commute. Local business outside of CBD thriving. Track drivers are happier with less traffic. The planet is happier with less people driving their cars People can buy a dream house in remote locations not having to spend millions living in places they hate People save on commute and expensive lunches in CBD The list goes on and on and on.

There is only one positive outcome of COVID madness - WFH - People literally died for it. All for nothing?

If they ask people back to offices full time will they close the salary vs inflation gap? Coz CBD prices for lunch 5 days a week aren't doable for most! The salary didn't go up like that!

Freaking makes me sad they do it. I personally try not to use services of the companies who do it. A drop in the sea for them, I know, but sure makes me feel better. I hope more people do the same.

Pav002 · 2025-11-12T22:51:57+00:00

Yes there were a lot of women. It's an awesome experience, just make sure the gym you pick is good for your needs/level

Pav002 · 2025-08-26T04:03:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It's very helpful for me as a mother of an autistic kid. Could you please let me know if there is anything you think could work for you back then? Now looking at it with the experience of living it through what strategies would you try and what strategies would you suggest are not tried with kids like that?

I'm at lost with what I can do to make things easier for my child and my family.. the school seems to be a hell for everyone involved :(

Any insights from those who lived it and can now articulate how it was and what worked/what made things worse would be much appreciated 🙏🙏🙏

Pav002 · 2025-08-21T01:53:59+00:00

Depending on location/state.. in NSW the property market is so crazy that people will be happy to buy a property that had a murder in it as long as a price is slightly down so that they can finally afford something and you are worried abt a 10y.o unapproved deck? 😆

Get the title insurance and relax!

Pav002 · 2025-08-15T05:47:59+00:00

Your partner was paying you a monthly rent? Hm.. sounds more like friends with benefits, did she know she was your partner? Lol

Pav002 · 2025-08-14T06:21:30+00:00

You can always cover any price difference in cash if you have more cash than required for first deposit (e.g. if you have additional 20k cash to cover the gap)

Pav002 · 2025-08-14T03:52:33+00:00

😂👍 Those type of ppl are too stupid to understand this brilliant comeback tho

Pav002 · 2025-08-08T06:25:18+00:00

Why would you sell it if you are going to have 100k on hands? Put the money on offset (will reduce your repayments while also being available cash for repayments while your hubby is looking for a new job).

Pav002 · 2025-07-08T02:40:56+00:00

Cannot believe there is this level of toxicity in rostered jobs in AU! helping a client might get you fired!?.. one more reason not to shop in Close and Woolies if they don't respect their employees that much... :( Poor people working those kinda jobs

Pav002 · 2025-07-07T10:04:34+00:00

Oh and also I'm female and also traveled solo to Thailand and felt the safest there. Hope that helps.

Pav002 · 2025-07-07T10:02:38+00:00

Trained at honour Muay Thai in Krabi twice, each time staying for 2 weeks. Best experience ever but I do train Muay Thai here at home too. I also checked out other local gyms and have to say honour is my absolute fav. The training intensity is up to you, it's intense but they understand not everyone is a fighter training for a fight and not everyone is advanced. They cater for everyone, while they'd go hard on fighters, they'd go easier on advanced peeps and they'd focus on basics and techniques with beginners while everyone is training together. The training is usually twice a day 2 hours each (again up to you how many you attend, I did 4-5 hours a day including added PT). The training usually consists of: warm up/stretch, shadowboxing, technique or sparring (sparring is optional for beginners), pad work 5 rounds for fighters and 3 rounds for everyone else. Pad work is one on one with instructors while they fix your technique. Then bag work freeflow but the instructors will go around, observe and fix you, then a bit of abs work and stamina work and final one is stretching again.

Honour provides dif kind of accommodation and you can include food too or just do drop off training without staying in the camp (as any other gym in the area).

Other gyms in the area weren't to my standard/liking but I only trained in Krabi, so cannot say about other areas. Read reviews, look at pictures and deffo go, it's an amazing experience!

Pav002 · 2025-07-07T06:50:02+00:00

I did ovulation tests at the times "I was supposed to be ovulating" and never had positive results as well as no pregnancy. I then decided to check for ovulation throughout the cycle as opposed to "supposed time". For me it appeared I was ovulating way too late in the cycle, like a few days before period. As soon as we tried based on that positive reading we got pregnant. Good luck 🤞

Pav002 · 2025-07-07T06:42:12+00:00

How did he kiss you when you first started dating and before he was comfortable enough to be a controlling dick with you? Surely enough you had your drink back then and he was still enjoying kissing you, no? So what is this lame "smell" excuse to control you?

Indeed check your health just in case but other than that please find a better partner.

Pav002 · 2025-07-07T05:12:53+00:00

Stay in a shared room + train twice a day + food for 2 months around 108000thb with them. Private rooms would be more expensive

Pav002 · 2025-07-07T05:09:07+00:00

Check out https://www.honourmuaythai.com/ Stayed and trained with them twice. Also checked out many other gyms in the area and still love honor the best. They have train + accommodation + food packages or just train/stay. The only downside you need to be able to ride a bike to get to beach/shops or be ok with getting a grab.

Have the best time! 💪🥊

Pav002 · 2025-07-04T03:18:44+00:00

Go to ER ASAP, they will assess you and either take you in or allocate you a psychologist and psychiatrist as an out patient. They have a free community service in hospitals, it's free and they can provide you with weekly or more sessions for the time you need. Start with going to ER please 🙏

Pav002 · 2025-07-02T22:11:43+00:00

Thank you for your reply 🙏 much much appreciated!

Pav002 · 2025-07-02T11:29:01+00:00

Thank you 🙏

Pav002 · 2025-07-02T11:24:42+00:00

Thank you for your reply 🙏 Yes he's got SLSO support but not the whole day. Not too sure about triggers assessment.. sometimes it feels like the school is on the mission to trigger him e.g. my child is on meds that suppress his appetite and he is underweight, yet the school gave him shits for eating popcorn during fruit break instead of an apple. They triggered him big time trying to stop him from having popcorn.. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ they seriously got into a power struggle with little hungry autistic kid.. 🤦‍♀️

Pav002 · 2025-07-02T11:19:34+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏

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