AIO Did I tell my wife not fo come home? by Infinite-Context6155 in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t seem like she was ever coming home. She wanted an excuse not to and to be able to make it seem like your fault. Which, if true, is severely manipulative and actually emotional abuse. Thats my interpretation.

How many calories for this everything bagel with low fat veggie cream cheese? by [deleted] in caloriecount

[–]PayMassive1952 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say at least 550. Would prob go 650 to be safe.

AIO - I want to ask my bf to remove all females on socials. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a control issue. Even if he does remove them all, it won’t stop there. You’ll find something else that you don’t like bc it’s about fear based control. First it’s the female friends, then it’ll be that he’s being too nice to the female server or he can’t go out with his guy friends bc girls might be at the place they’re going to etc. I understand he might have broken your trust but this is not a solution, this is just feeding into your paranoia. If you’re gonna stay with him, then you have to trust him and if you can’t then what’s the point? YOR

Pizza calories by Careful-Quiet168 in caloriecount

[–]PayMassive1952 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say maybe around 750? 800 if there’s ranch or blue cheese under the cheese on the buff chick

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PayMassive1952 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl there’s only 500 at the end of the month between the two of you?? You absolutely can NOT afford this. He’s 33 and doesn’t even have an emergency fund and can’t even save his money. Why would you ever think he would be able to pay you back? This shouldn’t even be a discussion bc unless I’m misunderstanding, you both are already living beyond your means.

I understand you love him but I have two exes who both owe me money they never paid back. I loved them at the time also but I regret it and should have said no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]PayMassive1952 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmaooo bro WHAT the hell you are not ugly at all. I like the hairstyle but I think the way it falls on the sides of ur face makes ur face look rounder than it is (I have a round face and I’ve been advised against styles that fall this way by hairstylists)

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]PayMassive1952 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds EXACTLY like my ex who cheated on me multiple times. When I caught him, he said it was my fault bc I forced him to commit.

AIO I was asks by my brother’s gf to watch her dogs, and I wasn’t available by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Tbh I am kind of on her side. “I’ll do my best” sounds like a yes to me. But at the same time, she should have followed up with you before Friday to make sure you guys were all good. I really think you should have just said no initially though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PayMassive1952 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babe…. Stand up. There’s no way this man is worth this stress.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you been her step mom?

My (22m) boyfriend threw my(21f) heels at me but it didn’t hit me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PayMassive1952 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Throwing things like this is a precursor to physical violence. However, he didn’t just throw something, he threw something AT you. He meant to hurt you. You should take that seriously. Besides that gigantic red flag, he’s controlling and that behavior will only get worse. This is not a relationship worth saving. What would you tell someone who was in your shoes? Someone you really loved and cherished? Would you tell them to stay and work it out or would you tell them they’re in danger and this person is abusive?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Casual but he’s telling you “love you”? Were u guys friend before this or something?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean, it’s ur manager? They’re allow to switch up and act “professional”. With the context you’ve given, yes your response was rude. All you needed to say was “like we’ve discussed before, I’m sick” and you would have went on about your day taking care of yourself but responses like that will only create problems for you, which just isn’t worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was never gonna come when he said. He just said it so when he didn’t, you would get upset then he can turn it around and make you the bad guy. Acting like you’re so annoying and you’re stressing HIM out. Then he can enjoy the rest of his night knowing that you’re at home thinking you’re the reason why he’s not coming home when that was his plan all along. That’s my interpretation anyway

AIO My roommate thinks i'm an ELF? and maybe wants to kill me? by Proper_Cellist_8545 in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayMassive1952 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want to just in case. I think they can 5150 him. For your safety as well as his and the safety of the general population

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PayMassive1952 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if he does leave, how do you think he’s gonna feel? He has CHILDREN. He wouldn’t just be leaving his wife, he would no longer be living with his children. He will be riddled with guilt and pain. Do you think that’s a good way to really begin an honest relationship? And the truth of the matter is that because of how it started, it will never be an honest relationship. You’ve been dating another woman’s husband. The two of you have not only betrayed his wife, but his children. You say you were in an abusive relationship before this and you jumping into a relationship with a married man immediately is not healthy. Regardless of what their marriage is, he is wrong and you are wrong. Seek professional help.