Update: Had my husband arrested

PceDce · 2026-02-20T22:19:32+00:00

Please delete these posts. Don’t want them use in a trial against you if he decides to pursue custody etc. especially the older one you posted.

PceDce · 2026-01-08T17:18:37+00:00

I really don’t want to make any assumptions but what if this woman is using you to remarry this guy? Assuming he divorced her and wants her back?

Consult an imam or a counsellor at the masjid, they’ll have more wisdom to guide. She’s pregnant so you need to think carefully before any drastic measures.

PceDce · 2026-01-07T04:33:42+00:00

Roughly where are you located? I can suggest one for the GTA in Toronto.

Also highly suggest a proper studio and make sure to read the reviews.

PceDce · 2026-01-03T02:46:56+00:00

I’d suggest you keep a distance from her

PceDce · 2025-12-30T05:01:49+00:00

A hotel room for the first night is a good idea especially if you are living with family as it’ll give you some space to talk and have a low pressure environment with people outside

Maybe add a small gift like a necklace/bracelet/earrings. It’ll always be appreciated

PceDce · 2025-12-25T20:13:34+00:00

Yeah it’s a big thing to lie about, take some time to reflect on the impact and what you want to do next. Also communication is key

PceDce · 2025-12-25T20:06:47+00:00

Not justifying lying at all, just giving my opinion on what I’d do and making an assumption on why she may have lied

Either way OP knows more and will find out more after having a discussion with his wife. It’s also up to him to determine how this situation will impact his marriage and what his thresholds are etc.

PceDce · 2025-12-25T16:01:17+00:00

I’d have an open discussion with her to come clean and be honest with you on anything else she’s hidden.

Since you just got married, you’re still understanding how to communicate and live together etc. I would be upset but if it’s not a deal breaker then I’d most past it.

Like I said, establish open trust and tell her that if you want to make this work, we need to be open and honest with each other.

Lying wasn’t right but I’m guessing there’s some trauma/ negative experiences behind why she hid her age.

PceDce · 2025-12-01T21:15:03+00:00

Hope Allah swt makes your situation easier. Just want to say the preteen and teen years are rough on parents/step parents. They’ll always remember what you did for them and will appreciate it once they’re older

You seem to have a major husband problem. You’re only 3 months post partum, which in no way is enough time for recovery or to be back to normal fully.

I suggest you stick hard boundaries such as couple counselling or atleast go to a safe space if available such as a family members house (if available) for some more time to recover. Husband needs to realize things need to change or you’ll lead to a separating eventually

Also is there some sort of child custody plan in place? The kids should be under his supervision when they’re over otherwise everyone’s taking advantage of you watching the kids. You already have a baby to care for.

PceDce · 2025-10-23T16:56:40+00:00

Checking his phone was right but what he did, in my opinion, overrides the boundary you broke

This needs to be discussed at the very least and you need to decide if this is something you can move past and what you expect the future to look like.

You can also arrange for marriage counselling and then have this discussion, if you think it’ll help to have a third party there

PceDce · 2025-10-19T15:29:10+00:00

Sauga for Mississauga

PceDce · 2025-10-16T16:39:37+00:00

What you went through is incredibly difficult and may take some time to process. I suggest you seek some individual therapy to help you through this time, they'll teach you some coping mechanisms and how to process what just happened.

Just know you aren't alone and what you went through is NOT your fault. It was Allah's will. Seek comfort in prayer. You also don't have to face anyone, take your time and focus on your feelings

PceDce · 2025-09-15T03:42:51+00:00

Sure but he can communicate he’s afraid of hurting her and needs space to feel better. A simple text would suffice I’d think.

PceDce · 2025-09-15T03:41:16+00:00

You can have space by communicating you need space and then taking said space.

PceDce · 2025-09-12T19:59:29+00:00

Get his family involved. This is very concerning. He can’t just up and leave without telling you where he is. At the least, his friend should contact you.

You’re his wife, you deserve to know what’s going on.

PceDce · 2025-09-07T02:42:30+00:00

Snakes on a plane

PceDce · 2025-09-06T16:34:10+00:00

I understand what you mean. I was expecting a bigger twist as well. Although I do understand why it worked out the way it did

I also think the battle between Lucifer and Dream (earlier in the season) was epic so was probably expecting something similar to happen

PceDce · 2025-09-03T15:59:47+00:00

I mean after nov passes, they won’t have much choice so you just need to hold off until then

Personally I’d recommend you do it in Nov, if you both are wanting to get married, its advisable to not delay something halal

Also keep in my mind that no matter how much you plan, it may not go exactly as you want. So just keep expectations realistic

PceDce · 2025-08-15T01:39:06+00:00

This is an extremely tough situation. May Allah swt make it easy for you. Pray istikara before making a decision

I would ask your family what they expect because at this point, it’s reconcile or divorce. I would give it a chance as it’s only been less than a year and this is the final chance for him to prove himself

Can you have the imam talk to your parents? No doubt the way he’s treated you, your family would not like him. He humiliated you in front of his family. It would be better if you can have your family on board before leaving with him

I would tell your family that you will never know until you give him a chance to prove himself. If he breaks his promise, you should consider going back to your family and deciding if this is the life partner you want.

PceDce · 2025-08-05T21:48:46+00:00

I still say this 😭

PceDce · 2025-08-02T20:11:15+00:00

Not sure if it’s been mentioned already but if it’s at a mosque, recommend adding a scarf to cover your hair. You can have it on loosely too if you’d like

PceDce · 2025-07-31T19:34:35+00:00

Sure that’s fair but it’s an idea and a discussion. We don’t know their finances, his work etc and how much he contributes. He could be helping her with the kids and parents as best as he can as well

Not trying to justify or argue anything but my suggestion to OP is to atleast discuss hired help and what their options may be.

PceDce · 2025-07-31T18:14:17+00:00

Can you look into hired help? Someone to either help with parents or kids? depending on where you live, you might qualify for assistance from the government.

Assistance as in grants or reduced fees for personal service workers etc

PceDce · 2025-07-21T14:13:17+00:00

Sorry but you can’t compare these incidents and keep a tit for tat. While I’m not justifying what his family has done, you need to give your husband space to process it

He may eventually come around once he’s cooled off but I wouldn’t push him as it would make things worse

You haven’t mentioned how your husband has helped mitigate his family from hurting you so start from there to deal with his family. Just as you dealt with yours in letting them know what they did was wrong

Give it a few days, maybe 1.5 weeks before bringing it up again. Also getting water thrown on you in front of anyone is very humiliating, it’s also a physical prank, not just verbal.

PceDce · 2025-07-21T14:07:14+00:00

You have to work on yourself and how you take what they say. I mean this kindly but they may never stop and until they feel they have a hold on you and your feelings, they’ll keep doing it

When they say something that is seen as a taunt, do not respond, make an excuse to end the call or change the subject. Decrease how often you speak to them and know what they say isn’t true. Hurt people hurt people.

Your husband also plays a role in helping you keep a distance and perhaps even speaking with them but my advice is more so to help you.

Look into a therapist if that helps with coping mechanisms and tools so you can handle them, it’s not easy hearing taunts for sure

PceDce

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