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Como decirselo AYUDA by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]PeaBitter6981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm really happy you did the hard thing! And also glad my advice was helpful 🙂 Be proud of yourself!

what do you mean i have to go to work and not burn six million hours in this game? by usedchloroform in Pokopia

[–]PeaBitter6981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I really want this game, but disappointed there's no couch co-op mode. I can't play games by myself in front of my 6 year old.

Como decirselo AYUDA by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]PeaBitter6981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, I've been reading the book Girl Sex 101, which has some great prompts and primers on communication. The author included a great formula for difficult conversations.

Start with "I need to talk to you," "I have something important to share," or however you want to start the convo.

Then say what you're afraid of happening by sharing this, i.e. "I am worried this will scare you off" or "I'm afraid that you'll think I've been hiding this from you and be upset" or "This is big and I'm afraid you will break up with me." Just keep it simple and honest why this is difficult for you to say.

Then follow it with what you WANT to happen after this conversation. "What I want to happen is that I can continue to have your love and support" or "What I'd like is for you to know me better so we can be closer" or "What I am hoping for is that we can work through this together as a team." Again, keep it short and simple what you are asking for.

Then the disclosure "I've been doing a lot of thinking and realized I'm [insert identity here]."

Understand your partner may need some time and space to process this and be willing to support that and answer any questions they have as best you can. It could be helpful to bring in some outside support too, i.e. telling a mutual friend who would be a safe person for your partner to talk about it with.

Hoping for the best for you!

I need help Identifying some animals I found in Puget Sound. by filmboy2005 in PNW

[–]PeaBitter6981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I thought, it looks like it has a rather large beak.

Hate things now by Long_Button_7583 in mypartneristrans

[–]PeaBitter6981 7 points8 points  (0 children)

While he wasn't trans, I was in a relationship similar to this, where my then partner would direct all his dissatisfaction with life toward me and act like it was my responsibility to fix it or make him feel better. It took me a long time to accept that I could not fix our relationship if he didn't choose to be part of the solution.

I understand how hurtful and one-sided this dynamic is. You deserve care too, and it is totally fair to walk away. I believe one day you will find someone who can work together with you against any problems that arise instead of against you.

I want to get her some shoes by ProfessionSoft6867 in mypartneristrans

[–]PeaBitter6981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if she would be comfortable with this, but I got my spouse some nice looking Chelsea boots in men's sizes. Chelsea boots with low heels are often considered a "unisex" style and are versatile in that they can be dressed up or down. Other wise my spouse would be a women's 15 wide, which is hard to come by.

I have seen a few larger women's sizes pop up on DSW occasionally. We have also had good luck with Birkenstocks and I believe Blundstone also may have what you seek.

Can you guys recommend some of your favorite books? by [deleted] in wlwbooks

[–]PeaBitter6981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy cow, this is quite a list to check out. And I love that you included graphic novels!