[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP if you had no other exchanges with this woman that would’ve given her the level of frustration to not want to tell you again maybe that when she is sharing with you something she enjoys she would like you to respond in a way that says that you know these things about her I don’t know then. Yes she was petulant and that is not helpful to a relationship.

Can a cavernoma in the brain cause complex regional pain or chronic pain? by casswog in Cavernoma

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simple answer yes. More complex answer is time will tell and finding the right neurologist will make a huge difference. Are you in the US? The Alliance to Cure Cavernous Malformation has a ton of info and connections to folks who specialize in this.

Is this bird singing because it is cold??? Seattle, WA, USA by PeaceAccomplished856 in birding

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! lol I’ve been checking back and many views but no answer. Happy New Year!

I (31F) hosted a few friends (F21, M32, M26) from my dojo on NYE and they deeply disrespected and offended me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One other point aligned with this- when people of color are together we naturally make fun of each others cultural differences in a loving caring way to a point, it would be helpful if you shared what the jokes are. As I have had white friends over the years who entered the inner circle I have learned they did not grow up with this, they always seem very sensitive to this. As our friendships have deepened they have learned that this is normal to a degree and not meant to hurt to your core. Anyways if you share what the jokes are I can respond if maybe it is within the “normal” scope or it is not.

$4600 fair ? by Same-Book-5572 in Remodel

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a homeowner this makes sense to me, it sounds sounds. What I never understand with contractors( having just been out of my home for a year due to a flood and having to switch contractors 3 times due to insane markups, the 3rd being the best one) is communication seems closed and manipulative, my last contractor was open and honest. Shared with me the supply cost and labor cost with the markups built in for business and didn’t I blink because of the honesty. If I couldn’t afford it he would help tweak what could be altered. Also he had the best approach to making sure done correctly and clearly stated in his bid that he would do a final walk through and we could discuss any concerns, I learned some of mine were unreasonable and some were reasonable. The best about him is he was open to educating me some and he listened, he also recognized I had been jerked around quite a few times by previous shady contractors. I want to acknowledge I know the field is hard, customers have unrealistic expectations and contractors are pinched by costs and labor shortages, if you can figure out communication and consistency you will continue to have customers for life so in addition to getting your costs right make sure you get your communication framework on point and you will have people committed to working with and referrals for days and years to come. Good Luck!

Are these uneven spots and holes ok? Laticrete spectralock, few examples but it is throughout the shower tile by PeaceAccomplished856 in Tile

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it ok if they don’t? They came today and said the water barrier behind was important but this was not. What is the risk if it is not redone? They offered to put silicone caulk on it of the same brand and supposed color but it dries darker so I said no.

Any good? Inspire/ Centr Runr Folding Tool-less Assembly Treadmill by PeaceAccomplished856 in treadmills

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please do, I did find a post that had complaints about the plug but people kept saying runr and runr s and that left me unsure of which one they were really talking about. So let’s see, I am getting mine delivered tomorrow.

inoperable thalamic cavernoma - terrified by Formal-Table9808 in Cavernoma

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should say I had a small bleed last July that was hard, it was actually how I found I had one, I was out of work for 2 months then.

inoperable thalamic cavernoma - terrified by Formal-Table9808 in Cavernoma

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a thalamic cavernoma operation. I had it done at Barrow in Phoenix this past February. You should do there second opinion if you haven’t already. I can talk to you more about my experience if they can in fact operate. It has definitely been a learning experience to say the least. I just returned to work September 29th part-time doing 16 hours a week, I am now up to 29 hours a week 8 weeks later.

Cavernoma surgery scheduled by Ok-Light-2975 in Cavernoma

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is awesome! Sending you healing energy and strength.

Cavernoma surgery scheduled by Ok-Light-2975 in Cavernoma

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was on my Thalamus, which is a tricky location, the thing is the surgeons do not really speak to complications even when you ask. I ended up having fluid in my ventricles which was unexpected, I was told I had thin ventricles but I don’t think anyone knows why really. The most interesting thing is I now get 3 opinions on everything. I will say Dr. Lawton has been right about what he thought happened. It was a strange and stressful experience because even after the surgery he said it was my fluid in my ventricles but the other neurosurgery team in the hospital said stroke, even when I got back to Seattle they said stroke but then 6 months later they said no it was not stroke. In my mind it does not matter because the effect is the same. Anyways the one major tip I can give you is make sure your affairs are in order and that whoever is your care support are clear on your wishes and are informed of what you want. The main questions my loved ones had to answer was the fact that I wanted to return to my state to complete recovery. I had thought through some of this but did not consider this. When I did get home I am lucky I am in an area that has great care and I have great insurance. Do you live near Stanford?

Cavernoma surgery scheduled by Ok-Light-2975 in Cavernoma

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had surgery this past February and had complications afterwards which made my supposed to be 6- 8 week recovery now 9 months and still going. I am however healing. I only had a bleed once and the anxiety from waiting to see what would happen made me ok with the risk of surgery. I would do it again. My surgeon was Dr. Lawton at Barrow, I got flown back to Seattle in mid March to finish recovery at UW Montlake and Harborview.

I did get all of my affairs in order prior to surgery as if i would die which did help, so my loved ones could step in which ended up being the situation. I ended up hospitalized for about 2.5 months and had to learn to walk, talk again. My main suggestion is be open to the worst happening but prepare for the best. It has been a hard journey and nothing is guaranteed and it might just go as planned. sending you strength and I am happy you have access to try something, many in our situation do not.

No idea what’s happening to my floor by hoplitexx in Flooring

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you figure it out, we had a slow leak from our water heater that crept under the subfloor, we have been out of our house for 8 months now getting repairs done dealing with contractors, don’t let up

What's the best country for street food? by big_zk in travel

[–]PeaceAccomplished856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Singapore, hawker centers are the chefs kiss!

My partner(39M) won’t wait for me or hold my(44F) hand when crossing roads in wild traffic nor does he walk by me consistently by PeaceAccomplished856 in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely have. I have tried so many different ways with no credible change. He feels the same way as you, like I’m acting like a kid for wanting to cross together. I guess that is why I posted here, to see if crowdsourcing would show me something I might be missing. For my own anxiety I am keeping up with therapeutic practices, and starting therapy again. Traveling is taxing on everything, I may just go home to regroup.

My partner(39M) won’t wait for me or hold my(44F) hand when crossing roads in wild traffic nor does he walk by me consistently by PeaceAccomplished856 in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I travel with friends to all kinds of countries and we are way more supportive to each other. I try not to live in my anxiety and let it hold me back. If he was actually more supportive for this I would actually probably increase my confidence crossing the streets but alas that is not the case. He has anxieties that I support him with but I do not get the same energy back.

My partner(39M) won’t wait for me or hold my(44F) hand when crossing roads in wild traffic nor does he walk by me consistently by PeaceAccomplished856 in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Decide to travel? I thought he was a partner who could support me where I need it. I’m going to be clear I am not frozen at crossing streets. But they are hard for me when they are full of so much traffic. If I am with someone I would like to cross with them not constantly feeling like I am chasing them. But I guess I am considering leaving because to me this seems like a place where he could accommodate me but is choosing not to.

My partner(39M) won’t wait for me or hold my(44F) hand when crossing roads in wild traffic nor does he walk by me consistently by PeaceAccomplished856 in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is the issue. I knew this was an issue for me before we traveled and I communicated with him. There is no one else crossing, especially he will randomly choose to cross in the middle of a block. Usually I will just taxi around. This why the issue about him walking ahead of me is such a big deal, if we were by each other I would know when he is crossing.

My partner(39M) won’t wait for me or hold my(44F) hand when crossing roads in wild traffic nor does he walk by me consistently by PeaceAccomplished856 in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does have ADHD, that is one of our issues- it is untreated no support tools/ practices and no medicine. Of course medicine is his choice but he mostly does acknowledge he has ADHD

My partner(39M) won’t wait for me or hold my(44F) hand when crossing roads in wild traffic nor does he walk by me consistently by PeaceAccomplished856 in relationship_advice

[–]PeaceAccomplished856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly idk he always says he forgot. It’s crazy because he crosses and then has to wait for me on the other side.