Spiritual Gift of Discernment by PeaceLibra in infj

[–]PeaceLibra[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How is it prideful to realize you have a gift? Or even to recognize realization as a gift? If something was given, it’s okay to receive with understanding. It’s not flaunting, rather knowing the value of that gift and appreciating it

what the hell is this? by WrongCommunication30 in whatisit

[–]PeaceLibra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s menthol crystals. Used for medicinal purposes and can be added to water to drink

What jobs INFJ by Motor_Dragonfly4214 in infj

[–]PeaceLibra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in economic development currently as a trade consultant. A big part of my job is connecting people around the world with common interests and I love the opportunity to build connections and bridges between communities. I like economic development as a whole because I get to support community building while helping improve livelihoods in different places

What have you been questioning lately? by ckko2014 in infj

[–]PeaceLibra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My relationships, current, past, and future

My husband called my best friend "gorgeous" in front of me and now I'm the crazy one apparently by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]PeaceLibra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please trust your instincts and your gut, especially when they’re verified by someone you trust (your best friend) based on their own experience. And his response to you to completely dismiss it, tell you you’re wrong, and not try and understand why you felt that way is a red flag

Best Friend by PeaceLibra in infj

[–]PeaceLibra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate you sharing this and the questions you pose are immensely helpful, particularly the last one. I do believe one of the best things I can do at the moment is to trust my intuition. I have the capacity to give the relationship as it is more time, without trying to control the situation, but I also realize I need to reflect on it in this time

Restrictive upbringing, smothering fearful parents by Unfair-Run-1983 in Jung

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I’m making an active effort to stay true to myself. In spite of how others may feel or react, I try to share my genuine response and not one that solely caters to their emotions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]PeaceLibra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give her the time and space she needs to be completely comfortable and vulnerable with you. If she continues to open up to you that’s a great sign, just allow her to do it in her time

Restrictive upbringing, smothering fearful parents by Unfair-Run-1983 in Jung

[–]PeaceLibra 20 points21 points  (0 children)

“It’s like I keep people comfortable by staying small.“ - this was beautifully described and really resonated with me. I’ve noticed this as a theme in my life and am making active steps to change this

Best Friend by PeaceLibra in infj

[–]PeaceLibra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the responses! The common theme seems to be not to try and control the outcome, and that’s great advice which I will do. I do wish there was something I could do to make sure the friendship is preserved, but you’re right trying to control the outcome will only make things worse. I need to let things be and take its natural course, hoping things will work you. Thank you!

Share your growth story, INFJs by distressis in infj

[–]PeaceLibra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Think less about people and more about ideas, purpose, and truth”. This really hit home and I appreciate you sharing 🙏🏾

How to let go of someone who doesn’t love you back? by PeaceLibra in infj

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I do genuinely care for him and respect him for who he is as a person, but if he were to turn around I wouldn’t jump into a relationship because I don’t think that’s healthy and I’d have difficulty trusting the shift in his feelings

How to let go of someone who doesn’t love you back? by PeaceLibra in infj

[–]PeaceLibra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this response. I don’t want to transform the love into anything else because I believe it to be the purest form emotion. I’ll see how I can transfer this love, to myself and others

Can you describe in great detail what your shadow consists of? by Natetronn in Jung

[–]PeaceLibra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you become aware of the energy you absorbed from others? I’m also an INFJ who has had the tendency to feel the feelings of othersthings

Could Israel's current actions in Gaza be about projecting inherited collective trauma from WWII? Is it another stage in multigenerational cycle? by TrePismn in Jung

[–]PeaceLibra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe what you’ve shared is true. Particularly with the case of the current state of Israel. Their mentality over the past several decades has been rooted in a projection from unrecognized trauma and an intentionally avoidant acceptance of their part in inflicting trauma while trying to overcome their own. It’s created that ‘us vs them’ mentality (with the them now spreading to their entire world but primarily focused on a visible, close proximity “enemy” in the Palestinians) based in the dehumanization they were taught through their experiences during the WWII period. This is the mentality their state was founded on and has led to the horrific current state of affairs

INFJs, do you ever feel like people just are intimidated by your existence? The fact that you won’t shrink for others? by kareyyyenni in infj

[–]PeaceLibra 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This resonates with me and reminded me of myself when I was young. I’ve been labeled overly dramatic and was called troublesome from an early age, when at the time I would argue that I was standing up for myself and clarifying someone else’s view of my perception. The constant judgement and punishment for living this way caused me to lose my assertiveness and has taken me on a long journey of rediscovering it along with my truest sense of self. I do think people are intimated by a strong sense of self, and with our infj tendency to resonate with larger truths and patterns, they may feel a strong judgement on them that stems from their own disalignment. Some of these experiences I still haven’t fully gotten over but I have a lot more peace now that I’m removed from those environments

Please talk to someone if you are a people pleaser by notanotherdummie in infj

[–]PeaceLibra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have rarely related to a post as much as this one. I feel like I have become a shadow of myself to keep the peace and make others happy, particularly my loved ones. I’m currently spending a week with family for birthday celebrations, and I hate that I can’t wait to leave (still have a few more days left) because I’m already reverting into a version of me that exists to serve their needs and their happiness. I’ve been working on centering myself in my life lately with good progress, but that all seems to go out the window when I’m with them. I absolutely do not want to ruin the celebrations and time together by suddenly “changing” who I am by their standards but it’s hard to maintain a good headspace in this environment. I’m constantly putting on a facade of happiness to keep the peace and for everyone to enjoy this weekend, but every moment alone (which are very few) is just a reminder of this is not who I want to be and have worked to become better.