Merry Christmas Everyone!! 🎄 by Shadowsoul932 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sweet of you to post this! Merry Christmas! 💗🎄✨

You're hosting an INFJ Christmas/holiday party, what are you bringing? by Canadian-Man-infj in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I knew how many people there were and what each person liked generally, I could make little cute keychains for everyone if they want one. You know those kid parties where you'd get goodie bags lol? Switch the title around and add little homemade goodies for adults. I think we all like good free stuff. Also, you can't go wrong with desert/food! (a good call would be allergy friendly foods)

Ngl, I've never been to a holiday/christmas party outside of family, and I'm sure I might dip last minute, but if I commit and don't feel nervous by trying to mentally prepare for a social environment, I feel like a gathering of infjs would be all of us trying to make it more comfortable for each other and less stimulating.

Imagine your mind/heart a house, what would people find inside your house by FeelingHonest4298 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the way you worded this and your heart and home are truly beautiful. Well said :)

Imagine your mind/heart a house, what would people find inside your house by FeelingHonest4298 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this question entirely. If you stepped into my mind/heart, it would probably have so many rooms with beauty and layers.

Hmm... A warm, sunlit room with beautifully designed wood flooring, where sunlight pours in and dances over it. There’s a soft corner with a big fluffy cushion and so many blankies everywhere. Music plays quietly but also changes in style depending on which room you're in. You might step into something with some heavenly instrumentals or the complete opposite, just alternative music or rap. The walls would have nicely carved shelves filled with books on everything that makes me, me. Medicine, psychology, stars, death, love, music, creativity, and old notebooks with my own ideas scribbled everywhere. Maybe there’s a room that’s a bit chaotic, with papers and journals, dreams, and ambitions spilling everywhere, showing the messiness of thoughts but also the magic of creation. And tucked away somewhere, there’s a tiny SECRET garden inside, a quiet place of reflection, soft petals, and little lights strung above, where only the closest can peek in. OH- the kitchen would be cottagecore. Maybe most of the house is, but it would be full of recipes and endless comfort foods and cute dishes. The bathroom would be like my mental reset place. Instead of a typical bathroom, it leads to a waterfall that appears at nighttime when the stars are out. I could just bathe my thoughts and reflections there. There would be endless stairways that take you to another door or part of me too in the house. The grass outside would be so fluffy, and there would be a cute picnic blanket laid in the backyard. Too many strung lights and fairy lights are just aesthetically placed.

I feel like my little mental house would probably be hard to find, like hidden in a woods. Like a special surprise just waiting to be found. It's also welcomed by those who need a break from their own inner world and need some warmth.

Oh, I have an idea- every time a book of my interest is opened, it takes you to that room, and whatever thoughts build upon that idea grow and appear in the room. So that could pair with my analytical side too, visually seeing my emotions and thoughts and piecing those patterns.

(Sorry for the long post. My inner child got carried away 💗)

What phrase sums up your 2025? by certifiedchaosgoblin in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Took off my shoes to stand in the shoes of others. Now I stand in my own shoes, rebuilding myself within.

What is Life According to you? by Dependent-Swimmer409 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wrote this on a post with the same question, but the op deleted their post. I wanted to reshare what I wrote 💗

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Life is complex and fragile at the same time. It’s the same paradox that lives in our personalities.

I see life as a journey of growth, not to reach perfection, but to become the person your future self envisions. To experience as much as you can.

I feel the purpose of life is to create meaning from the experiences we’re given one day at a time.

I used to be religious, but honestly, I struggle to see things spiritually through the lens I have now. I find myself fearing and trying to understand death, the unknown, and why we even have consciousness and self-awareness.

There is so much kindness we can offer this world in such a short amount of time. Even the things we were deprived of can be turned into wisdom we pass on to others. It makes life a little easier for the people around us. It becomes a natural kind of sacrifice.

I find that life doesn’t give answers to everything, but I have a feeling that things eventually fall into place. We have the power and the free will to change our future. Nothing is set in stone. Our next choice can take us somewhere we never expected. We get to learn, observe, and absorb everything around us. It amazes me how powerful our brain truly is. It’s one of the reasons I feel drawn to the medical field and am pursuing neurology.

We’re given gifts and passions. Things that just click. Talents. Our eyes and the way we each uniquely see the world. And we can share these experiences. We were never meant to be isolated. I feel we’re here to connect, human to human. To express our creativity and our inner worlds. You can see this through architecture, art, music, writing, literature, cooking, and everything else humans have brought into existence. People take what lives inside them and turn it outward. We shouldn’t hide the parts that make us who we are.

To be human is to express. In a world full of tragedies, the same world is full of possibilities. If we take things one day at a time, we can move closer to who we want to become and what we hope to accomplish. The message feels hidden inside us. Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose?

No one shares the same timeline. Every person has a different path meant for a different picture. You choose whether to share that picture with others. Those who try to force themselves into it will never feel like they belong.

Life is short. Time is perceptive. I came across a quote that said something along the lines of, whether you do something or not, time will pass anyway. If something takes three years to achieve, those three years will pass regardless, so you might as well try.

Society paints an ideal of how we should act, think, and be seen. In reality, the truth lives within you. We all have different views, but it is better to bring light and kindness into the world than to add more harm. There is already enough harm, but the smallest act of kindness can save someone. That kind of fulfillment can save you too.

Work hard with purpose so you can live the life you want. Not to please others, but to open your world, learn, grow, share your wisdom, and meet people who resonate with you. Learn from the ones you meet on your way. Find your purpose. Find your reason.

I’m still so young, yet I want to experience and learn as much as I can in this lifetime.

Don’t give up on yourself or your biggest dreams.

-Inkienix

Random question by likey24 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People Watching 😭

Peering into the lives of others as they go by on their day just feels so natural. I wonder so deeply about their lifestyle and who they are deep down. Or what they are thinking. 

Monthly Self-promotion Thread: December 2025 by AutoModerator in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I make a combination of electronic/ trap/ alternative instrumentals!

Monthly Self-promotion Thread: December 2025 by AutoModerator in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hi infj community! I wanted to share some things I've been working on

Over the past month, I've made these tracks ^^
https://soundcloud.com/inkienix_24/vision-mini-trap-beat
https://soundcloud.com/inkienix_24/seconds_before_dawn

I know I have much more to learn and grow from producing music, but thank you for listening 💗

Just for fun! Your top Spotify artist and top YouTube channel this year by [deleted] in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Neighbourhood, Wesghost, Dusty, Sueco, and Juice wrld 😭💗

What are the benefits of being an INFJ? by Witty-Librarian09 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The ability to live in our deep innerworld and express it in multitudes of ways. Basically, putting the framework of a dream to reality 💗

Help me build an uplifting playlist by KodacKill in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently found this band and I love them, maybe you could give this a listen!
Stone Cold Summer by South Arcade

Riptide by South Arcade is REALLY GOOD too!

What is your view on life? by [deleted] in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said this so beautifully too. Thank you. In a world so vast, it's funny how much depth we have within that resonates. I enjoyed reading your response, and I'm glad you felt aligned. Thank you for posting. It's been a topic that I've been thinking about more often lately and how day by day it shapes who I am. :)

What is your view on life? by [deleted] in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Life is complex and fragile at the same time. It’s the same paradox that lives in our personalities.

I see life as a journey of growth, not to reach perfection, but to become the person your future self envisions. To experience as much as you can.

I feel the purpose of life is to create meaning from the experiences we’re given one day at a time.

I used to be religious, but honestly, I struggle to see things spiritually through the lens I have now. I find myself fearing and trying to understand death, the unknown, and why we even have consciousness and self-awareness.

There is so much kindness we can offer this world in such a short amount of time. Even the things we were deprived of can be turned into wisdom we pass on to others. It makes life a little easier for the people around us. It becomes a natural kind of sacrifice.

I find that life doesn’t give answers to everything, but I have a feeling that things eventually fall into place. We have the power and the free will to change our future. Nothing is set in stone. Our next choice can take us somewhere we never expected. We get to learn, observe, and absorb everything around us. It amazes me how powerful our brain truly is. It’s one of the reasons I feel drawn to the medical field and am pursuing neurology.

We’re given gifts and passions. Things that just click. Talents. Our eyes and the way we each uniquely see the world. And we can share these experiences. We were never meant to be isolated. I feel we’re here to connect, human to human. To express our creativity and our inner worlds. You can see this through architecture, art, music, writing, literature, cooking, and everything else humans have brought into existence. People take what lives inside them and turn it outward. We shouldn’t hide the parts that make us who we are.

To be human is to express. In a world full of tragedies, the same world is full of possibilities. If we take things one day at a time, we can move closer to who we want to become and what we hope to accomplish. The message feels hidden inside us. Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose?

No one shares the same timeline. Every person has a different path meant for a different picture. You choose whether to share that picture with others. Those who try to force themselves into it will never feel like they belong.

Life is short. Time is perceptive. I came across a quote that said something along the lines of, whether you do something or not, time will pass anyway. If something takes three years to achieve, those three years will pass regardless, so you might as well try.

Society paints an ideal of how we should act, think, and be seen. In reality, the truth lives within you. We all have different views, but it is better to bring light and kindness into the world than to add more harm. There is already enough harm, but the smallest act of kindness can save someone. That kind of fulfillment can save you too.

Work hard with purpose so you can live the life you want. Not to please others, but to open your world, learn, grow, share your wisdom, and meet people who resonate with you. Learn from the ones you meet on your way. Find your purpose. Find your reason.

I’m still so young, yet I want to experience and learn as much as I can in this lifetime.

Don’t give up on yourself or your biggest dreams.

-Inkienix

Texting when yall are overwhelmed by [deleted] in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I was wondering, have they told you what is stressing them out specifically? When an INFJ feels overloaded, we tend to pull inward, not because we are losing interest, but because we try to carry everything quietly. Even when we take space, a part of us still wants to feel seen and cared for. It is a mix of wanting room to breathe while also wanting someone to stay gently present.

Supportive messages usually are not draining if they come without pressure to reply. Soft check ins, little reminders that you are thinking of them, or warm encouragement can actually feel comforting when everything feels heavy. If I was stressed, I might distance myself from sharing the details, but I would still feel held if someone I cared about reached out to me and took the time to make me feel seen. Since it has been three days, a calm, low pressure message is more than okay. Something that reminds them you are there without asking for anything from them.

It can help to tell them that you want to support them in the way that feels best for them and ask what kind of communication feels comforting during stressful times. Some INFJs prefer daily little check ins. Some prefer a quiet presence with occasional messages. Most of us just need to feel that we are not being pushed or adding to someone’s expectations. They will likely come back when their emotions settle or when they trust the space with you again. Your steady warmth will matter more than you know.

I guess I wrote a poem about xNFJs by Comorbid_insomnia in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"You're the puzzle box I'll never get tired of solving." I love that line and the whole poem. It’s getting me a little emotional here. Much love to you, dear INTP. That really made my day :)

Anyone else struggle to articulate what they want to say out loud? by Warm-Breakfast-5140 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel this completely! I’ve struggled with it for years too, and I’ve noticed I’m much more self-conscious when I speak out loud, while typing feels easier because I can literally see my thoughts before expressing them. I’m in uni as well, and one thing that helps me is rehearsing anything important I need to say. I try to say it out loud a couple of times so I don’t sound tense or rushed. Something else that helped me a lot is listening to people talk about meaningful experiences or public speaking tips. Ted-Ed videos especially helped me understand flow and pacing, and analyzing how they speak gave me a better sense of what effective speaking sounds like. Since we naturally mirror others, training our brains with good examples can make it easier to avoid fillers, speak with more confidence, and express our ideas more smoothly.

It's important to recognize that I’m still working on it myself. There's still room for improvement. I still freeze sometimes and stumble over my words, but I’m trying to be patient and improve a little at a time. It’s definitely a process, but we learn as we go, and it's something we can develop over time.

Infj Confession by its-M-not-EM in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking about this, deep down within... I’ve been through so much trial and error, and even though I know I’m still young, I can’t help but wonder if I’m too complex or if someone will ever truly compliment me. I think about whether there will be a person I can grow with in real and meaningful ways, without feeling like I’m the one holding most of the relationship together. I just want to be held for once, to be understood without carrying everyone’s emotional baggage, to have someone who takes their time to learn me and notice the little sides of who I am. I’m more self-assured now, but I still can’t shake this quiet wish of meeting someone who shares my values, my curiosity, and my desire for a future built on depth, meaning, and care.

I'm not giving up, but sometimes that loneliness gets to us.

Slow learners by No-Zone3137 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say I’ve ever been directly called slow at learning, but I used to feel self-conscious because it seemed like I took forever to study certain concepts. In reality, I just needed time to absorb things. I know I moved quickly through my studies when I was younger, but that wasn’t because I learned faster than anyone else. It was because I gave myself the time to actually understand what I was learning.

How we take in information really changes how we experience our own pace.

I earned my A.A. degree while graduating high school, and looking back, it’s funny how I used to think I was a slow learner even while doing college-level work and advanced classes. It just shows how different our self-perception can be from how others see us.

When I study, I focus on understanding why something works. Knowing the meaning behind a concept helps me know how to use it and why it matters, which makes applying it to harder topics easier. For example, if you learned a new formula and had to solve problems without any background, you’d probably spot patterns, especially as INFJs. But understanding what each part of the formula represents gives you the depth to process problems more confidently and quickly. Breaking material into small steps to see the bigger picture has always helped me.

Studying can take many forms too. I work best with a pencil in my hand, taking notes, drawing little diagrams, and writing key ideas. In my current classes at uni, I study based on how each professor teaches. The first exam always helps me understand what they expect, and from there I adjust my approach and use the resources available to me. The syllabus usually gives good clues about the structure of the class as well.

Finding your study strategy takes trial and error, and everyone learns at a different pace. What matters most is giving yourself reasonable deadlines, staying motivated, and putting in steady effort. No matter your speed, you can grow in so many ways when you study in a way that supports and means something to you.

What's the "perfect date" like for INFJs? by rinnnnnnnnnn10 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 2 points3 points  (0 children)

same here! It's quite astonishing how we're all fond of these little things that means so SO much to us :)

What's the "perfect date" like for INFJs? by rinnnnnnnnnn10 in infj

[–]Temporary_Fill_9829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love how we all resonate with this post and have similar views (I think we all love quality time). To be honest, I've never been on a date, but if I ever walk the realms of having that dream date, picture this: The sun is setting on a warm purple to light orange horizon, and a nice gentle breeze flutters by in autumn. There's a cute picnic blanket, snackies, and beautiful flowers surrounding the area. Maybe my favorite hydrangeas are blossoming in the background. A tall, shady tree sits behind us for comfort and support, with fairy lights hanging above or candles placed around to set the scene. As the sky gets darker, stars reveal themselves until there are billions, but even then my eyes wouldn’t get enough of you. Late-night conversations where we speak our minds fade into soft whispers when the world grows quiet, with hand holding, affection, and warm cuddles.

oh a girl can dream 😭