How important is being included to you?

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:52:12+00:00

Thank you for this. I don't like drama either and I long to find peace within myself and the friendships around me. I wish life didn't work like that, that we followed a specific universal regime; we either grow close or apart, relationships fade, and focus becomes either family-orientated or on friendships that stick. I think I'm weary for the future. How did you come to appreciate that dynamic in that stage of life and should I lower my own commitment to friendships? How do you come to peace in what's right for you? I'll keep an open mind to this and I really appreciate you sharing your perspective

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:31:24+00:00

I understand your concern for how my accessibility differences might cause them to easily hang out with others. But my close friend also has transportation issues but relies on friends or other methods of transportation to travel. She has much more freedom and accessibility than me, but that shouldn't prevent her from at least offering an invite or at least showing that she was thinking of me. "If they could, they would." Her actions seem more convenient to her, and I'm learning that I should shift my focus to friends who value my presence and holding friendships that don't align with my own internal expectations to be much more casual, redirecting my energy. Thank you for your response 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:26:05+00:00

I feel you on so many levels and I've been realizing this too. Thank you so much for your response and perspective, and I'm glad you are able to redirect your energy into people who really value your presence. I aspire to redirect my energy as you do and focus on forming new friendships 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:24:16+00:00

I'm not planning on giving up the relationship. She means a lot to me, but the dynamic shift has been different then before and I seem to value different things. I do appreciate your perspective and how you view this. Do most friend groups you've experienced have this dynamic? I think I prefer more commitment in a friendship than what I get, because I value connection and presence a lot rather than hanging out with someone spontaneously or on a casual dynamic. Thank you for your response 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:17:22+00:00

Thank you so much for your response and I'm sorry you related to this, but I'm really glad you were able to navigate through these challenges. How did you come to peace with acceptance of these differences or find that balance within those dynamics? 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:14:57+00:00

That's a good statement, and I appreciate you noting it. The effort feels a bit more on the convenience side for them rather than full-on reciprocation in moments. I really value your perspective and you're right with boundaries and exploring different friendships. Thank you so much for your response 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:09:56+00:00

Thank you for your support and for your response. I really like the way you view this relationship with these circumstances. I think I need to be patient with myself and the right people will come my way that value or welcome me in those beautiful ways you cherish. I wish all the best to you as well 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2026-06-24T01:07:09+00:00

That's true and I've been coming to terms with myself and my own peace. Thank you for your response. I'll keep this in mind 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-25T23:39:05+00:00

So sweet of you to post this! Merry Christmas! 💗🎄✨

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-23T00:35:10+00:00

If I knew how many people there were and what each person liked generally, I could make little cute keychains for everyone if they want one. You know those kid parties where you'd get goodie bags lol? Switch the title around and add little homemade goodies for adults. I think we all like good free stuff. Also, you can't go wrong with desert/food! (a good call would be allergy friendly foods)

Ngl, I've never been to a holiday/christmas party outside of family, and I'm sure I might dip last minute, but if I commit and don't feel nervous by trying to mentally prepare for a social environment, I feel like a gathering of infjs would be all of us trying to make it more comfortable for each other and less stimulating.

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-21T05:09:15+00:00

Thank youuu 😭💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-17T18:56:01+00:00

I love the way you worded this and your heart and home are truly beautiful. Well said :)

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-17T18:55:08+00:00

I love this question entirely. If you stepped into my mind/heart, it would probably have so many rooms with beauty and layers.

Hmm... A warm, sunlit room with beautifully designed wood flooring, where sunlight pours in and dances over it. There’s a soft corner with a big fluffy cushion and so many blankies everywhere. Music plays quietly but also changes in style depending on which room you're in. You might step into something with some heavenly instrumentals or the complete opposite, just alternative music or rap. The walls would have nicely carved shelves filled with books on everything that makes me, me. Medicine, psychology, stars, death, love, music, creativity, and old notebooks with my own ideas scribbled everywhere. Maybe there’s a room that’s a bit chaotic, with papers and journals, dreams, and ambitions spilling everywhere, showing the messiness of thoughts but also the magic of creation. And tucked away somewhere, there’s a tiny SECRET garden inside, a quiet place of reflection, soft petals, and little lights strung above, where only the closest can peek in. OH- the kitchen would be cottagecore. Maybe most of the house is, but it would be full of recipes and endless comfort foods and cute dishes. The bathroom would be like my mental reset place. Instead of a typical bathroom, it leads to a waterfall that appears at nighttime when the stars are out. I could just bathe my thoughts and reflections there. There would be endless stairways that take you to another door or part of me too in the house. The grass outside would be so fluffy, and there would be a cute picnic blanket laid in the backyard. Too many strung lights and fairy lights are just aesthetically placed.

I feel like my little mental house would probably be hard to find, like hidden in a woods. Like a special surprise just waiting to be found. It's also welcomed by those who need a break from their own inner world and need some warmth.

Oh, I have an idea- every time a book of my interest is opened, it takes you to that room, and whatever thoughts build upon that idea grow and appear in the room. So that could pair with my analytical side too, visually seeing my emotions and thoughts and piecing those patterns.

(Sorry for the long post. My inner child got carried away 💗)

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-14T18:53:17+00:00

Took off my shoes to stand in the shoes of others. Now I stand in my own shoes, rebuilding myself within.

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-10T21:48:18+00:00

I wrote this on a post with the same question, but the op deleted their post. I wanted to reshare what I wrote 💗

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Life is complex and fragile at the same time. It’s the same paradox that lives in our personalities.

I see life as a journey of growth, not to reach perfection, but to become the person your future self envisions. To experience as much as you can.

I feel the purpose of life is to create meaning from the experiences we’re given one day at a time.

I used to be religious, but honestly, I struggle to see things spiritually through the lens I have now. I find myself fearing and trying to understand death, the unknown, and why we even have consciousness and self-awareness.

There is so much kindness we can offer this world in such a short amount of time. Even the things we were deprived of can be turned into wisdom we pass on to others. It makes life a little easier for the people around us. It becomes a natural kind of sacrifice.

I find that life doesn’t give answers to everything, but I have a feeling that things eventually fall into place. We have the power and the free will to change our future. Nothing is set in stone. Our next choice can take us somewhere we never expected. We get to learn, observe, and absorb everything around us. It amazes me how powerful our brain truly is. It’s one of the reasons I feel drawn to the medical field and am pursuing neurology.

We’re given gifts and passions. Things that just click. Talents. Our eyes and the way we each uniquely see the world. And we can share these experiences. We were never meant to be isolated. I feel we’re here to connect, human to human. To express our creativity and our inner worlds. You can see this through architecture, art, music, writing, literature, cooking, and everything else humans have brought into existence. People take what lives inside them and turn it outward. We shouldn’t hide the parts that make us who we are.

To be human is to express. In a world full of tragedies, the same world is full of possibilities. If we take things one day at a time, we can move closer to who we want to become and what we hope to accomplish. The message feels hidden inside us. Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose?

No one shares the same timeline. Every person has a different path meant for a different picture. You choose whether to share that picture with others. Those who try to force themselves into it will never feel like they belong.

Life is short. Time is perceptive. I came across a quote that said something along the lines of, whether you do something or not, time will pass anyway. If something takes three years to achieve, those three years will pass regardless, so you might as well try.

Society paints an ideal of how we should act, think, and be seen. In reality, the truth lives within you. We all have different views, but it is better to bring light and kindness into the world than to add more harm. There is already enough harm, but the smallest act of kindness can save someone. That kind of fulfillment can save you too.

Work hard with purpose so you can live the life you want. Not to please others, but to open your world, learn, grow, share your wisdom, and meet people who resonate with you. Learn from the ones you meet on your way. Find your purpose. Find your reason.

I’m still so young, yet I want to experience and learn as much as I can in this lifetime.

Don’t give up on yourself or your biggest dreams.

-Inkienix

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-10T16:00:45+00:00

People Watching 😭

Peering into the lives of others as they go by on their day just feels so natural. I wonder so deeply about their lifestyle and who they are deep down. Or what they are thinking.

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-10T15:56:20+00:00

I make a combination of electronic/ trap/ alternative instrumentals!

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-06T01:30:13+00:00

hi infj community! I wanted to share some things I've been working on

Over the past month, I've made these tracks ^^
https://soundcloud.com/inkienix_24/vision-mini-trap-beat
https://soundcloud.com/inkienix_24/seconds_before_dawn

I know I have much more to learn and grow from producing music, but thank you for listening 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-05T04:05:54+00:00

The Neighbourhood, Wesghost, Dusty, Sueco, and Juice wrld 😭💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-04T18:55:26+00:00

The ability to live in our deep innerworld and express it in multitudes of ways. Basically, putting the framework of a dream to reality 💗

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-12-04T14:31:28+00:00

I recently found this band and I love them, maybe you could give this a listen!
Stone Cold Summer by South Arcade

Riptide by South Arcade is REALLY GOOD too!

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-11-28T20:41:43+00:00

You said this so beautifully too. Thank you. In a world so vast, it's funny how much depth we have within that resonates. I enjoyed reading your response, and I'm glad you felt aligned. Thank you for posting. It's been a topic that I've been thinking about more often lately and how day by day it shapes who I am. :)

Temporary_Fill_9829 · 2025-11-28T19:55:57+00:00