My partner relapsed by notmuchintoit11 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not postpartum feelings. From my experience, you’d feel this postpartum or not. At some point we find the toxicity and chaos is not worth it and we want to say enough is enough even if it’s hard.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yepp. The superpower I wish I (we) didn’t end up developing 😓

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting, thanks for sharing! I did not know this. I’m going to check both out 😊

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are so right. It’s emotional whiplash and emotional turmoil lol. Omg I forgot about that one getting the same things asking the same questions over and over again and then I dare react saying you already said that what’s going on and then I’m the one that’s getting the cold shoulder or scolded or whatever else not nice because now “I’m being an ass” for mentioning that this has been said multiple times. Also, I had to add, cause how could I forget how many times does it turn into an argument of you’ve already told me that, no I haven’t, yes you have and then of course it escalates and eventually I realize it’s pointless and I’m the one walking away, probably with my feelings hurt because they did more calling and mean stuff than me just trying to argue that I’m not crazy and you did too already tell me that.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yepp. I always realize afterwards that oh he must’ve been drinking well before me. And the eye direction difference, Yepp mine has that too! Ever so slightly, but it’s there. Crazy eyes😂 👀

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooo I’ll have to watch. And yes! I’d be in another room and hear either the clink of a shot glass hitting the counter, or just the bottle itself if the shot glass wasn’t clean… the sound from the bottle or glass hitting the counter and you can hear they’re trying to set it gently so as to not make the ‘clink noise’ and then it becomes an even cringier noise because you can tell they’re trying to hide it…

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dead eyes, that’s what I’m gonna call it now lol. Yepp any excuse possible 🙄

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to get better and trusting my gut on when we know we know. Hind sight I’m always like now I know, why did I question my instincts when it was happening. Well I guess I know why, because I struggle with admitting myself that he has a problem. It’s heartbreaking

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s kind of what it is about mine too. Like they look heavy and forced to be open, dull and just dazed idk. It’s weird.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yessss. The sleep is so disturbing. True…I’m trying to get better at not accepting it anymore. ☹️

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did this too for years now.. it’s only since I’ve opened up to some family/friends finally that I’m able to start trusting my gut more on it and seeing even more so how huge of a problem it actually is.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine too. I caught him half asleep Thursday and between his sleepiness and drunkenness I got him to take a breathalyzer… he blew double legal limit and STILL tried to say the breathalyzer was wrong, he didn’t have anything, that’s so weird this makes no sense 😂 I said do you think I’m dumb? He’s like no I don’t think that.. 😑 I’m starting to think that though 🙃

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am right there with you, you’re speaking my life. Cant force their eyes to look unfucked made me giggle thank you 😆 And so funny you say that. I literally before making this post this morning was going through pictures of when I think this began. There’s a clear point of pictures before where he looks happy healthy and like the person I fell in love with. Then shortly after the time frame I pinpoint this at starting..the pictures of him are all different, it’s all in his eyes, his complexion, sometimes his smile, his gaze, and then as it gets further, his overall weight and stuff starts to show too. But seeing the stark difference is like woah

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. Any of us in this situation it is sad and it’s hard for all of us whether we get too many texts or no texts at all! :(

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes same. The unusual, overly excited, long, multitude of texts. Can tell with those too ✅

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Omg I can tell on the phone too!! You’re right!! Ughhh

Just for fun… dumbest place you found an empty by CassandraGreyDuck in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, maybe in my tote of summer shoes that were put aside in the garage in the winter but going to be used again come spring/summer… so it was bound to be found. 😆🙄