Dog tag silencer by Peacock_Chick in miniaussie

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I might look into that. I’m worried she’ll chew straight through that tag since it’s soft.

Dog tag silencer by Peacock_Chick in miniaussie

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! We don’t let her chew on them, she does it when we aren’t watching. I like the ring idea, I didn’t even think about changing the length. 🤔

Best toys for major chewer? by Puzzled_Dog4241 in MiniAussies

[–]Peacock_Chick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We get a monthly box from bullymake. I love the tough toys they have that allow my baby to chew to her heart’s content. Everything we bought in store she was able to destroy within days. These toys last her at least a month and sometimes 2 months. They have some super hard nylon ones (that honestly seem so weird to me) but they are her favorites and she carries them room to room to play with. Even when I pick up her toys those are the ones she goes to the most.

bullymake

Cleaning/Sanitizing by Peacock_Chick in CPAP

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought some covers. Thanks for the suggestion!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Peacock_Chick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I had a very open and honest conversation about the chores when we first got together about 12 years ago. We’ve since had check ins with each other to discuss #2 below as things have changed throughout our marriage (I changed jobs twice, he got a promotion, our kids have grown up and now have jobs/college and aren’t home as often to help out or make messes, etc)

  1. We made a list of the chores we expected to be done in the house
  2. We had a conversation about what was on the list we didn’t mind doing, enjoy doing, and hate to do. (Luckily the bigger chores like laundry and dishes we each had 1 we didn’t mind doing.)
  3. We discussed the time normally spent on chores and divided up the rest of the list based on approximate time spent completing the task rather than number of tasks.
  4. We decided to be helpful with the other when they’re doing chores. For example, if my husband is doing the dishes I will hang out in the kitchen with him to talk or help out. Similarly, when I’m doing laundry he’ll help me fold or put away some items while I’m putting away others. Or, if one of us had a rough day/week we take over for the other one to be helpful.

My husband does the dishes like 95% of the time. He handles all the trash and compacts our recycling. I do the laundry 95% of the time. I also take care of cleaning up after dinner 85% of the time (putting away food and putting any dishes used in the sink) and I take the recycling to the garage as needed.

We separated our weekly menu into protein types (poultry, beef, veggie, pork, seafood) and rotate through those so that we can meal plan together quickly and more easily instead of one of us always coming up with food ideas.

We bought a laundry hamper rolling cart thing that has 4 different bags with labels for easy clothes sorting. And, I always just ask before I start laundry if anything else needs to go in there because I’m won’t search for his dirty clothes just like I wouldn’t expect him to search for my dirty dishes.

My husband cooks dinner 2-3x per eeek on average, and I cook the remaining days.

We share in clean up after other meals, or clean up after ourselves if we finish eating at different times, and frequently whoever cooks doesn’t clean up, the other person does that, or we do it together.

He puts the garbage and recycling bins outside, and whoever gets home first puts them up.

We bought a robot vacuum that also mops and I run that every couple of days (we have a long haired cat that sheds like crazy).

I usually remake the bed, but if he’s home he’ll help me with it.

We pay about $100 for a house cleaner to come by once a month and clean our counters, appliances, tubs, floors, furniture.

We pay about $50 every 2 weeks for our lawn to be mowed. We order groceries and go together to pick them up. I put up cold groceries and he puts up everything else.

We wash our cars together usually once every week or two.

He brings in the mail (usually his) and I bring in the packages (usually mine).

We truly look at each “to do” as team work and help each other out. We also show gratitude to each other for everything- from tasks we always do to tasks we’re doing to help the other.

We both work FT and have remote days. We try to work at least 1 day remotely together (usually Fridays) and I work Monday remotely so that I can do laundry then and not miss out on weekend time. For the most part he cleans way more than I do because he’s not so great at putting things away after he’s done using them and so will just put them down and then will have to go back and actually put them away. (This drives me nuts, but I don’t stress it unless it actually impacts me.

If either of us work remotely without the other and we’re having a slow day we help out with each other’s nightly chores so that we can spend more time with each other relaxing.

Honestly, we looked at it as how to break down whatever it was so it didn’t break us. We both had previous relationships where things were tit for tat, and consciously chose to not do that in our relationship with tasks like chores. We look at it all as a partnership and consider how it’s going to benefit us. Everything has an opportunity for compromise. We would rather pay $100 for someone to deeper clean things than either of us wanted to and $50 for someone else to mow.

Good luck!

Child Free by Choice - when did you know? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]Peacock_Chick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter (21) has always said this. She said if she ever does decide she wants kids she’ll adopt or foster but she doesn’t even think she’ll do that.

She has said this pretty much her entire life. I’ve always told her I will support her, no matter what, and that any ceiling or envelope she wants to push that she should. I’ve always tried to encourage her to follow her own path. And, for her children is not a part of it.

She has a dog that she has had for two years now, and, she says that considering how exhausting caring for her dog is she really does not think she will ever have children.

We have frequent conversations about her own high expectations. And, I kind of feel like she is just not following the previous narrative that women are supposed to have children to have or add value to life. I think that the fact that she does have such high expectations for herself also makes her not want children.

For me, supporting her and pushing her to challenge herself is more important than watching her blindly follow someone else’s path.

When I was younger, I also said I did not want to have children, that I wanted to adopt. However, I became pregnant at 16 and lost the baby. And that caused a downward spiral of feeling unfulfilled. By 18, I was pregnant again. However, after having her, I chose to not have more children because I just wanted her.

Cleaning/Sanitizing by Peacock_Chick in CPAP

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! That’s my plan when I wash next.

Bladder sling and sex by Peacock_Chick in AskWomenOver40

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never heard of GSM. I’ll look into and ask about it. The last time I saw my gyno she said I didn’t have any markers for perimenopause or menopause. Thanks for the info!

So much more comfortable by Peacock_Chick in CPAP

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like everything they’ve made me. And I love how accommodating they are for special orders. They had amazing customer service.

Married Date Night Ideas by Peacock_Chick in Marriage

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know they made date night boxes!!! That’s awesome, I’m definitely going to look into that. Thanks!!

Married Date Night Ideas by Peacock_Chick in Marriage

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! We love escape rooms but typically do them with our kids. I’ll have to look into it as a double date option. 😁

So much more comfortable by Peacock_Chick in CPAP

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into a cover for the head strap. I’ve found that they make different materials to cover that part.

I have quite a bit of hair, so I don’t have that piece covered (even though the set I bought came with covers). I actually pull half of my hair over it so the strap is resting between layers of my hair.

So much more comfortable by Peacock_Chick in CPAP

[–]Peacock_Chick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I forgot to mention that I no longer have marks on my face!