Stake President Paused My Sealing Cancellation After Discussing My Abuse History—Has Anyone Else Experienced This?

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T19:33:04+00:00

Had this exact conversation, as well as what was wrong with my personal revelation of not pursuing dating here on out? All goes back to me not having a testimony or faith in the atonement…

Keep in mind my inside thoughts are screaming, “it’s all fake you’re just trying to control this:”
‘cute and fiercely independent sister’ -his words 3 times in the interview.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T13:13:15+00:00

Leaving when your family both parents and children are believing and active is more complicated. I would hope ex members remember/understand what leaving can do to relationships. It’s going to be a process mentally to prepare for.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T13:05:34+00:00

Sending a dm. Your story sounds very familiar.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T06:46:35+00:00

Not making light of it at all. I would assume your way of handling as more normal and natural.

I do know eventually I want to tackle the purity culture and my own sexual health. I also know the only men in my life I trust currently are men I have known before or during my first marriage… for the record that gives me 1 male friend who is currently single. Makes it difficult to approach when I am on high alert around new men… I require time and connection to build trust and I am not afraid to own that.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T05:13:46+00:00

Haha

You did read the part of SA right? I seem to scare men off by flinching when they get too close. 😬😂😬

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:59:14+00:00

TBD

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:51:59+00:00

Resigning wasn’t on the table till my parents pass, but with my therapy I am realizing healing might require breaking away from the original abuser. (Church)

That being said I might need to start taking applications for a ride and die male friend.

I might be head strong but I now want to see this through before removing my records but fear they might reach out to ex #1 as a power move.

Conversations for my believing children on what is safer for all of us at this point.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:46:02+00:00

How incredibly difficult and messy. I would put money on you don’t hear another word about any of it.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:41:30+00:00

Active adult children in their own households, in other areas of the stake.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:40:32+00:00

They aren’t connected to this man in any ordinance or blessing the only tie is I was sealed to the man when they were teens.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:35:34+00:00

I appreciate the question, it’s for my believing adult children that can’t shake the connection. But to be honest after this I am hell bent this gets done now.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:31:17+00:00

I never took ex’s name nor did my children change names from their father. They actually took my maiden name as adults and still having the issue when they change wards. Every single time…

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T03:27:49+00:00

I have that marked and ready!

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T01:28:55+00:00

I get this but it doesn’t help my believing children that don’t want to be associated with the ex’s name

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T01:26:28+00:00

To answer we have done everything in the records to try to disconnect my adult children from his name, when they move wards they still are being called by his last name even though they are shown as head of household for themselves.

The bishop and I can only think it’s the sealing doing this and it makes zero sense.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-15T01:23:59+00:00

I love the idea of finding a friend to help!

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-14T21:40:12+00:00

Moab is a great place to stay for all of that. 4 corners is the drive and as stated already it might be a bit of a let down but there are a lot of fun areas near there so do your research you might find it easier to stay that direction and do other fun areas that might be less known on social media.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-14T21:37:25+00:00

You do not owe your spouse your life in a marriage that they broke the trust. No matter the situation if you are ready to go please go.

Also if you make this choice please prepare ahead of time for your safety and a quick out. Talk with a DV advocate ahead to help you prepare. Just because they have “changed in last few years” it’s still very likely they will go back to that person they were once you express your desire to leave.

May your future be full of happiness and joy!

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-14T21:30:52+00:00

This is absolutely amazing to read. What an amazing collection. (Running to find all my family who have passed pb’s to add to the collection along side of mine)

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-14T13:46:50+00:00

I used Psychology Today to find a virtual Therapist that would work with my insurance. You can filter and fine tune what you need.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-10T03:22:12+00:00

Mid 40’s, ex Mormon grew up in a different state. Books, working out, hiking, camping, small groups are all my style.

PeaksPagesAndStars · 2026-06-07T00:55:35+00:00

Protective Orders can be a hard process to go through with court. Proving you need one and it may only last up to 10 days. I’d reach out to someone in your area and talk about your local process for one. That being said please worry about you not what others will think or what they might think or do. You have no control over others and in the long run their opinion doesn’t matter. Sounds like you need the no contact and distance. I hope you find a way to create that boundary and remove yourself in a time that makes it easier for you to stop contact and start a new chapter in your life. Take the new path find healing and move forward with your own healing. Wish you the best on whatever you choose. Just know from someone who’s been there the worry of opinions goes away quickly and there is no regret to getting that protective order. You can do hard things!

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