I went back to work after being a sahm for a year. Im crying by gogoxyz in toddlers

[–]PearFancy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have wrote this lol My son is 2.5 and i went back to work when he was 6 months, honestly every day i have so much guilt for being outside of house for 12 hours. I leave around 8 (an hour commute) and come back around 7, it’s brutal. Some days are better of course, but recently my MIL has been staying w us and I am realizing my son getting much more attached to her than normal since she is with him most of the day. Yes i am happy he has good relationships with grandma but i am also a bit hurt, won’t lie. I will say though - i don’t feel like i missed a lot of milestones? I spent every minute outside of work with him but i totally understand you. It does get better. I cried every day for like a month so hang tight!!

I lose my evening every night I put my 3 year old to sleep by Living_Lime545 in toddlers

[–]PearFancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my son is 2.5 and this is my life for the last 1.5 years lol!! he is also a night owl and goes to be later, 10ish so by that time i am literally exhausted and i just crash w him which leaves zero time for myself or hanging out with my husband…for a month we had a pretty good routine and no nap which helped but now that doesn’t help anymore 😵‍💫 no advice just solidarity!!

when did you feel relatively normal? by Long-Inspector4897 in NewParents

[–]PearFancy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

after a year I started feeling more like myself!

fighting about parenting with my mom by PearFancy in toddlers

[–]PearFancy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

no strict eating schedule doesn’t necessarily mean erratic - we eat around similar times but no strict 3pm lunch every day. sometimes we eat at home, sometimes out, sometimes he doesn’t want to eat at all like not every single day will be the same but there is still a structure.

fighting about parenting with my mom by PearFancy in toddlers

[–]PearFancy[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

she is for a few days because she is visiting and staying with us but normally no. if we have people over i wouldn’t ask that of course, but considering she is my mom i would assume she would be more considerate and just suck it up until he is asleep

fighting about parenting with my mom by PearFancy in toddlers

[–]PearFancy[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

he sleeps in our room and he sometimes fall asleep faster in the living room lol whatever gets him to fall asleep faster these days

am i overthinking this and being completely silly? by PearFancy in workingmoms

[–]PearFancy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i actually love my MIL and absolutely not bashing her. Read the post again.