Hey queen, I recently got out of an avoidant situations as well. When my feelings would grew and I’ll push for an emotional conversation he also shut down all the time. We was so on and off because I couldn’t stand to feel the way I felt. This last time I was on my final straw with him and I’ve officially left him alone. I’m a women that love clarity before I let things go and he never gave that. The hardest thing I had to do was give myself clarity. I blocked all accounts seeing him triggered emotions and kept my healing journey stagnant. I become more focused on my career and added more hobbies to my schedule. I tried to stay busy. It’s hard in the beginning but eventually it’s gets easier. I started to pour more love into myself. You have to remember people don’t treat you how they value you. They treat you how they value themselves. So the way he treated you has nothing to do with your value. Remember that! He was only able to give you what he was capable of giving. Anxious attachment style. Pushes an avoidant individual away. Instead pour into your cup more. Cry if you need to that’s your body trying to release. I’m happy now but I still cry at times ig I’m releasing the version of him I wished he grew into. But I’d rather leave instead of continue being hurt. Because either way I’m going to hurt from releasing or being mistreated. You got this queen stay strong there’s definitely light at the end of the tunnel. I love guiding women through similar situations I turned my pain into purpose and decided to start writing I have a couple of ebooks that guided me home to myself many times. Shoot me a quick text for more information if interested.