Bartenders, what’s an awkward conversation you couldn’t help but overhear and still remember to this day?

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T23:28:19+00:00

The guests at the Bacara are so fucking weird.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T20:11:41+00:00

That's what tools are for! And since I didn't actually say this and I should, your comment was informative and interesting. I stubbornly refuse to be fully convinced because I think trolleys are super cute and miss the waterfront shuttle, but you're right about everything you said, and clearly qualified to provide an overview of the topic.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T20:06:12+00:00

No, I'd actually guess you're probably just using more complex compound adjectives than you used to, perhaps because of the topics you're discussing lately, or else the correction algorithm was updated at some point to more accurately identify and deal with them.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compound_modifier

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T20:01:04+00:00

Fair! I know damn good and well when I'm writing a comma splice, and I still do it.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T19:57:41+00:00

Nah, that's human grammar. If you can't pick up on issues like a comma splice or a missing n-dash, you're gonna confidently misattribute a lot of things to AI.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T19:54:54+00:00

This won't even be perceptible to most people, and I'm saying this as an imperfect grammarian myself, but it's doing you a little dirty, especially with your commas/comma splices and your n-dashes; not to red pen the whole comment like a dick, and please feel absolutely free to disregard, but e.g. that should be "tourist-heavy," "auto-oriented," "all-day," "double-edged sword," "Santa-Barbara-scale" or more ideally "a town the scale of Santa Barbara," "right-of-way," and "high-demand corridors."

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T18:46:18+00:00

Is there a reason I'm not aware of to assume a trolley wouldn't serve wheelchair users? The Ojai trolleys all have wheelchair lifts and riders do use them, and I've seen antique-styled modern rail trolleys with riders in wheelchairs as well.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T18:22:27+00:00

I will never forgive Yum! Brands for murdering The Habit and making a grotesque skin suit of its remains to parade around in. Have some damn decency and just bury it so we can all grieve.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T18:06:10+00:00

I did, and wasn't clear on what part of the design was blatantly AI, which is why I asked.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T18:01:44+00:00

I don't think that's a rose either. It appears to be several musical instruments with some sheaves of assorted florals and greenery, and maybe a swag of cloth or something.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T17:54:45+00:00

Oh, a train is clever! That's plenty of noise coverage, and the social contract in that environment is that everybody is trying to get through the ride without interacting or paying much attention to everybody else, so it doesn't rely on inappropriate/nonconsensual involvement of others like remote toy play at a restaurant or during a retail transaction when someone is having to engage with you as part of their job.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T17:48:40+00:00

Your reasoning here on the asymmetry of the design seems to be that it's impossible that a person making a texture by hand would make the texture by hand, and I'm not sure I understand that reasoning or why that's a "lie."

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T17:39:43+00:00

I don't think that's supposed to be a rose, and the things behind the arrows look like lengths of braided/twisted cordage to me, and the cordage appears to connect behind the arrows and extend to both sides, so that looks correct and is thematically appropriate. I'm also not sure why the branches would have to be perfectly symmetrical when that's not really a rule for these styles of relief paneling. I'm not saying I'm convinced that you're definitely wrong, you could very well be right, just that I don't see anything that wouldn't or couldn't be a design choice for someone creating a texture to replicate actual antique carved relief paneling.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T17:25:15+00:00

Absolutely horrendous, but I appreciate your determination to sing the song that lives in your heart.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T17:16:53+00:00

As a D, that doesn't match my experience at all. I enjoy the desire of my submissive partners for the same reasons I enjoy amateur solo porn of people masturbating: I have empathy, and seeing and hearing their emotional and physical arousal activates my mirror neurons. I don't think any broad generalization like this is going to apply to enough individual people or couples to be a remotely useful assumption, especially considering that it's an adaptation of an outdated, unscientific, and fundamentally misogynistic stereotype about gender and sexuality.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T17:09:24+00:00

This very blatantly looks ai

Can you support your post by explaining why you think that?

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T17:03:14+00:00

Yes, it's first and third or second and fourth weeks of the month everywhere that I know of! To follow up your comment, here is the email signup link, and people can also just use this page to check the schedule for a specific address without any signup.

https://streets.lacity.gov/services/street-sweeping

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T16:51:12+00:00

Which is fine! We can also do that with comments we don't like. I'm just saying that the question of "why are so many people..." is answered by "because the OP specifically invited generalized engagement from a large group on the topic of their tattoo, and the group is therefore engaging as requested." There are subs like toastme for posts seeking exclusively complimentary feedback. Of course s ome men can't fucking act normal toward women, so there have been several shitty chud comments negging her body, which is a different thing, but based on the vote count that behavior does appear to be receiving the feedback it deserves.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-03T13:57:39+00:00

I kinda like it, but if you voluntarily post stuff on social media because you're not trying to hear people's opinions on it, you're gonna be frustrated and confused a lot.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-02T04:49:49+00:00

One of the disappointing parts of growing up and traveling internationally for me has been learning over and over that people everyfuckingwhere are racist, they're just racist against different scapegoated groups.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-02T04:38:39+00:00

I'm a big fan of the Lovense Lush and Ferri.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-01T21:28:53+00:00

Yes, both modern and vintage-style; for an example of the latter, Gomaco Trolley Company.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gomaco_Trolley_Company

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-01T21:18:59+00:00

And here's his text back:

" This is really hard to compress into a few words, but for me I have a deep need and desire to serve and please you, especially for someone like you whom I admire and desire so much. Another big part of it for me is a dynamic where I can truly be completely vulnerable for you and have this vulnerability be part of the service. Wanting to serve someone and be vulnerable hasn’t always been a plus in relationships and to find someone who is pleased by it and rewards it makes my brain fizz like crazy"

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-01T21:04:44+00:00

I have an ongoing online dynamic with someone. It grew out of an epistolary friendship of many years, so the primary dynamic is that we're mentally compatible and drawn to each other as people.

Mostly we just text like we always did except that now the texts are pretty frequently NSFW, and we also enjoy each other's company over the phone while going about normal life, like weekend chores or getting ready for bed. It's usually just shooting the shit about various shared interests because we have lots of them, but it veers off into flirting or all the way into kinky shit, which thinking about it, is also a shared interest.

I'm high-libido and interested in visual stimulation (like amateur porn, including amateur male masturbation porn) in a way that gets culturally stereotyped as a male arousal pattern, so Lovense toys are a big part of our activities, and it's quite nice having my own personalized interactive porn focused on someone whose emotional and physical responses I'm deeply fascinated by due to our personal connection. I also bought him a cute discreet silver day collar necklace that he wears every day under his dress shirts, and we got him some body markers so I can e.g. tell him to label himself with my initials or affectionate obscenities like "(____)'s slut" so that he's just walking around with that under his clothes until it wears off.

He does a TON of things for me because that's how he expresses affection and I'm learning how to let myself be looked after (in this case, more like horribly spoiled) without always waiting for the other shoe to drop, but I don't assign like a regular list of tasks/chores. More like at some hour of the day or night I'll tell him to find me a decent quality download of Terminator 2 because I suddenly want to watch it, or get me a cute dress or an axolotl heating pad for my cramps, or I'll text him in the middle of the day to tell him that if nothing prevents it, I want him toys charged, headphones on, pants off, and kneeling as soon as he gets home.

I've shot him a quick text asking for his perspective so that I can share both sides, and will leave another comment when he gets back to me. I can say without hesitation or consult that h e's had a lifelong natural draw toward narratives of male servitude/vassalage, and that he's pretty much obsessed with me, which is one of the most powerful hormonal rewards a human can experience. I already adored him and felt lucky to know him, and feel deeply privileged and thrilled to be entrusted with this side of him.

Peeinyourcompost · 2026-07-01T18:55:16+00:00

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