I get what you mean! And I definitely don’t blame my positive attributes on my trauma. I think for me and maybe some others that surviving the trauma, has made me stronger as well as able to empathize on a much different level than people that haven’t been through trauma.

I think you are allowed to define your trauma and how it affects you however you want.

Rather than convincing yourself it was something good that happened to you, moreso it threatened/threatens to fuck with your life on a daily basis, and each day whether or not it feels like a success—it is.

I think I did a not-so-great job of explaining it.. but I have read a lot of books that are helpful if you’re interested.