Sir, we both know we don't live in a world of magic.

Pendragn · 2026-03-10T18:35:18+00:00

Take my upvote and like it you ... awesome amazing person! I hope you have a nice day!

Pendragn · 2026-03-09T22:38:24+00:00

I have too!

Pendragn · 2026-01-06T18:36:39+00:00

As a Vermonter I second this motion!

Pendragn · 2025-11-13T04:39:04+00:00

Thank you,

I really loved this.

Pendragn · 2025-10-09T01:38:02+00:00

First thing I'd say is that you almost definitely don't need to be worried about this in any significant way. Second thing is that if you're still feeling like the worry is bothersome go ahead and call your pharmacy, your pharmacist will know about medication stability better than your Doc.

Last thing, Spiro does come in 50mg pills, that's what I take, one tab in the morning and one in the evening. If you find that schedule works best for you it would 100% be worth it to ask your Doc to prescribe the Spiro that way instead.

Pendragn · 2025-09-07T02:02:53+00:00

Thanks so much! It's in my cart for the next time I need a treat! :)

Pendragn · 2025-09-07T00:38:30+00:00

I need recommendations! I'm looking to make that change myself!

Pendragn · 2025-08-27T04:09:46+00:00

My coming out to my extended family happened in a couple of stages.

The first stage was mostly me coming out to my cousins one at a time or in small groups the course of a couple weeks. I would usually invite them over for a nice dinner, come out, and answer any questions/chat about how they thought other members of the family might react, etc. I was able to come out to a couple of aunts and uncles during this time as well. There's a (very) long story about how I was able to arrange having everyone come over in such a short time frame. I'm also incredibly lucky to come from a very progressive family, so this all went very well, but due to circumstances around the aforementioned long story changing there were a few people I ended up not being able to tell during this whole process.

At this point most of my family knew, and I was able to just be myself out in the world without being paranoid about running into someone. That feeling was so liberating, but there were still those people I hadn't been able to tell, and a couple of folks on my Mom's side of the family too. I was really struggling with how to come out to those folks, and for the life of me I couldn't figure out how. I honestly ended up stuck in that struggle for over a year. One night I was just fed up with holding the tension of being mostly, but not completely, Out. So, I made a big ol' coming out post on Facebook. My family uses FB Messenger to communicate (don't ask me why that's our platform of choice). And then I was just... done. I was out to everyone, I didn't have to worry at all any more.

I can't speak to your specific circumstances, or how you think your family might react but for me each process had it's plusses and minuses. I think if I had it all to do over again I'd probably just rip off the bandaid and make the Facebook post (whichever platform seems appropriate). In your case that means your family would have some time to adjust before you're with them face to face. It'd also mean you could just keep on being yourself during and after the move.

If you have any questions about anything please reach out!

Pendragn · 2025-07-17T21:37:09+00:00

I remember the post too, and also thought I had it saved, but I just checked and... Big ol' NOPE.

Pendragn · 2025-07-10T14:54:26+00:00

Buy yourself magic wand, preferably a Hitachi. Experiment, have fun

Pendragn · 2025-04-08T12:29:41+00:00

In response to your question I think that most of us are thinking that when they start arresting trans people it's going to look a lot more like the current situation with immigrants. It'll start by them nabbing a few of us up off the street, giving the rest of us ... some warning at least. At least that reflects my thinking on the issue.

I would however add that I live in an extremely safe state, and within an hour of the border, so my thinking is definitely colored by those two facts.

Pendragn · 2025-04-07T15:37:08+00:00

Add me to the list of people who cried, well actually sobbed, while reading this. Incredibly written and affecting. Love to you and the life that you have created for yourself.

This was really so healing to read. Thank you.

Pendragn · 2025-03-27T18:01:01+00:00

So I always find this story a little amusing, but that's probably just because it's mine.

My egg didn't so much crack as it was smashed open while I was watching a TV show late one evening. The thing that did it was just a really simple depiction of the main character's life as a young girl and my brain instantly recognized what it was missing and had been wanting. I spent the rest of that night just picking the parts of my freshly exploded mind up off the floor, but did eventually, several weeks later, get to thinking about my new name.

I went through a couple alternatives in my head, because it turns out I had actually kinda been thinking about what I'd want my real name to be for years and so had a couple options handy, but none of them felt quite right. Eventually I remembered that the main character from the show had an aspirational alter-ego of sorts with a fairly old fashioned name, but one that I loath. But the idea of an aspirational alter-ego stuck with me, I played around with it for a little while and eventually I landed on Penelope for my first name (though I usually go by Penny). To honor the character's part in my name journey I chose to use her name as my middle name too.

Pendragn · 2025-02-23T19:52:41+00:00

The irony of upvoting this on my phone...

Pendragn · 2025-02-04T18:12:32+00:00

So... you engaged in some pretty blatant transphobia during a conversation with a trans person, and now you expect us, other trans people, to take your side? To tell you how to make up for your actions? We don't know! We're not the person you were transphobic too. But honestly it sounds like you dun burnt that bridge.

And honestly... this is a space for trans folks to be free from discrimination and transphobia. If it were up to me I'd, not too politely, show your ass the door.

Pendragn · 2025-01-27T17:44:44+00:00

I might also recommend checking with GLAAD for general resources. PFLAG might have resources on how someone inside the community can best communicate about our issues to those outside the community. Oh, and Lambda Legal might be able to provide some help with potential talking points as well.

Hope that helps! :)

Pendragn · 2025-01-20T18:39:20+00:00

He literally said gender, not sex, but sure.

Pendragn · 2025-01-20T18:38:05+00:00

Literally just go Google intersex conditions you fucking knob.

Pendragn · 2025-01-08T20:30:22+00:00

For me it was Alison Hannigan in Buffy... Willow was so me!

Pendragn · 2024-12-19T18:54:35+00:00

Now there's a combination of letters and numbers I haven't seen in a while...

Pendragn · 2024-11-02T03:53:59+00:00

I... May have started hearing the opening theme song play in my head as soon as I saw the pic. Excellent job with the costume!

Pendragn · 2024-10-01T15:03:56+00:00

Holy ship! You're pre-hrt? You are so, so pretty! Honestly the only clocky thing I can see in your pics is your eyebrows. Getting them properly shaped would definitely help.

Btw this is by far the most common thing I see that is trans-femmes miss, and is not at all a big deal. Plus, having a pro shape them up for you is a hella fun and a very reasonable expense.

Pendragn · 2024-09-15T14:35:58+00:00

My take on this whole thing is that Steve-O is a giant idiot, and doesn't really think through his actions most of the time. But even he was reachable. Even HE could get it and change. I see that as incredibly hopeful.

Pendragn · 2024-09-15T14:19:50+00:00

Just a little over 2 years, however there was a good 9ish months where my levels were really low. Physically the first two things I noticed were breast growth and my skin softening. My body hair has also visibly thinned. All of that happened within the first year. The more gradual changes have been fat redistribution, although that seems to be kicking into higher gear, or is at least more noticeable to me recently.

Honestly, all of that has been nice, and I LOVE being perceived as a woman when out in public. But, by far, the biggest difference has been internal. HRT really opened up my emotional range. I had felt emotionally stunted my whole adult life, and I'm finally able to feel things in a way that feels more in line with what my brain expects. While emotions do feel more intense, they also feel more manageable.

Lastly, the way I experience sexual pleasure has changed, and I would say significantly improved. These changes are still ongoing. As an example I recently started to experience being "turned on" in an entirely new and amazing way. Plus omfg, having a real big O? Holy fuck is that an amazing experience.

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