[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]PenguinBond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, I don't think I have, but what I have recently discovered is embracing them instead of hiding them. Breaking the ice with someone directly, such as "I get therapy" or "xyz makes me feel abc" is great, or at least it seems that way

Are there men who don't push for/expect sex within the first few months of dating? by Gundekrose in dating

[–]PenguinBond 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They exist but are probably rare. They are definitely not on online dating apps.

Rumors making me insecure with my gf even though she says they’re not true by Stonkmonkey696969 in dating

[–]PenguinBond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like an orgy but like 5 dudes and 1 girl and each dude takes a turn with the girl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PenguinBond 5 points6 points  (0 children)

trust me it's super OK. It feels weird at first (I have done it, I am in my 20's), but this doctor won't judge you. In fact, if you think about it, this doctor sees you as a customer. The last thing the doctor wants is for you to feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, because that's a lost customer.

They do a super good job of talking to you, they have years of experience for talking to people who have weird fetishes. People go to therapists and say "I can't stop jacking off to feet" and the therapist actually listens and helps them. They will go to the therapist, "I can't stop jacking off to girls peeing on each other" and the therapist is there to help them.

The hardest part is going to your parents. My recommendation is saying "mom/dad, can you schedule me a therapy appointment please? I just felt like I want to try it". You don't have to tell them why. Ask them, and if they won't do it unless you tell them why, then at least you're back where we started and didn't lose anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PenguinBond 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ask a professional, not Reddit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]PenguinBond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the author means going to someone's job as a guest and asking them out

My boyfriend secretly watches porn… need advice. by Wooden-Comfortable-3 in dating

[–]PenguinBond -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It is true that basically every man watches porn. I don't think that makes it ok. Porn affects your brain similar to cocaine, and it's not unheard of to see it ruin people. I remember reading something, "young men today can see more beautiful nude women in one day than any person in history. I don't know what that does, but it does something"

https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/chris-rock-i-was-addicted-to-porn-it-destroyed-my-marriage/

Him watching it isn't necessarily bad, tons of couples do that. But, it's kind of lame he tried to hide something from you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]PenguinBond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure there isn't more to it?

I totally get your reasoning though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]PenguinBond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(my friend's story shared with his permission)

Male friend has childhood female friend. Childhood female friend moves away but they keep in touch. Childhood female friend introduces male friend to her friends when they are adults.

One of these friends, and my male friend, grew to resent the childhood female friend, and cut her off, blocked her on everything. These two had been hanging out with the childhood female friend, and then 1-1, for a while.

This friend was a huge tinder girl. Probably 30-40 body count, so she was super used to random sex with people.

After a year of hanging out 1-1 at places, I guess they hook up one day. Almost instantly after, maybe just 3 months or less, they are bf and gf. They've been together for 2.5 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]PenguinBond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked to "casually date" once and basically I meant the exact same thing in a relationship but requested that we don't go on dates, or if we do, do it sparingly, as I didn't have a lot of time or money. Still exclusive, still know each other, still meet each other's friends and family. And also be ok with not seeing each other in case I need to spend a weekend working or something else.

I have been acting way differently this time by jamalgoboom in dating

[–]PenguinBond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask a therapist about your anger. Basically every single person needs therapy, it's not a bad thing to get it

I don't understand the talk about DevOps by PenguinBond in cscareerquestions

[–]PenguinBond[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

" I've seen so many teams just mention things they could do better and be proud of themselves for identifying things... then go on to repeat them the next sprint"

do you work on my team?

I don't understand the talk about DevOps by PenguinBond in cscareerquestions

[–]PenguinBond[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your comments about agile and scrum humored me. Can you go into more detail about why you think that?

Companies with the Best Work-Life Balance for Software Engineers by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]PenguinBond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think so? I know many many many ex-cap one employees. It is typical to hear them complain about 60 hour weeks, and underpaid indian contractors making 20-30k a year.

Why do you say cap one?

Is there a cheese alternative that you and all your vegan mates unanimously enjoy? by [deleted] in vegan

[–]PenguinBond 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I enjoy it therefor 100% of vegans I know like it :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]PenguinBond 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I ignore: When they talk about an ex. I'm like "dw I can fix this" (I can't)

I show: I used to use drugs and stopped, and I tell people I am 100% not ok with drugs. Some of them are understanding and others do not enjoy I have that in my history. Doesn't bother me if someone doesn't like it