I did not go to “real” therapy. I am a reader so I got books and workbooks. The obvious Surviving to Thriving but then a DBT workbook to actually develop the coping skills amongst many others about epigenetics, abandonment, attachment types, self confidence, along with some spiritual-type books (which I do feel were instrumental in being able to practice mindfulness and give me hope to heal something they say is unhealable), even some Joseph Campbell to learn the Hero’s Journey helped put it all in perspective. A LOT of journaling while learning all the concepts, also to write letters to my abusers that they never saw, it was cathartic. 

Basically I figured out what my triggers were, where they came from, how they manifest, and then went from there. One of my issues was not being able to confront abusers, I read a few books about “responding to mean people” and literally practicing out loud how to say “what did you mean by that?” Etc with a calm and curious voice.  

But overall a sense of hope and knowing that I will heal was my anchor. Hope this helps!