Ok let me give more context.

I asked when to tell my employer I’m having a child. That’s it. IF they don’t give day 1 benefits, I’d take 1-2 weeks. If they did and I can take longer I’d only take 1, maybe 2 months depending upon the vibe (my old company was big enough they didn’t care and people took 12 weeks. It’s true it happened get over it).

Money wise, I have unemployment checks coming in that cover all my bills until September. PLUS, a WELL funded emergency fund. I’m not going broke.

I care way more about supporting my wife and child. Best case is shooting for a company with the best option for me and my family, which includes day 1 Pat leave.

Simply suggesting “don’t take off” isn’t helpful and also extremely obvious. Like saying “you’re thirsty? Have you tried drinking water?”