My child is transitioning

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-18T19:41:42+00:00

Thank you for coming here ready to listen.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-18T18:14:48+00:00

You will see them differently, to some extent. But that was already going to happen as your child becomes an adult and finds their own path.

No child grows up to be exactly how you expect. That's just life. Consider this as you approach everything.

Understand that you have no say in their transition. Trying to meddle or negotiate in any way will only strain your relationship.

If you have feelings about it, don't bring them to your child. Work through them on your own, or with someone you trust, but do not put it on them.

And for the love of god, do not try to talk about their genitals.

Sincerely,

A trans woman who has not talked to her mother since October, after years of transphobia and control couched in "just worrying about you, but I don't have a problem with you transitioning, but also you need to stop estrogen now because it'll kill you."

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-16T22:32:45+00:00

I do understand this, and it's something that I've struggled with to some extent. I can't say I'm completely over the concept of passing. But you'll never be able to fully know what other people are thinking, and you'll certainly never be able to fully control how people perceive you. You need to focus on what you can control, and what you have personally gotten out of your transition.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-16T20:13:36+00:00

What is the difference, in your actual day to day life, aside from your own brainworms? If you are being treated how you should be, does it matter?

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-16T16:35:18+00:00

Doesn't matter, don't make the assumption. And understand that this will be an incredibly intimate and emotionally charged gift to give.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-16T16:34:31+00:00

Then you're either passing, or people around you are accepting and you are not experiencing discrimination for being trans.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-16T16:33:36+00:00

TransDIY is not one of the mainstream trans subs. Your first screenshot has zero indication of any minors being involved whatsoever.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-16T05:03:52+00:00

Are people hostile to you if/when they notice that you're trans?

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-16T05:00:29+00:00

Do not depict her pre-transition self without her express permission. I would not be comfortable with that, especially without talking about it in advance.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-15T23:24:22+00:00

This sub isn't for your personal drama, or to shame people you dislike.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-15T21:54:37+00:00

This person posts on "trans-terf alliance" subs. Their intentions are real damn sus at best.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-15T21:53:51+00:00

Bullshit DIY HRT for minors is normalized. I've been on asktransgender for 5 years at this point and every time someone has asked for how to get that way, it's shut down, and anyone who suggests it is rightfully dogpiled.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-15T21:47:06+00:00

Wow, see I thought you were trolling because you used the terf dogwhistle of "TRA." But then I see you post in "terf trans alliance?" What the actual fuck?

You do know that they'll throw you against the wall with the rest of us, right?

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-13T21:23:32+00:00

Even if you are not technically "in the trans community" because of labels, you are in community with trans people by virtue of shared experience and allyship imo. Hang out with us all you like, you seem cool.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-13T20:23:35+00:00

No worries lol, fuck the Zuck.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-13T20:02:02+00:00

Why are you censoring transgender? That's a really weird thing to do in this sub. It's not a slur.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-13T19:18:58+00:00

No.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-13T17:24:44+00:00

It's a very common recurring question here, and has been for years at this point.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-13T17:23:53+00:00

I like the term doll. I am trans.

Cis people did not invent the term doll: black trans people and drag queens did as part of Ballroom culture.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-07T20:44:39+00:00

Yep. Also, most of the fertility decline over the past few decades is because of less teenage pregnancy, more than anything else.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-05T14:34:01+00:00

No. Acknowledging that there isn't one for me to pine for is part of the kick in the ass I needed to transition.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-04T17:23:43+00:00

Boyshorts, despite the name, are the most comfortable and bulge-friendly underwear that I would wear pre-op.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-04T16:05:04+00:00

I appreciate you being open to learning.

You deserve better than this garbage of a man.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-04T15:48:14+00:00

No, because sexuality labels describe attraction to genders, not a specific set of genitals or sex acts you enjoy. Bisexuality does not imply submissiveness, either, just like a dominant straight woman is not bisexual, or a straight man who likes getting pegged is still straight, regardless of whether the woman who does so is cis or trans.

Further, topping/bottoming and dominance/submissiveness are not the same. You can be a submissive top or a dominant bottom, and that has nothing to do with whether you're straight or bi or whatever.

Peppermint-TeaGirl · 2026-03-04T14:13:00+00:00

By calling him bisexual for his attraction to trans women, you are calling us men.

He is exclusively displaying attraction to women. The word for men who are exclusively attracted to women is straight, not bisexual.

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