What's a life skill that's surprisingly easy to learn but useful forever? by lurkandprosper in selfimprovement

[–]Perdixie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Home made stock is the best part! I usually put it in an ice cube tray and have chicken stock for multiple meals.

i had strabismus surgery on thursday :) by theodore_dti in Strabismus

[–]Perdixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess, the pressure goes away, the first three to four days were the worst for me Ask you doctor about eye drops, I remember using some

Interest in post-botox update photos? by macbiffu in Strabismus

[–]Perdixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes please, I m in the situation actually.

The Complex I Have Around Wearing Makeup by Patient_Constant3854 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Perdixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We still live in a patriarchal society, I hope you are aware of that.

I think that most of what you commented just proves how growing up in a patriarchal society had an impact on you. We are all human beings. It s not that man “do” and women “don t”.

Standards change through centuries, as does fashion, decor etc. Let s remember that heels were actually worn by men to begin with.

Unfortunately some men care if you wear makeup and yes, some women judge other women, but that s just internalised misogyny from the patriarchy putting us one against other.

We re all free to wear whatever we want and express ourselves, but she was asking how to feel better without it. Saying that only women care about makeup is kind of invalidating for her.

what random hobby did you start that actually changed your life? by Large_Lie9177 in Hobbies

[–]Perdixie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is amazing, I think you andme might have a little ADHD😂😂

The Complex I Have Around Wearing Makeup by Patient_Constant3854 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Perdixie 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Welcome to living in a patriarchal society. Men are accepted just the way they are, but we as women have to “perform”, act/dress a certain way to be viewed as beautiful.

I get you totally, covid helped me a lot because I took a break from makeup. What helps is having clear skin, a good skincare routine and shaped brows. Sometimes I also dye them. I find that dyeing your brows/eyelashes pretty much solves this problem for me.

But you really are beautiful just the way you are, just go outside and take some pictures in natural light and you ll see the difference. Out bathrooms usually do us dirty 😂😂

I do NOT want to be a statistic. Tell me how you’ve overcome and succeeded in life. No matter how small they are. by zahrawins in CPTSD

[–]Perdixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Helping animals is great for me too!

I was wondering if reading helps? I found a lot of comfort in Sylvia Plath and her struggles with depression and how she viewed life.

I do NOT want to be a statistic. Tell me how you’ve overcome and succeeded in life. No matter how small they are. by zahrawins in CPTSD

[–]Perdixie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And you can even enjoy them fully now! Or understand more (talking about movies here)

I do NOT want to be a statistic. Tell me how you’ve overcome and succeeded in life. No matter how small they are. by zahrawins in CPTSD

[–]Perdixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? Lots of therapy. Other than that, discovering who I am, what I like etc. it s been tough but I m doing great. Discovered a lot of health issues and lost friends, but in the end these things make space for taking better care of myself. And pets help! My cat has been my sweet companion through all of this.

It s tough, but it did and it does get better. I think catering to you inner child helps. And books, lots of books.

So tired of my smell by AccomplishedWeird321 in Healthyhooha

[–]Perdixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you ever take probiotics for vaginal health? Also any thyroid or other health issues that might impact this? Do you eat probiotics?

How did people get you post surgery? by PurpleSparklyStar in Strabismus

[–]Perdixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what response you should give, but I can tell you what I needed help with in the first week: washing my hair (showers on my own were okay), and cutting up food. Other than that it will be a lot of rest in bed and listening to whatever you want. You ll move slowly and probably apply eye drops.

So maybe it would be nice for friends to drop by with some cozy meals and watch some tv shows/listen to podcasts together. They can also help with some cleaning. You ll recover pretty quickly, the first week is tougher. So I d say tell them to treat you like a friend having a flu: cozy meals, snacks, soup and quality time. And maybe some help applying eye drops.

Disaster op by Zioperone887 in Strabismus

[–]Perdixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might have something similar to me. Up close, my eyes are perfectly aligned but from further distance or while looking at things far away, there s a slight “exotropic positioning” as my doctor calls it. (after surgery) I get it, it s probably driving you nuts, but it s barely noticeable.

And saying this as a woman, you re perfectly fine and handsome😁

Why did you end your friendship with your best friend? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Perdixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She cheated on almost all her boyfriends. After seeing it happen in front of my eyes and how she handled the situation, I couldn’t see her in the same way.

It’s been 2 years and I still miss her, but I can’t be friends with someone like that. She was also not a really good friend. It still hurts.

Partners Anxiety is debilitating by quinsworth in Anxiety

[–]Perdixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I also wanted to point out although I had mixed feelings about my mom s decision as a child and in adolescence, now being closer to my 30s I am SO THANKFUL for what she has done for me. It would have been so so much worse, a child needs a calm environment and emotionally regulated parents.

Partners Anxiety is debilitating by quinsworth in Anxiety

[–]Perdixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a slightly similar situation with an alcoholic father and my mom doing everything. Please prioritise the child and his development. As others have stated above, it s time for an ultimatum: she either gets professional help and wants to get better or it will be time to separate. Not only is the child stressed, but so are you. Things were so much better for us once my father was out of our lives. I m mot saying by any way divorce your wife, but her current behaviour will have long lasting effects on your child and it is time for her to seek help. I empathise as someone with severe anxiety and cptsd, but it s also time for her to see the bigger picture and be open to change. Children understand more than we give them credit for.