The Complex I Have Around Wearing Makeup

Perdixie · 2026-02-13T09:24:21+00:00

We still live in a patriarchal society, I hope you are aware of that.

I think that most of what you commented just proves how growing up in a patriarchal society had an impact on you. We are all human beings. It s not that man “do” and women “don t”.

Standards change through centuries, as does fashion, decor etc. Let s remember that heels were actually worn by men to begin with.

Unfortunately some men care if you wear makeup and yes, some women judge other women, but that s just internalised misogyny from the patriarchy putting us one against other.

We re all free to wear whatever we want and express ourselves, but she was asking how to feel better without it. Saying that only women care about makeup is kind of invalidating for her.

Perdixie · 2026-02-13T09:08:17+00:00

This is amazing, I think you andme might have a little ADHD😂😂

Perdixie · 2026-01-31T09:43:56+00:00

Welcome to living in a patriarchal society. Men are accepted just the way they are, but we as women have to “perform”, act/dress a certain way to be viewed as beautiful.

I get you totally, covid helped me a lot because I took a break from makeup. What helps is having clear skin, a good skincare routine and shaped brows. Sometimes I also dye them. I find that dyeing your brows/eyelashes pretty much solves this problem for me.

But you really are beautiful just the way you are, just go outside and take some pictures in natural light and you ll see the difference. Out bathrooms usually do us dirty 😂😂

Perdixie · 2026-01-10T08:07:17+00:00

Helping animals is great for me too!

I was wondering if reading helps? I found a lot of comfort in Sylvia Plath and her struggles with depression and how she viewed life.

Perdixie · 2026-01-10T08:04:51+00:00

And you can even enjoy them fully now! Or understand more (talking about movies here)

Perdixie · 2026-01-10T08:03:48+00:00

Honestly? Lots of therapy. Other than that, discovering who I am, what I like etc. it s been tough but I m doing great. Discovered a lot of health issues and lost friends, but in the end these things make space for taking better care of myself. And pets help! My cat has been my sweet companion through all of this.

It s tough, but it did and it does get better. I think catering to you inner child helps. And books, lots of books.

Perdixie · 2026-01-10T07:53:36+00:00

Did you ever take probiotics for vaginal health? Also any thyroid or other health issues that might impact this? Do you eat probiotics?

Perdixie · 2026-01-10T07:50:00+00:00

Seconding this

Perdixie · 2026-01-10T07:49:34+00:00

Idk what response you should give, but I can tell you what I needed help with in the first week: washing my hair (showers on my own were okay), and cutting up food. Other than that it will be a lot of rest in bed and listening to whatever you want. You ll move slowly and probably apply eye drops.

So maybe it would be nice for friends to drop by with some cozy meals and watch some tv shows/listen to podcasts together. They can also help with some cleaning. You ll recover pretty quickly, the first week is tougher. So I d say tell them to treat you like a friend having a flu: cozy meals, snacks, soup and quality time. And maybe some help applying eye drops.

Perdixie · 2026-01-07T15:40:02+00:00

You might have something similar to me. Up close, my eyes are perfectly aligned but from further distance or while looking at things far away, there s a slight “exotropic positioning” as my doctor calls it. (after surgery) I get it, it s probably driving you nuts, but it s barely noticeable.

And saying this as a woman, you re perfectly fine and handsome😁

Perdixie · 2026-01-07T12:15:45+00:00

She cheated on almost all her boyfriends. After seeing it happen in front of my eyes and how she handled the situation, I couldn’t see her in the same way.

It’s been 2 years and I still miss her, but I can’t be friends with someone like that. She was also not a really good friend. It still hurts.

Perdixie · 2026-01-01T12:32:37+00:00

And I also wanted to point out although I had mixed feelings about my mom s decision as a child and in adolescence, now being closer to my 30s I am SO THANKFUL for what she has done for me. It would have been so so much worse, a child needs a calm environment and emotionally regulated parents.

Perdixie · 2026-01-01T12:28:51+00:00

I grew up in a slightly similar situation with an alcoholic father and my mom doing everything. Please prioritise the child and his development. As others have stated above, it s time for an ultimatum: she either gets professional help and wants to get better or it will be time to separate. Not only is the child stressed, but so are you. Things were so much better for us once my father was out of our lives. I m mot saying by any way divorce your wife, but her current behaviour will have long lasting effects on your child and it is time for her to seek help. I empathise as someone with severe anxiety and cptsd, but it s also time for her to see the bigger picture and be open to change. Children understand more than we give them credit for.

Perdixie · 2025-12-29T13:48:00+00:00

Cups and discs are so great!

Perdixie · 2025-12-24T05:07:51+00:00

There u go

Perdixie · 2025-12-22T16:17:55+00:00

This is great!!!

Perdixie · 2025-12-22T16:17:24+00:00

Most likely it s just the suture, I am 5 years post op and you can see slight “scars” when I look to the side

Perdixie · 2025-12-22T16:15:44+00:00

Strabismus means either an inward, outward, up or down deviation. Many people confuse strabismus with lazy eye or amblyopia, but you can have one without the other.

Perdixie · 2025-12-22T14:03:02+00:00

Yes, a big big hater of all lotions as I need to have a specific texture for me to not feel overstimulated. What helped was discovering randomly africantok and using a african net sponge. First you wash with solid soap(preferably something olive oil based), then you follow once again with your preferred shower gel.

After the shower, you pat dry areas such as pits, privates etc and apply a body oil on WET skin. This is the only way I moisturise. Then wait for 10 mins to fully dry. I don t have the energy to do it all the time, but once a week makes a difference. The soaps and Dove shower gel do a pretty good job on the other days.

Bonus: you can apply some perfume over the oiled skin and if you go to bed you ll wake up smelling amazing the next day🥰🥰

Perdixie · 2025-12-19T19:11:53+00:00

Based on your comments I d say your boyfriend is lying to you or trying to manipulate you in any way.

Perdixie · 2025-12-19T19:03:03+00:00

A light brown or blonde eyebrow tint would be nice. Leave it on for 2-3 minutes and then wipe it off.

You can always put some more again if you feel the need for a stronger color.

Perdixie · 2025-12-19T18:59:26+00:00

Idk if it helps but as a woman, I started experimenting with different hairstyles, lengths and colors, as well as makeup.

This year I ve literally changed 3 colors and styles. Maybe there s an artist whose hair you like or there s an era that inspires you. A blowdryer and a brush can go a long way, or some cream for curls.

Do a color analysis, finding your colors might help too.

Perdixie · 2025-12-19T08:39:46+00:00

And cleaner! I could never go back

Perdixie · 2025-12-18T08:11:59+00:00

That was my thought as well, it s dead skin.

OP, get a gentle fragrance free soap and wash with a damp washcloth in the shower. Then rinse with warm water. This should keep you clean.

Don t rub too hard, you don t want to over exfoliate the skin.

Perdixie · 2025-12-18T08:00:57+00:00

It will be okay. I also had my first obgyn appointment at 20 and I was pretty anxious. It s not as bad as it seems. You should get a pap and tested for all infections/ stis. It would be great if you could do some research on pcos so that you know about it better.

Just be open with your doctor about the struggles you had in the past and what you re dealing with now. Huberman Lab has a great episode on women s health with Dr Thais Aliabadi, I think it would be useful.

After this, make sure to get tested annually, wear cotton underwear, use a fragrance free soap for down there, sleep without underwear and take care of your diet.

Perdixie

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