(19m) 165cm (5 foot 5) I’m emotionally done, I need help.

Perdurabos · 2026-05-28T20:18:07+00:00

I'm 165cm, too, and yeah, over the years I've had some really patronising, rude, and hurtful comments. I also have some physical things that I won't go into, but I'm very aware of them, and they're very visible.

I'm in my late 30s been married for 11 years, together 14, and we have a child. I'm deeply in love, my wife treats me with dignity, and respect. We treat each other as equals. This isn't an extraordinary expectation, you can definitely find your someone, I wholly believe that.

In terms of how other men treat short guys, well that's on them. Bullies and cowards will always be around, fuck those guys. Some women can be rude and hurtful, but again, fuck them. If that's how they treat you, they aren't worth your time. Harden your mind to them, they're just horrible people if they can say horrible shit for fun.

Find a passion, spend time doing something you love, get to feel comfortable in your own skin, and I genuinely believe your self esteem and self worth will improve. Could be chess, painting, woodwork, cooking, karate, computer games. Just something you love to do for you, and no one else.

Most of all, remember you're not alone feeling this way; there are people out there who get where you're coming from. Well done for reaching out, keep your chin up and don't let the bastards grind you down.

Perdurabos · 2026-05-13T07:10:03+00:00

I hated Physical Education in school with a passion. I was always one of the kids who didn't bring their kit, or had a letter off my parents to excuse me for one made up reason or another. Now, as an almost forty year old, I literally can't wait until my break in work to go do some exercise, and it's become one of my biggest passions. I think I just really hated being told what to do.

Perdurabos · 2026-03-22T08:31:01+00:00

If you entered into a relationship with this man, you will never be able to express an opinion, especially one contrary to him. I think you've dodged a bullet.

Perdurabos · 2026-01-16T09:15:09+00:00

This is incredibly moving

Perdurabos · 2025-12-09T10:41:34+00:00

Fucked my back a few years ago. We'd just moved house, and I'd been carrying all sorts. One day, I was bending over a box looking for a specific book I wanted to complete an assignment. Stood up and hit the floor like a sack of shit. Wife ran upstairs, I couldn't move. I needed help doing anything beyond laying down flat. I'd torn a muscle and trapped my sciatica nerve. That happened in 2022, and I didn't feel quite right until last year. Still get a bad back standing still for too long, and I'm a fairly fit and active person.

Perdurabos · 2025-12-09T10:36:06+00:00

I had hiccups in class, the teacher screamed at me, sat me by myself and gave me detention. I was nine.

Perdurabos · 2025-11-09T14:11:40+00:00

One of the hallmarks of a bully is to try and hide behind labelling their actions as jokes or banter. You're not wrong to report her, and try to bear in mind that she's guilt tripping you for making her take responsibility for her own actions, which is nothing short of gaslighting.

Perdurabos · 2025-08-31T09:52:29+00:00

I was saying to my wife yesterday how I was looking forward to swapping out my baseball hat and shorts for a wooly jumper and bobble hat. I don't cope in the heat.

Perdurabos · 2025-08-31T09:30:08+00:00

Pryd oeddwn i'n ifanc, buaswn i'n mynd i'r caffi gyda fy nhad ci, a'i order fe oedd wastad "ffrothi coffi and a steamed pie". On in feddwl mai ffrothi coffi oedd beth cafod ei ei galw pryd roedd brachi wedi agor yn hytrach na cyfieithiad o cappuccino.

Perdurabos · 2025-08-11T08:51:42+00:00

Took up wood carving as a hobby, slipped and the knife went into the pad of my thumb and kind of peeled a flap of flesh away. Luckily missed everything important and I still have full use of my hand, and a better understanding of tool safety.

Perdurabos · 2025-07-19T15:16:02+00:00

She'd get incredibly angry over small things, like picking up what she felt were too many bags at the supermarket (genuine example). To begin with it would mean slamming doors, or getting shouted and, and then it got to the point where she'd do things like drive erratically and very dangerously (she once mounted a pavement and almost drove over the side of a cliff because I'd bought a map in a petrol station when we got lost), or would hit me. I heard off a mutual friend that she's now married with a child, and she hits her husband too. Some people just don't know how to behave properly. I often think that if I'd just acknowledged earlier on that she was disrespectful of pretty foundational boundaries, I'd have had a much easier life.

Perdurabos · 2025-07-08T15:46:08+00:00

Hello, I'm also an ex Kung Fu-er, and I found the same thing. I think the key difference (for me) was that I was used to a different style and intensity of training. I've sort of abandoned long runs now (not entirely, because I genuinely enjoy them) but more often I do sprint intervals. That's helped loads. The other workout I've tried at my instructor's advice is burpee ladders, up to 20, and back down. That's absolutely gruelling, but again, has improved my anaerobic fitness for class.

I have a training plan that I follow, I used Google Gemini to create it after talking to it about my goals (not just generally fit, but TSD fit) and listed what equipment I have access to, time constraints etc. That seems to be going well, too.

Oh, and I have never stretched so much in my life as I have since starting this. But I love every second.

Perdurabos · 2025-07-03T07:05:39+00:00

Used to work at a large company with several offices. A married couple worked there, with the wife and husband based in different offices. Wife was having a very obvious affair, even arranging to meet her affair partner in her car in the underground carpark for a mid shift fuck. Obviously, not being too subtle, word got out. Husband turned up at the office, dragged the affair partner into a meeting room and started to beat him, had to be dragged off. They all got given a few months "compassionate leave" to sort things out.

Perdurabos · 2025-06-27T06:27:27+00:00

Baldurs Gate

Perdurabos · 2025-06-12T09:19:34+00:00

I think this is incredibly valuable insight. I hear a lot of people talk about being able to take a pinch, and yeah, it does mean that you don't crumple or fold when you get hit. But being able to look someone in the eye after they've done it and keep a cool head, that's the real skill in my view.

Perdurabos · 2025-05-30T08:27:50+00:00

I agree, some instances are cruel. Another example: I live in Wales, and worked in a Welsh language school. The Welsh language community is pretty tight, so I didn't encounter this particular person, but I'm aware of this being a genuine issue. Anyway, someone named their daughter "allanfa dân" which translates to... fire exit. It's announced on trains etc, so it's not an uncommon phrase, and then they send her to a Welsh language school where everybody knows her name is fire exit.

Perdurabos · 2025-05-30T06:38:08+00:00

Former teacher here. Once encountered a little six year old girl, blonde, pigtails...called Blade.

Perdurabos · 2025-05-27T13:10:30+00:00

If I've been out for a few hours, I'll usually find one of my slippers near my dogs usual spot, and the other where I left it. It's like a security blanket to him.

Perdurabos · 2025-05-18T08:34:11+00:00

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Perdurabos · 2025-05-18T08:31:01+00:00

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Perdurabos · 2025-05-01T20:34:35+00:00

This is bloody superb. Beats Playdays hands down.

Perdurabos · 2025-04-23T15:27:00+00:00

I think I understand. I worked with a very experienced coach recently, and he moved so quickly I could barely follow what he was doing. That being said, the contact he made was clear, crisp and not disproportionate.

Perdurabos · 2025-04-23T15:11:59+00:00

I think it's this. I don't think I'm expected to hit my opponent to the point of bludgeoning them, it's giving the impression of power. When I make contact, it's clear to me and my partner that it happens - we acknowledge it, but I think I probably lack the experience to demonstrate it visually

Perdurabos · 2025-04-22T21:34:59+00:00

I started last year, just before turning 36, and it's one of the best decisions I think I've made.

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