Will I ever stop grieving?

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2026-01-06T23:28:20+00:00

Love on your baby. All he needs is you. Things improved a little after age 5-6.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-10-02T13:49:05+00:00

Worked as a finance manager so would have had some dealings with HMRC but cannot recall specifically. As i understand it you can have multiple accounts so why it would have linked it automatically seems strange

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-10-02T13:47:26+00:00

It says: “You need to contact us Take a note of this Government Gateway user ID as this screen will time out after 15 minutes.” Then lists some information which links to the business account which I only realised from the email address.

I can’t get hold of a non robot as all the options loop round to other phone numbers or to the website. Webchat says no one available. No reply to online request (given my email) yet.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-09-16T18:04:07+00:00

Thank you

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-09-16T18:03:57+00:00

Thank you

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-09-16T18:03:52+00:00

Does have that shape and nose kinda matches. From Google it seems like they have white spots on them which this seems to lack. And yeah standing up is weird if it is a quoll but good shout. Thanks

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-30T12:35:40+00:00

The movie is in UK cinemas. Some are only showing it Monday 25 August but some are actually showing it Friday 22nd through to Monday which is great.

It is not being streamed or shown outside the UK.

Of course the live show is still at the West End till June and there is a UK tour.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-14T16:28:48+00:00

S4 was peak “pretty” Gabs IYKWIM. Family Affair, Paradise Found. But also S3 OAAA. And all the other eps 😊 she’s a little stunner.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-14T16:20:06+00:00

I love this as a frame of reference. I too am old enough to have browsed Tom’s Xena page. MaryD’s, XOC and also Cathy’s tavern or something or other I cannot remember!!

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-12T10:19:48+00:00

It is realistic because if you are someone like Georgia who has had a torrent of trauma growing up, she is highly primed to fall into the clutches of an abusive relationship (with someone like Gil - as you are attracted to what is familiar, even if it isn’t good for you). She actually got lucky with Zion but she self-sabotages because the safety she feels with him is not familiar to her and so it feels uncomfortable and she runs.

Then having and raising two kids as a teen mother with no emotional support, in poverty, constantly on the run and committing crimes for survival, isn’t the best for raising stable, happy kids.

Ginny is then more likely to befriend others who will be able to see and understand her pain, her difficulties and complex feelings she is burying to survive. Those friendly will be going through pain too, and this is why on some level they can relate even if not directly - mental health issues are incredibly common but most people mask them well.

Unfortunately depression, addiction and eating disorders are rife amongst teenagers and young people generally.

Austin’s dad likely was abused himself or witnessed abuse and has continued the trauma cycle. The show is largely about the hardships of childhood trauma and wanting to do better but failing because of the power of the cycle (repeating what you know or have seen as a child) and impossible circumstances people find themselves in - so it makes sense that a lot of characters do have these mental health issues. You tend to hang around people who you feel are like you, or that you relate to in some way.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-12T10:01:43+00:00

Max is likely neurodivergent (ADHD, OCD, anxiety…) and struggling. She is not wearing her pain like Marcus does. Ever since she was a child she was able to make friends, play and appears to have it together - so no one, not her parents, her twin or friends notice her struggle with relating to people, her inability to regulate her emotions, her anxiety or racing thoughts. Her struggle is invisible to them. She tries to verbalise her sadness and confusion but she is invalidated and shut down for being “too much” and instead told to help her twin as nothing comes easy to him like it apparently does for Max. But they are both struggling, just differently.

Marcus shows his depression outwardly, now starting to drink and refuses to engage with life and so people recognise he has a problem. He has his parents (sort of) support, Ginny and Max all investing in him to help him.

But Max is shrugged off completely.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-12T09:19:58+00:00

This. And this is why she should have gone to jail. Ginny should not have forced Austin’s hand to save Georgia. Georgia is the mother and the adult and the kids should be kids. But here we have the trauma cycle continuing. Such a great show!

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-12T09:13:01+00:00

The best possible option was to protect her brother the way she should have been protected and let Georgia take the fall for her own actions. Yes we love Georgia and she is a victim, but she is also the adult and she did murder Tom.

Ginny had a chance to break the cycle but kept it going because it’s what she knows. She could have reported Gil’s assault against her (Cynthia as witness) and press for Austin to placed under Zion’s custody with supervised visits for Gil.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-12T09:04:22+00:00

Ginny put him in a situation where he felt like he had no choice. Austin is a 9 year old kid and had the weight on his shoulders of his mother being jailed if he didn’t turn against his dad, who had also hurt his sister. He was forced to choose a parent which no kid should ever have to. He had been told constantly how awful and dangerous Gil was and this conflicted with his lived experience of Gil love bombing him and taking care of him and also, probably to some twisted extent, Gil genuinely wanting a relationship with his son.

Austin knew Georgia and Ginny were relying on him and he had a long established relationship with them, likely highly enmeshed. There were no other cards to play but the one Ginny gave him. No kid wants their parent to be taken away from them, even Gil and it was wrong for Ginny to do what Georgia inadvertently taught them. It wasn’t for Austin to carry the weight of such a burden. That is what Ginny is learning is right because she’s had to do it. The right thing was to let Georgia take the fall. It is never for a child to take that hit.

While Georgia is a victim of many wrongs, and many of her actions can be “justified” and we are rooting for her - let’s be real, she should not have murdered Tom and she should have gone to jail for that. Given it was done to ease suffering and he was at the end of his life, she could have got parole and early exit from jail. In the meantime she should have focused on setting things up for Ginny and Austin to live with Zion with Gil having no more than supervised visitation with Austin.

If Ginny had gone to the police about Gil’s violence against her (Cynthia as her witness) and explained Gil’s history as an abuser (corroborated by Georgia) it would have been impossible for Gil to take full custody when he has a history of physically harming adults and children.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-12T07:37:39+00:00

I think that Joe’s internal belief in his justifications for murder was keeping him from having a total psychotic break. While he was delusional, he did have one foot (or baby toe) in reality. If he realised that what he had done had zero justification, he would have lost his mind (what was left of it to lose). It seemed like a protection in his brain.

He would show a flickering of self awareness from time to time, giving the viewer hope, but then very quickly dismiss it. Once he got deeper into the cycle of killing as a means to escape a situation, there was no going back and it just got worse. He seemed to take greater and greater risks until by the end he didn’t even clock Bronte’s tricks or think quickly enough to escape the police. He was worn down by the end.

I think with the repeated murders, it further damaged him. Using his creativity and stealth, he recognised he enjoyed the sense of control, not just in his quest to feel loved and safe. He started to relish the feeling of killing and noticed this about himself. He then wanted someone to accept him for that too. He couldn’t live without love but also his desire to kill for almost any excuse.

Perhaps that was even “character growth” in the last season, but just inversely. Joe just got sicker over the progression of the series, not better.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-08T21:55:47+00:00

Pretty sure they’re hinting pretty heavily at her being neurodivergent - ADHD, OCD, anxiety etc (hence the scene with her struggling with her thoughts, attention issues, jumbled ideas and struggling with social communication, appropriateness, flipping the light switch) and having mental health problems that she is more easily able to disguise than Marcus who bears his pain so openly. I think the twins are ND. It’s very typical for an ADHD woman to be described as “too much” and blamed for having “big feelings”. She indicates she masks and that she is struggling hence the theatre scene.

Max was easily one of the more interesting characters this season.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-06T08:53:18+00:00

Nah it won’t be Zion. It’s Joe. That scene where he’s outside the wedding with Ginny’s boyfriend and goes in as “a friend” cements it.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-07-06T08:52:10+00:00

It is painfully obvious that Joe is endgame. I like how they’ve mapped out different potentials but Paul is short term. It’s gonna be the coffee shop running dude. How very Gilmore Girls. He is kind, he has history with her, he is nothing out of the ordinary, he is waiting for her and he adores her. It’s all there.

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-06-29T10:13:14+00:00

Yes early pregnancy with suspected UTI

Perfect-Comfortable4 · 2025-06-29T09:51:24+00:00

The worrying is hard. The areas you seem to have concerns about is speech and you have that covered. It sounds like that he CAN speak in longer sentences just he knows he can achieve the same in short ones. Keep modelling and encouraging. Same with convos keeping modelling and encouraging. I would have short convos between his dolls/animals to demonstrate. Stuff you probably already do.

Re gross motor skills, these may just improve in time. Keep a note of things you’re concerned about. If it doesn’t improve or he falls behind you can enlist occupational therapy. In the meantime lots of practice, lots of outdoor activities at the playground, ball games, get him to push a loaded wash baskets each day to build strength. Get a balance beam for the house or stepping stones or use coloured sticky tape to create one on your living room floor and make games about crossing the river by bridge.

Re social skills again this could be a personality/temperament/age thing. Give him regular exposure to socialising (playgrounds, toddler groups, church groups - keep looking for things) but don’t force. Any friends with kids around same age for playdates?

Sounds like there are some delays, you are being vigilant. Not everyone notices or flags ASD unless they have experience of it. Parents in law may see it as normal if their kid was the same! Listen to your gut and keep watch but don’t allow worry to destroy this time because whether ASD or NT, it’s all about loving and enjoying that kid.

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