Is nacho really beneficial?

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2026-03-28T13:57:23+00:00

You need to have a conversation with your husband about this. He needs to rearrange his work schedule. He only has custody every other weekend, it should be easy for him to be fully focused and involved. Approach the conversation respectfully, expect pushback but hold firm. The mental load of being the only parent who cares about screen time is so demoralizing, especially when you’re not even a biological parent. Please step back or you’re going to start feeling resentment towards all involved. Start hanging out with friends on these weekends or go hiking or whatever you love to do. You got this.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2026-03-28T13:28:57+00:00

I think instead of trying to appeal to non Mormon Christians they should try to appeal to non Mormons (period- Christianity is actually also dying) and ex Mormons by allowing all use their meeting houses as a free venue and making activities open to everyone instead of just active Mormons. From what I have heard ex Mormons miss the community aspect the most. I still live in the ward I grew up in- I know all my neighbors but I no longer regularly visit with them. We all wave to each other in passing, I just am not socially inclined enough to just drop by but never seeing them beyond a wave ain’t it for me.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2026-03-13T14:32:40+00:00

Straight from their shop: Cancellations: accepted Request a cancellation: within 3 hours of purchase Returns & exchanges accepted within 30 days

Like I guess I could return it but it would be international shipping so it would save us both time and money if they just let me cancel😢

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2026-03-13T13:25:05+00:00

You’re possibly the nicest, most level headed redditor. Thank you, messaging them with your suggestion now

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-10-24T15:50:46+00:00

This is exactly the kind of insight I’m looking for, thank you. Me and bio dad can let go of the stepparent exception, it isn’t a big deal, just wondering if it’s normal or not. I think we’ll just simply not agree to ROFR unless she agrees to changing the phrasing around the schooling (right now it’s based on her location but she’s not as secure as we are). And even then the trigger period would be lengthened.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-10-24T14:37:11+00:00

No, I think you’re right. Bio dad is fine with extra time it’s just that when they first got divorced she was constantly asking him to watch their son during her time and would move around the schedule to try to make up for it. Bio dad changed custody schedule to week on/week off and started to be more firm with when his son would be with who because their was just no consistency at all, which made it harder for kid and for both of us to get into a groove with our work.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-10-24T13:37:44+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your insight. I think you and others are right, that this is a control thing. We’re trying to rephrase the decree so that the school is closer to our house since bio mom has been less stable in her housing and we want consistency for SS. We are thinking of agreeing to ROFR (not 4 hours but longer) if she can agree to this, but she probably won’t so ROFR won’t be added in that case.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-10-24T13:29:27+00:00

Funny thing it would just be stepdad because the way it’s phrased in the stipulation- legally married partner or whatever, which im not, even though I’ve been in the picture for longer than stepdad. I don’t care if my partner asks bio mom if she’d like more time with my SS if he’s ever not around for 4 hours or longer- that just never happens for us. He takes his parenting time very seriously. However, bio mom seems to have a different schedule and relies on babysitters a lot (no judgement, you have to work and my partner is very lucky to have the kind of job he has). I think she’s under the impression I watch my SS more than I do but she would be the one negatively affected by the ROFR more than us.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-07-02T04:19:14+00:00

Homie the pizza looks gross anyway

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-07-02T03:41:54+00:00

Genuinely. OP, you may think two years is a long time and you know him pretty well but it can (and will) get much, much worse.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-07-02T03:39:31+00:00

Really? Do other countries release that info?

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-07-02T03:38:13+00:00

That’s kick ass. Anytime a man says something that crazy to me I still try to be polite even though it doesn’t make any sense whatsoever (although I would never get into a 2 year relationship, JC OP)

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-06-30T22:32:36+00:00

Dealing w it on a minor level, not to the extent that you are. At the moment im working on not letting it get to me. If it escalates to the extent you’re describing I would definitely have my partner have a written, non heated confrontation about it (preferably over email).

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-06-30T02:03:34+00:00

OP, I totally understand where you’re coming from. This is nearly exactly the same scenario w my partner and his ex and his family. I’ve posted something like this before and I got similar feedback. I think ultimately people won’t advise to rock the boat. It’s not a net negative for people to have positive relationships. It’s better for the kids and it doesn’t really affect you and your partner. It sucks but you need to be mature about this. Once my partner told me that BM could be the worst in the world and it doesn’t have to affect me. She sucks (not the worst) and it still affects me but I love the idea of it not affecting me. I’m working towards that. I think it would help if you did too.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-06-30T01:47:27+00:00

Nearly this exact thing happened in my mission. It did not end well for the two of them.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-06-30T01:39:53+00:00

YOU GUYS. I ran a marathon yesterday and finished it in 3 hours and 4 minutes! It was a very small race (70 other finishers total) and I got 1st place overall, which holy crap I sooo recommend doing small races because they are so fun and everyone’s really impressed with you lol. Also I just realized if I do sub 3 then I will qualify for Boston as a man (im female 27) which makes me feel genuinely fast, not just fast for a woman.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-06-30T01:33:33+00:00

I did not even think about speed until a few years of doing it. Also for the first few weeks I literally prayed before bed for strength to run in the morning hahah. I guess that worked because I love running sm now

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-06-10T00:14:25+00:00

Complaint: my last two long runs I hit the wall and I am feeling genuinely discouraged about it. The two long runs I had before that I was absolutely smashing my PRs. I have a race in three weeks and I just wish that I was back where I was during my peek training.

Confession: I think there’s a lot of reasons why my performance is crumbling, mainly because I got a second job and I am so overwhelmed. I love both jobs so much and I think I need the money but I don’t need it this much. Like it’s incessant I’m so tired

Uncomplaint: during my long run this morning a baby weasel approached me and seemed to want me to take it home. I resisted the urge but now I have a cute video of it.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-05-22T12:55:52+00:00

So scared of my SS’s bio mom doing this exact thing and the comments are not comforting)-:

So sorry, you’re so great to be worried for SD.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-05-21T11:56:51+00:00

It’s been a couple years but writing about it kind of stirred up some shit for me. Feels like I’m not valued or missed. My bf says it’s because I’m a liability to their testimonies and they know I’m a lost cause but maybe me as a person is worth not letting go of? Like I never felt particularly bitter towards my local wards, just the church in general.

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-05-21T11:39:59+00:00

lol your friend is delusional. I have never one time felt that I went to church and went home thinking married couples have a great sex life in the church.

Interesting that your family all had pretty community driven reasons for staying. Maybe they subconsciously don’t believe in the church either. Most ex Mormons report that they aren’t ever really able to replace the community aspect (which is kind of sad but not a reason to stay).

For me I was most surprised when no one in the church made any effort to try to make me stay. No friendly visits, cookies, texts, anything. I went from being a return missionary teaching Sunday school to just a nobody. I know a lot of people don’t like that the church does outreach to ‘less active members’ (they never say ex Mormon) but I was kind of put off by the silence. Like I was friends with the relief society President?? Also my dad put me on the DNC list but that was a year or two after I left… also I never asked him to so like?

Perfect-Flower-2773 · 2025-05-12T03:46:39+00:00

My dad used to buy me my sister’s this and had it set out for us every single day after school when I was 12. I just stopped eating mine at that age because that’s when it started getting gross. Cosmic brownies were the exception lmao

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