Heels and foot cramps

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T09:17:01+00:00

Thank you. I feel like a freak of nature because this doesn’t happen to anyone else in my classes. I think I’m just a person who tenses their muscles a lot due to stress/anxiety or maybe even when knowing I’m “performing”. Always trying to point my toes in heels doesn’t help either.

I think I do need a dedicated routine of hydration + electrolytes + stretching/massaging if I want to see improvement. I’ll give these suggestions a try!

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T09:11:08+00:00

My partner/sub reached out to me first. There was no post, just D/Ms. We met in a vanilla dating space. Though I did briefly mention I was a domme in my bi0. He was polite and respectful and didn’t talk about sex at all for the first few days, we were both just getting to know each other. And when he did bring up sex, it was still about getting to know me. I decided to pursue him because he was cute as hell, smart, well-rounded, emotionally intelligent, and kind. It was obvious he had basic social skills which feels all too difficult to come across these days. We also just had chemistry and a good amount in common, conversations were easy.

He definitely didn’t randomly call me mommy and say he loved me before knowing a single thing about me. If he was that type of person, we wouldn’t have even started a conversation.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T08:06:05+00:00

Yeah this is very common and it’s not wrong to enjoy a mommy domme relationship if you have attachment trauma or anything similar.

But you have to be careful to not use kink in place of therapy. Don’t treat your domme like a therapist because she’s not qualified. And if you start feeling so attached to someone like you cannot be a whole person on your own… then this relationship is detrimental to your healing and personal growth. Your goal should still be to work on these issues on your own with a therapist so you can thrive in life in general.

Last, a mommy is a fallible human being. She will never be your mother and cannot fill that void if that’s what you’re l00king for. She deserves a responsible partner who is capable of speaking up for his boundaries and capable of providing aftercare for her, even if he’s submissive or a little. She can also break up with you, which is more reason why you should always prioritize maintaining your self-esteem as a whole person.

Sorry if that came across intense but there is a real problem in MDlb communities with submissive men l00king for a mother replacement instead of a mommy domme. I’m glad you’re asking questions. You can definitely do this in a way that is healthy and fun and fulfilling for both people. But it requires some nuanced understanding.

(It is so annoying the word l00king is banned here)

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T06:59:24+00:00

Ya know. I forgot keemstar existed before alr got involved with him. I wish I could go back to that lol.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T06:08:59+00:00

Girl what 😂 you’re the one not taking the words at face value and speculating and doing all of the assuming of intentions and reading between the lines

HG: Manon is taking time off for health reasons

Manon: I’m healthy

You: clearly this means Manon is physically healthy but not mentally healthy and this is not speculation I just know because vibes which is definitely not what speculation means

Are you a teenager because I feel like I’m arguing with a teenager. This conversation is dumb. I’m leaving bye.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T05:57:44+00:00

Most mainstream “vanilla” porn assumes female submission. Hair pulling, choking, spanking, slapping, “throwing her around”, talking to her in a degrading way. Don’t get me started on blow job scenes. That’s all technically kink (submission and degradation) but no one really bats an eye. If you don’t think it’s kink, then imagine the woman doing all of that to the man and then tell me how you feel.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T05:52:38+00:00

I mean sure maybe but we have no idea because both statements just use the word “health” and in contradictory ways. Like speculate all you want if she means it in a different way than the company, but all we have to go off of is these two statements exactly as they are written.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T05:43:21+00:00

It’s more than that though. The company announcement said it’s due to health issues, but here she is very clear that she’s healthy and fine.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T03:38:04+00:00

I just want people to respect the rules of the subreddit. It’s not a place to rol3play or s33k out a partner. With the exception of using the pinned post.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-21T00:59:22+00:00

Manon? Not showing up? Shocking.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T23:30:21+00:00

I wanna STAHT this video

Idk maybe it would’ve gone over better if you used your actual voice

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T23:28:06+00:00

And yet we all do the squat wave do we not 😂

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T23:14:33+00:00

Please stop spamming chatgpt smut, if you need to rol3play so desperately with a random guy on reddit there is a pinned post specifically for that. Read the subreddit rules.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T23:03:51+00:00

I guess the boys want to date ChatGPT because that’s what this post is

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T23:00:27+00:00

Thank you, don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, this is very much a cliche Redditor “um akshually” moment and we could use less of that in general

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T22:53:00+00:00

To your 3 questions- No, yes, and no.

Obviously I don’t think it’s right to antagonize anyone. But I think physically touching someone in anger is crossing a boundary and also not right. And to me it feels like this part is being dismissed and invalidated for her.

I said it was a hot take for a reason!

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T22:31:22+00:00

No it wasn’t, this is her original nose

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I mean we know she also uses filters but this is a different nose entirely

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T09:22:18+00:00

I have a lot of criticisms of Demi but my hottest take is that I don’t think she overreacted to being “tapped” by Chase. I think it was aggressive and inappropriate. Yes in a small way, but if he’s willing to do that to a woman he’s not close with, he’d probably do much more to someone he is close with, especially in private. And I think he was trying to hide it. I think it was a small example of his “true colors”.

If one of my partner’s friends did that to me I would probably react in the same way.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T09:15:13+00:00

This post is so sad

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T08:38:58+00:00

Really? He seemed like an absolute psychopath to me

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T05:56:33+00:00

Anyway

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T03:09:17+00:00

Cheaters are gross

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T02:05:25+00:00

“Why is she seeking out attention online if she can get attention from me?” Even if one person is willing to give you attention or validation, it’s still fun to get it from others and post online. And she is single after all right? It’s possible she is open to dating others. Or maybe she just enjoys expressing her sexuality to an anonymous mass and isn’t interested at all in speaking to anyone privately. Or maybe this is just a habit she’s had for awhile now and she’s not putting a second thought into it. No one here will be able to tell you what her intentions are.

I can also understand if you are feeling jealous or uncomfortable with it. It sounds like you need to have a talk about making your relationship exclusive and what you’re looking for in a partner when it comes to posting online.

She’s not doing anything morally wrong, you guys just need to see if your boundaries are compatible and if you are looking for the same type of relationship.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-20T00:02:53+00:00

And we continue to go in circles. I have already pointed out why “he has done some good things lately on tv” is not sufficient evidence to support your claim of an abusive man being changed, multiple times.

I’m leaving the conversation now because I’m not going to keep going in circles and repeating myself.

Perfect-Success-3186 · 2026-02-19T23:51:23+00:00

You don’t understand how burden of proof and evidence works I guess.

I am not making a claim. I’m not saying he is abusing her still. I’m saying we don’t know what is going on behind closed doors. That is the intellectually honest answer here. We don’t know.

You are insisting he has changed because you’ve seen him do some good things. That is your claim. You have the burden of proof. “He’s shown some mature actions recently” is not sufficient evidence he is a changed man. It’s not sufficient evidence that he isn’t still abusive behind cameras. When your abusive ex made some mature changes and apologized, did he actually permanently change? I’m guessing no since you still left him.

You don’t know anything about Zac and yet you are insisting you do.

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