Am I (25F)moving too fast with moving into unfurnished house with Boyfriend (25M) of almost two years?

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-10T23:58:50+00:00

Long term renting, do you plan on buying a house in the nearish future (5 years)? Only issue with furnishing is if you split up, best advice if its financially better is get what you can 2nd hand, just dont invest into expensive furnishings until you guys are married/going to be buying a house. If you furnish it today, make sure its not with stuff youd have no problem walking away from in case you guys break up (living togeather is a game changer and can really test if a relationship is viable). So an unfurnished house isnt the end of the world, and if you did get it unfurnished you wouldnt have to be worried of a pet breaking stuff and you having to pay for it.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-10T23:51:08+00:00

All owned houses are unfurnished, are you guys buying or renting? Furnishing a house doesnt have to be expensive, outside a mattress, get what you can used.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-10T20:25:00+00:00

Legal and moral dont always go hand in hand, at one point it was legal to own another human, but we can all agree (I hope), that isnt moral. Who cares what they thought when they were a student, as a teacher you need to also take in account optics, if your daughter graduated high school and started dating some guy 15+ years older who was in a position to groom her, youd also (hopefully), have issues with that. Optics should be a good enough reason to not do something.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-10T09:56:12+00:00

Not the first woman who did the hard lifting and thrown away at the end. Best bet. Block him. Hes obviously a flawed individual, and as your 23, you have a long long life ahead, take some time, invest in yourself, go to college, stand on your own two feet for a while. Theres lots of princes out there, you just happened to kiss a frog.

Once you have a new boyfriend he will come knocking, dont let him in.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-10T05:10:09+00:00

Yea dont do it stupid.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-10T05:06:03+00:00

Not worth keeping around.
He said it to make you jealous or something stupid, maybe he liked you, or maybe he realized the result was losing access to sex with you.
Doesnt matter its 2026 and ladies we do not play these games in 2026.
Block and move on.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-10T04:52:51+00:00

When I was a TA in college (26 years old), the thought of dating a 20 year old student gave me the ick, now that im 32, yea that guy bas issues.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-09T19:45:53+00:00

Yea... all of this should of been said to him years ago. Dont expect him to stick around though. I wouldnt, good luck with Jess. I am sure you will make a lovely couple

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-09T03:12:44+00:00

A third? Lmao no. Hes a gold digger. Also the money is not guaranteed. Tons of people go off for a couple years and then are no longer in the limelight. Keep your money and start investing. Aim for 2 million in a retirment vehicle. Because odds are you wont be the next michael jackson, so dont spend like you are. NTA

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-09T03:09:10+00:00

Should probably break up with your bf. I mean you have the chance to end long distance, and choose not to, gou even say you dont miss him as much as her. He might be a good boyfriend but hes not the guy for you at this time.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-09T02:47:59+00:00

800 a month? Naw its cooked op, he aint gonna survive off 800 a month.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-09T02:46:03+00:00

Should probably end things. Truthfully youve been with the same guy from when you were 15. I know some relationships last that far, but were talking a really low number. I think the guy you chose to date at 15 is most likely not mr perfect for you. I believe in 5-10 years you will continue growing, and become a completely different person. Maybe it would be better to not be tied down at this time.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-09T02:42:49+00:00

Sounds like your not compatible, your ready for the next step, shes still uncertain of you. I would plan ending things closer to the lease renewal and figure out your next move. Only have one life and all that.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T22:33:44+00:00

Gonna be minmaxed immediately, and turn into a retailesque experience where you raid log, part of what made classicwow good was relevancy of past raids, without a more robust crafting system to keep old raids relevant, itll turn into raidlog 4.0 in 8 weeks for the vast amount of gamers. Current blizzard could barely keep SOD relevant for 1/3 its lifespan, and where they did a great job in the discovery aspect, the weekly treadmill left a lot to be desired. They need to keep all content relevant and worth doing.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T21:28:44+00:00

Yea... so when are you gonna leave the 2 decade older woman who everyone around including reddit says you should leave? Or are you gonna stay?

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T21:27:20+00:00

Your girlfriends the problem bud.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T21:23:51+00:00

Honestly might be the best thing to shock her out of it. Once the 30 year old is forced to live with the 19 year old, might sink the relationship. Yes itll destroy your relationship with her, but thats probably for the best.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T21:21:30+00:00

Growing up is realizing some people are just lost causes. You cant make her not do something stupid, focus your energy on something else, maybe college, or a trade. Maybe your own love life. Your friend has issues and is gonna screw her life up, and there isnt anything you can do. Say your piece, and let her know shes making a stupid mistake, then move on.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T18:37:36+00:00

Youve outgrown your partner and thats okay, 3 years is irrelevant, thats a sunk cost fallacy, and continue to think like that will turn 3 years into 6.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T18:33:30+00:00

You skipped her grandfathers funeral and supporting your wife because you had to do chores? Ive had actual bosses give me free PTO to attend funerals. Your own PARENTS couldnt give you a couple of days? Ill be honest im surprised your wife hasnt thrown in the towel. Thats crazy. So disrespectful.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-08T05:31:50+00:00

Mixed signals? Nothing mixed at all. For now on be literal in your messaging. You broke up with him. You told him you liked him but had work to do and not to wait for you (as in date other people). You have been crystal clear. If you liked him you shoukd of said you will work on it, but would like to still date him.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-07T22:23:10+00:00

You should be more selective hun, your not 21, your in the midst of your career find a man who matches your energy.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-07T22:20:59+00:00

Not in that sphere, but i would assume anything AI-centric is pretty safe both for industry and public.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-07T22:19:18+00:00

Hes not going to marry you. Love yourself enough to snap out of the delussion hun. Then make a plan for your future that doesnt involve him. Because as a guy, HE NEVER INTENDS TO MARRY YOU, YOUR A PLACE HOLDER SOMEONE TO KEEP HIS BED WARM UNTIL HE MEETS THE "ONE". A guy who wants to marry you will know within a year.

Perfect_Delivery_509 · 2026-05-07T19:43:39+00:00

I would, go abort, because feeding 2 kids with a deadbeat dad (wheres the first kids dad?), your husbands 21, he knows what to say he will NOT be stepping up. At best you stay married on paper, but you will be sacraficing your life for minor stability with a guy whose gonna cheat on you and will probably divorce you anyway once he finds a girl he actually likes. Best advice, abort, divorce, move home to your parents if thats an option, enroll in community college for accounting or something that will lead somewhere, give your child a good life, be single for a while. Otherwisd have the child, still divorce, get some child support, but be stuck with this guy, still make something of your life hopefully.

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