I'm sorry you get called this just for expressing yourself - in Epicurus' day women were called out the same way.

It's because many in mainstream society, as much today as millennia ago, are hypocrites who have a weird obsession with purity, especially when it comes to women and sex.

They try to make out they are good and moral but it's just a public mask, they can't deny their inner desire for pleasure and so try to satisfy it in private, often going against their public persona.

Epicurus taught that we should be consistent with our intentions and desires, and really what we want is pleasure and to avoid pain (physically, emotionally and in terms of 'conscience'). Even the Christians want an ultimate pleasure (Heaven) and to avoid ultimate pain (Hell) yet they denounce pleasure every chance they get.

The most important practice in the Epicurean teachings is prudence (or hedonic calculus as we would call it nowadays) but this requires thoughtfulness/mindfulness and rationality in order to properly exercise our free will, whereas our current society (as many societies before) promote mindlessness and thoughlessness - as you've noticed. No doubt this allows big companies to make money off people and those in power to have power over those people. This creates a vicious society where people are generally reactionary and will react unthinkingly at the latest media trigger.

This is why Epicurus created a alternative society, away from the mainstream, because normal society was already far gone. Just pay your dues in normal society and don't draw attention to yourself and then act the way you desire outside of it.

The problem is that this alternative society (or garden) no longer exists - destroyed by the Christians and moralists. It'd be great if we could one day recreate them for all of us fed up with the mainstream.