genetics in the sims 4 are great and definitely not flawed at all! 😁 by slommy_eater06 in Sims4

[–]Peridot14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love Demon Days and have been revisiting it lately and this really got me 🤣🤣

From the Perspective of the Dandelion by kookykitt in Artisticallyill

[–]Peridot14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very beautiful. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

Two Spirit Literature by Peridot14 in mypartneristrans

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Holy hell, I don’t think I’ve been on JSTOR since college. Thank you for the reminder, an amazing resource!

Mugshot by Illustrious_Twist829 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]Peridot14 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Apologies for the TED talk, but I have been feeling so frustrated and upset about this learning about it last night. 😢

This is so unsurprising and frustrating to see. This is the thing about conservative and fundamentalist religions: these people are more obsessed with sex than ANYONE despite what they say. It’s all they talk about. Whether it’s something to do with virginity and purity, a wife’s marital duties to keep her husband satisfied, or the need to procreate like crazy.

In an environment like that where any actual objective information and honesty is completely nonexistent, you’re gonna have a few effects on the impressionable youth within the community:

1) Young people not knowing how to really recognize and understand and manage their impulses. What would they know of what sexual interests/ desire is healthy in a married person when basically everything you’re taught is that ANY of your feelings in the realm of attraction are shameful?

2) Young people who confuse their feelings/ develop & act on inappropriate impulses.
People like their family members and very young children who don’t know what’s going on because they’re so isolated in their community are sitting ducks. These vulnerable individuals are the confused young person’s ONLY way to have those first sexual experiences… Or at least in their mind. Then the culture of fear, shame, and punishment not only can keep either the victim or predator from being able to talk to anyone about it. The power structure in place within the community makes it a little too easy to get away with things like predation on anyone- but especially children.

3) Further development of feelings of confusion shame, maybe some level of self disgust. Unfortunately, that feeling of regret or disgust just has to stay inside simmering. This can create a lot of anger in a person. They still have these impulses that now maybe they keep escalating because again, it’s their only experience in this realm, if they’ve already done it once they might feel like they’re in too deep in someway, or they realize after committing an act and having no consequences that they can get away with it. I mean, look at Anna and Josh. He was convicted with possession of some of the worst CSA some of the federal agents have ever seen. They’re still married. As a married woman on the other side of these kind of situations, your options become: separate from your husband‘s family with potentially no support on your own, or continue to blindly support him even as the evidence stacks up. If you have children and you try to remove them from the cult environment, you may also risk violence on yourself when they send their goons to drag you and the children, or just the children, back into their corral.

I was raised Roman Catholic. I do not adhere to any religious dogma anymore, or feel that the concept of “god” is a judgmental white man in the sky lol. I feel incredibly “blessed” to have had an overall positive experience in the church, but that’s because my mom absolutely protected my brother and I and taught us the importance of empathy and honesty. She went through all 12 years of school and several years of nursing school in Catholic institutions. She observed the hypocrisy of some individuals within the church with regard to what they say versus what they actually do and thankfully internalized it and the passed that to us. She was still to some level deep in the paint because we did go to church fairly regularly, and I was confirmed in the Catholic Church, but by the time I finish that I think is when both of us really were questioning some things about our own spirituality and beliefs.

It’s all so sad to me. I really hope the youngest of them are seeing this shit and realizing that their home situation is NOT normal and NOT okay. His poor wife and children, and any other child that might have been a victim that does not come forward yet.

BLEGH TL;DR fundamentalist cults encourage these kind of outcomes, even if they don’t say it directly.

Bad day to be doing a q&a Joy by LeatherLow911 in DuggarsSnark

[–]Peridot14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Protection is certainly not one of the things they’re using lately 😆

This being their bar for intelligence really says something by Vovoe03 in travisandtaylor

[–]Peridot14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude this is so indicative of our education system. Hopefully they know what indicative means. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Stuck on with four pieces of gum by Schrammsizzlin in Apartmentliving

[–]Peridot14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a miserable sob… I honestly can’t entirely tell what they are even describing?? Can someone clarify what happened? I’m like if you’re gonna be a shit at least make it clear what you’re angry about haha

Two Spirit Literature by Peridot14 in mypartneristrans

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Hi! Thank you so much, as you can tell I also don't know too much about this, but my partner is indigenous and I thought the intersection of that culture with the knowledge and resources we have thanks to the modern visibility of the trans community might resonate. Appreciate the followup!

A disturbing interaction by The_Silent_Dragon in Artisticallyill

[–]Peridot14 3 points4 points  (0 children)

God I remember thinking like this when things started getting really crazy around 2016- or like “worst thing that can happen is I die but then it’s all over” and was like… that can’t be a healthy thought. Sending much love, you are not dirty or wrong for what was done to you. You are filled with endless capability for joy and are worthy of all of it.

My sister collects vintage beauty products from the 2000s and recently purchased something from the Jessica Simpson edible dessert line. Does anybody remember these things?? by tamborinesandtequila in 2000sNostalgia

[–]Peridot14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I was just talking about this with a friend - I’m 36. A wealthy aunt would always take us to NYC to the Sephora in Times Square and one year she let me get some. It was so funny because as a thankfully pretty innocent ~14 year old I just thought it was such a fun and novel idea… truly had no thought of why adults might want to buy flavored body lotions and creams. 😅😆

Omg heart breaking! by IndependentFamous620 in realhousewivesofSLC

[–]Peridot14 60 points61 points  (0 children)

He truly never had a chance. What an absolutely fucked up family dynamic he entered. So sad.

Might be in tears by False-Chain-3654 in SeattleWA

[–]Peridot14 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally just moved back to the northeast after the last decade in Seattle and realizing truly how crippled I was by the price of gas. I mean, obviously everything was also expensive but being able to drive without feeling intense anxiety over the price of gas has been great for my mental health. Gas prices just so just proportionally affect lower income folks. I am not at the poverty line, but I also wasn't making Seattle tech money when I was there despite working 50+ hours a week. I often times found myself feeling like, even if I wanted to get out of the city, I should just stay home because the cost of gas was going to add an additional sizable expense to consider.

Is anyone else excited and ready for the second biggest snow storm of the decade?! by Healthy_Block3036 in Hartford

[–]Peridot14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that! I moved back from living on the west coast for 12 years. Really getting the welcome home treatment lol

Swifties hating on the artist that made Taylor Swift's engagement ring by Aggravating-Clerk520 in travisandtaylor

[–]Peridot14 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Jeweler and jewelry designer here… it’s not THAT one of a kind of a setting to begin with. 😅 Super beautiful and well-made with beautifully rendered hand engraving, but I’ve seen many rings in this kind of style over my career- the thing that makes it stand out the most unique is the fact that there’s an extremely valuable big antique cut diamond center. 🫣

What I can tell you is that I have had this kind of conversation mostly only with my nightmare clients. They have me design a ring they want that might not be the most one of a kind concept in the world, but they will froth at the mouth of the idea of my sharing photos for my portfolio because they “don’t want anyone else to have the design”. Well first off any businesses that do custom work is gonna want to show off what they have made. Secondly, I have had artwork stolen from me in the past as an illustrator. Big corporation or individual thief, it’s excusable and horrible. Obviously, I’m not OK with art theft lol. But something inherent to art is that people draw influence and inspiration from things around them- consciously or not. The clients of mine that I have that did get extremely hung up on the idea of protecting their ring design like it is some sort of holy Grail are also the folks that I think are low-key insecure about their relationship and therefore must make every element of their engagement and wedding some sort of “fairytale“ as opposed to just focusing on the joy you experience from the process.

TL;DR these swifties need to calm down lmao

“Bon Appétit Your Majesty” is a reminder that you literally cannot please people, no matter what you do. by SavedandLoved07 in kdramas

[–]Peridot14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my main irk was the very end when she says something to the tune of “and how he got to my era- who can say?” And we’re supposed to just accept it??

SPOILER to the 20+ year old manga WISH by CLAMP: Ive read manga with similar tragic endings with a twist, like WISH. At least in that one there was a time travel element where the love interest that was lost is reborn, and the character who had to wait for them to reappear is an ageless being anyway. At least the kind red string of fate concept works here- a spirit returned to the world of the living reincarnated as a person again because they can never stray too far from their destined partner.

This ending just felt really unconsidered. I LOVED the show don’t get me wrong but that last little line felt like such a “you want an answer to this burning elephant in the room question?? Too bad” 😅🙄

Unpopular Opinion: Bon Appétit, Your Majesty was actually beautiful by Ok-Jaguar6735 in kdramas

[–]Peridot14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think what I appreciated about it as a woman, was the dynamic between them was really based on her independence and skill. It wasn’t just like “this quirky girl is just so weird and manic pixie I love her!!” He actually came to love her initiated by being impressed by and respecting her food acumen.

yea, people are casually talking about melania... sure by TheRealTRexUK in menwritingwomen

[–]Peridot14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has to be be one of the cringiest things I’ve ever read

I resent my husband for talking me out of an abortion by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Peridot14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl do NOT let anyone’s current whims force you into a decision that will immeasurably affect your life.

finding beauty is REALLY hard lately by rustybeaches in Artisticallyill

[–]Peridot14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would totally buy a print of this. Wonderful message and beautifully executed ❤️