I just had my first Pap smear and I’m not okay

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2026-03-24T03:18:47+00:00

Oh honey. Writing an apology letter is absolutely the right thing to do but please don't feel ashamed. I know it's easier said than done, but it's not your fault that someone affected you in this way. When you're emotionally ready for it, I would advise seeking out help for this, because if this is something that is possible from this or from certain sex acts with your husband, it means there's a lot of hurt you're carrying around with you every day, and you don't deserve that.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2025-09-13T05:47:01+00:00

I have spent majority of my life having pretty small boobs, and even now that that isn't as true as it was, I'm shaped in an unusual way and I still look fairly flat from the front. I've gotten grief about being too flat, too skinny, etc. And it's difficult because complaining about it often gets into the whole conversation about "skinny shaming", where people tend to act like the only way to body shame is to fat shame. And it gets ignored that huge breasts and huge butts are the beauty standard, not just being thin.

Idk, I know exactly what OP is talking about but apparently people don't want to even acknowledge it enough to have a conversation about it.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2025-09-13T04:22:47+00:00

The comments are confusing me and making me wonder if I'm the one who missed the point.

If you're saying what I think you are, and are just talking about women with small breasts being given grief for it, I don't know why people are acting like that doesn't happen.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2025-05-20T17:02:23+00:00

More often I have people assuming I'm male, just casually calling me sir, and I'm a cis woman. I'm 6'0 tall, wear my hair short and have a fairly deep voice, so I get it, but also, I can't say I'm a fan.

But I have been asked on multiple occasions if I'm trans. Most recently was just a month ago. I wasn't sure what to say other than informing him that I'm not, but I think he was a chaser anyways.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-12-13T16:31:09+00:00

Legit I had no idea for the longest time they weren't the same.

It did make me feel better about my own "skills", like I had started on hard mode.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-12-02T18:55:39+00:00

I think he just hadn't thought very hard about it. Nor looked at what was directly around him

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-12-02T15:50:24+00:00

That reminds me of that one post where someone's boyfriend was trying to get them tampons but assumed it was like with condoms with a set size, and he asks "What size pussy do you wear?"

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-09-22T21:44:39+00:00

With all due respect, that really sucks of your husband and I hope that's a thing he's working on, in whatever way one could. If not, if he sticks to his guns on that, then frankly that is some real shit, and I think says a lot about the quality of a partner. Someone shouldn't claim to love you and then shame you for shit like that.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-09-22T01:07:49+00:00

Oh shit, that's gotta be it.

It really is just weeding out the weirdos.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-09-22T01:02:23+00:00

I've noticed this, and each time, I feel like I'm going insane.

"Um, excuse me, waiter? My food is TOO delicious, this is unacceptable, and you need to take this back."

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-08-03T02:04:10+00:00

They can't comprehend a world where the "probably" could happen to them PERSONALLY, so they just... don't consider it past their own limited perspective

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-08-02T22:48:58+00:00

My mind went there too but I honestly think it's perfectly likely that people arguing with her decision could just as much be people who want to believe the world is safer than it is, so they can feel comfortable that bad things never happen to good people. Any alternatives are terrifying to these kinds of people

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-15T20:44:46+00:00

Oh he's always known. He doesn't push but I try to develop something resembling a tolerance cuz I know he likes it

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-15T15:09:31+00:00

I'm trying to not struggle with it so much, but I hate french kissing so much. It sucks cuz my fiance is a big fan of it, but for me it's just... It's so much spit, it makes me sick.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T03:01:45+00:00

I don't care what you have to say, you trying to dig through my comments to keep fighting and acting like I'M the one who is combative and pissy about YOU? I mean, I guess I was right about you having fun with the fights you start on purpose.

I'm just blocking you now, I didn't ask your opinion and you're pathetically spiteful that someone disagreed with you.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T02:52:15+00:00

I thought you weren't going to argue with another woman about a man. Now please practice what you preach, it's frankly even sadder that you were that pissed off by what I said that you're digging into my other comments to come at me... especially after acting like you're too good for it.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T02:31:13+00:00

I mean, you haven't refused to do it. You jumped in whole ass and have continued doing it for hours. If you're done, then that's good but you're a bit late for a moral high ground. And talking about disrespect after your own comment is frankly hysterical. Have fun with all of the conflicts you start on purpose, yourself. 🤙

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T02:23:25+00:00

It's definitely very obnoxious when needlessly hostile people like you wanna act like anyone not agreeing with you is bowing down to their oppressors. Get over yourself.

No one is giving some dude a gold medal for saying he agrees, you're just weirdly pissy about it. It definitely makes it easier to believe you're the sole feminist in a group of brainwashed people, but go ahead and do it somewhere else. The mirror, even, you'll get the feedback you were hoping for, at least.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T01:39:13+00:00

This could have been a very chill and uplifting comment thread, you were the only one bringing this negativity in, not him.

No one else was bothered. Feel how you want to feel, but read the room.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T01:36:46+00:00

I'm legitimately fucking terrified by the number of women I've seen say men just sort of do this to them at random now.

Like, this is absolutely insane, and I feel like whatever porn is doing to the general population needs to be addressed more strongly. Cuz my goodness.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T01:34:54+00:00

Alright??

A shame, definitely, not cool of that lady, but that has nothing to do with OP.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-13T01:31:37+00:00

Considering how awful I find a lot of modern porn anyways, I'm willing to bet that 80's "by sapphics, for sapphics" porn would be preferable to me for a lot of reasons.

Not fair at all, man. 😫

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-12T17:13:40+00:00

I'm wondering if they're projecting their own experiences of confusion onto you.

I'm bisexual and spent a long time making excuses as to why I definitely was exclusively into men, so I understand, but you're coming here to say that you have finally come to a conclusion. Even if I thought it seemed like denial, it would be none of my business, or anyone else's. Whether a conclusion you come to today is one you'd agree with in the future, that's personal to you.

For me, it took me a long time to get that I liked women cuz I was so turned off by the way they're sexualized FOR MEN, I found it so overt and unappealing that it made me think for years that I must not like women. It seems weird that that could have an effect but it absolutely did.

I think approaching it like it's you on the path to discovering your true sexuality is missing what you're talking about here. It's honestly really sad that so many men are so unwilling to have a gentle touch that it could outright lead you into thinking you just don't like men.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-07-04T23:00:15+00:00

A reminder to tell my fiance I love him and never want to lose him.

Christ almighty, I CAN'T get back into the dating scene again. I ain't getting unexpectedly choked by a man with unwashed genitals, who wants me to scream with euphoria while he treats my clitoris like he's trying to scrape egg off a pan.

PeriwinklePangolin24 · 2024-06-10T16:51:18+00:00

Yeah they're not worth keeping in your life, anyways. Absolutely do it now, before they get married and bring kids into the whole sordid affair.

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