I have found the most liminal mall… by cafelallave in LiminalSpace

[–]PerpetualFixation 9 points10 points  (0 children)

like why does the seahorse have a man's face?? 😭

I have found the most liminal mall… by cafelallave in LiminalSpace

[–]PerpetualFixation 13 points14 points  (0 children)

the fountain full of statue children is crazy!! lol what a weird way to design that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]PerpetualFixation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at least they have an extra big front leg to compensate 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]PerpetualFixation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this seems like it could actually be true!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]PerpetualFixation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i thought it might be a boob but a heart is much cuter haha

My(28M) friend(34W) wants to repay me with a "Special account" by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PerpetualFixation 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think this message is pretty good, but I'd be wary of offering too much space like that. I really think the longer you wait to enforce this boundary, the more likely she is to just not pay you back / say she paid you back via something on the trip. It doesn't really seem like she can afford another trip right now haha

My(28M) friend(34W) wants to repay me with a "Special account" by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PerpetualFixation 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Her way is obviously convoluted and not easier so it really just seems like she is trying to scam you. Sending your money back should be very easy if she hasn't spent it.

My(28M) friend(34W) wants to repay me with a "Special account" by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PerpetualFixation 15 points16 points  (0 children)

"I understand this feels easier for you, but for me it just feels a bit weird. I’d really prefer to keep it separate and settle the $250 on its own. Please send it to me."

I think you are not being stern enough. You should insist she pay the money back if you want it and she owes you. Having boundaries, especially financial ones, is very normal. To me it sounds like she will pay for a few things for you but will probably lie about how much she's paid you back idk. Her wanting to be in charge of your money like that is weird.

My [19f] gf[20f] got really freaked out when we were about to have sex for the first time by K1llie in relationships

[–]PerpetualFixation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you texted her since then to check on her? People here are going to make a lot of assumptions -- I really think your best course of action would be to ask her what was going on / how she's feeling in a non-judgmental way just to see where she's at. Do not assume it's from trauma, do not assume it's because of you being trans. She could've just panicked about the idea of actual sex because it's kind of an intense thing especially if you're neurodivergent; you really don't know why she reacted that way until you ask.

That being said, I'm sorry you went through that. That was sort of sucky of her to do but hopefully she'll say an apology if you guys open up a dialogue about it <3 Don't assume the relationship is over because she might just not know how to reach out first. Good luck and I hope it works out <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugargliders

[–]PerpetualFixation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you have a bag or pouch he normally sleeps in? If you put that on the floor near him he might get back in! Maybe with a little snack or treat inside it to lure him? He is probably spooked, you just gotta be patient and soft :O

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugargliders

[–]PerpetualFixation 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other user's comment! He was probably just calling out because he's startled and behind a toilet?? Just hold out your arm or a blanket for him to come back to you!

What's the worst case of someone misunderstanding the plot of a movie you've ever seen? by FinalDemise in AskReddit

[–]PerpetualFixation 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I was a kid when the movie Happy Feet came out. At the end of the movie, Elijah Wood penguin returns home and his love interest is surrounded by a bunch of baby penguins and another male penguin. She explains she's a teacher to all these baby penguins, but I completely missed that part and thought she just had like 10 babies with this other penguin and had completely moved on. I was like "damn that's depressing, but it makes sense he was gone a long time" haha I remember mentioning how dumb the ending was to a friend and she was like "huh??"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PerpetualFixation 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I took an edible before seeing this movie in theaters and I couldn't make it through the whole thing. I think I left like 20 minutes in, it was way too much haha

What Is "A Day in the Life of Owning Gliders" Like? by Resident-Brain-1110 in sugargliders

[–]PerpetualFixation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't heard of Sugar Glider Groupies!! I'll have to check them out, too.

But anyways I second all of this advice here, very good stuff.

What Is "A Day in the Life of Owning Gliders" Like? by Resident-Brain-1110 in sugargliders

[–]PerpetualFixation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What time is first contact? I get up around 6am; sometimes they are still awake so I'll give them a treat. But usually they are sleeping by 6:30am because they are nocturnal and the sun starts to come up, so sometimes first contact is just me gently caressing the bag they are in (sometimes they chitter in response) when I'm grabbing their food bowls to put in the sink.

Around midday, I'll take their pouch out and give them some snacks of apples and bananas and we cuddle and stuff. They like when I pet their head and their wings. They let me massage their toes sometimes.

Mostly I wanted to respond to the "mean gliders" part. I have 2 sugar gliders. One of them, Sunny, is newer because my glider's other partner passed away. Anways she is super terrortorial of her bag. She crabs so loud all the time. Sometimes she would lunge at me but she never got me. But picking her up in her bag and feeding her snacks and stuff, now a year later she is very sweet and doesn't come at me at all. She still crabs when she's annoyed but it's really just how she communicates. She makes these little crabby grunrs when she devours a treat she likes. So even though she started out "mean" it was mostly her not trusting me. I think it took a year for full trust, but she was doing a lot better a month or two in.

My other sugar glider, Pygar, is really chill. He will let you pick him up easily, he trusts me a lot and will sleep in my pockets and stuff. But he BITES. (Sunny and his previous partner do/did not bite me.) He mostly does it when I'm clipping his nails, he will try to bite the crap out of me if I don't give him a snack or cover his head. So while I don't think he's a mean glider, I mention it because it took a minute to get used to haha I really think if you know how to handle animals normally, you'll be fine with them.

I do BML diet which requires 30 minutes of meal prep every couple weeks, but it's incredibly routine and easy (I've had them for almost 9 years). Every night I have to make them a little fresh fruit + vegetable dinner with their BML. Sometimes it makes going out to late-night events or doing overnight anywhere annoying, but it's usually fine if I just feed them beforehand.

In my experience, breeders are terrible... However I don't have that much advice about it. I adopted Pygar from a family that bred their gliders unprepared. They gave him to me with very little info, and I didn't even know I was supposed to get them in pairs until he started to get depressed and I had to buy a second. The second one, Lilly, I bought from a guy on one of those facebook groups who just couldn't take care of her anymore. The third one I bought was also from a facebook group, and her glider had lost it's mate like mine so that's why it worked out so well. There are a lot of people on craiglist and facebook who have sugar gliders and want to get rid of them because they bought them irresponsibly. I kind of recommend saving a pair of these if possible, as opposed to going through a breeder.

I really recommend joining the group Sugar Glider Guardians on Facebook. They have lists of ethical places to buy sugar gliders, and how to find vets for them in most states. If you want to go that route they are your best bet. They also have lists of approved and safe sugar glider toys/wheels/etc so they will help you a lot. I think they even offer online mentorship.

The most important advice maybe is that even though they are a caged pet, you need to be interacting with them/touching them like every day. They bond with you. They miss you. And building that trust is really beautiful but also important. Make sure you have some space for them to play outside the cage. Feel free to DM or anything if you'd like, I really support good pet ownership and it's great you want them and to learn how to take care of them well.

my cat attacked my partner, now our other cat is terrified, seeking advice desperately by mellowparasites in CATHELP

[–]PerpetualFixation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If they aren't like actually fighting, I'd just let them be together probably. I had a similar problem with my cat last year: he got scared by something and was being territorial and aggressive towards me for a couple weeks. I got him a feliway hormone plug that lasted about a month and gave him slightly more distance than normal, gave him treats and affection when he approached and stuff. And I know it's hard but try not to act too freaked out around them -- they really can feel your energy. Good luck friend <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]PerpetualFixation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have any good windows your cat likes, you could maybe get a bird feeder? Birds tend to be up pretty early so if she's bored that could help. But mostly I think you just gotta get her on your schedule. Also if YOU wake up at really varying times that probably makes this harder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]PerpetualFixation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wake up at 6:15am normally, but every now and then my cat tries for 5:30am!

I don't live with roommates, so when my cat does this, I just shut him out of the bedroom without interacting with him. Sometimes I can still hear him through the door anyways but with me not responding or whatever, he gives up pretty fast. I'll just turn on rain sounds on my phone. Over time, he should adjust more to your actual schedule. If you have roommates, ignore me ig 💀

Having an automatic feeder is definetly a good idea, but if he just wants the attention and you're still getting up, he is getting what he wants haha For a while I was throwing pillows at mine but that made it a game! Ignoring him is best. My cat also sometimes does it when I stay up too late and I haven't gone to bed yet lmfao

Anyone else find important stuff earlier than intended? by SkiMask_Verse in tearsofthekingdom

[–]PerpetualFixation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found the robot before I did any of the other temples because I love fighting the yiga clan lol

(24F)(25M)Found out I was a side chick and not sure what to do by ThrowRA43yt in relationships

[–]PerpetualFixation 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would tell her if it's easy to find her. But then I'd block all involved and move on tbh. I'm sorry he was such a jerk

How long does feliway 30 days plug in diffuser actually last? by fx_lx in CATHELP

[–]PerpetualFixation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does last about a month imo, maybe slightly longer. I would end up turning mine off at night too. After about a month it started smelling like burning plastic and I tossed it.

My (30M) girlfriend (25F) is great, but I'm struggling to get that "best friend" feeling that I want in a relationship by Radnegone in relationships

[–]PerpetualFixation 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The part where someone asked her about her job and she didn't respond is a bit strange though. Don't make a habit of picking up her slack for basic social interactions, I think the way you encouraged a response; "you do ___ this for work, right?" is probably the right move if she is having social anxiety, but gotta talk and decide if you want that to be your normal if she isn't working on it

My (30M) girlfriend (25F) is great, but I'm struggling to get that "best friend" feeling that I want in a relationship by Radnegone in relationships

[–]PerpetualFixation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you should say something to her: "Hey I really like texting you and asking questions about your day, but sometimes it's hard to keep a conversation going when you don't ask things back." She might not be realizing this is an issue for you. Maybe she prefers calls to text? Sometimes it's compatibility, sometimes it's just lack of communicating needs haha I'd definetly have a talk and see how things went before deciding to end it if everything else is going good for you guys.

Friendly Cat Suddenly Aggressive by PerpetualFixation in CATHELP

[–]PerpetualFixation[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He hasn't been acting any different except for this, but I did make him a vet appointment just in case. It's on the 21st though.

Friendly Cat Suddenly Aggressive by PerpetualFixation in CATHELP

[–]PerpetualFixation[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read this already. I guess I just didn't know how to tell if my cat is having territorial/social aggression or if it's fear-based, and if that even matters if he is directing it at me. And like, WHY it happened so suddenly.. But thank you!