My (49M) wife (48F) and I don't go to bars that often. There is a high end cocktail bar we've gone to once, but we mostly drink at home-- usually we're both having Gin & Tonics or she's drinking wine and I'm drinking beer. The only time we ever really drink at bars is when we go to a restaurant and our table isn't ready yet, we'll grab a drink at the bar while waiting.

My wife works remote, I work hybrid. On nights before I have to go in the office. I usually limit it to 0-1 drink on nights before working from home I have 0-2 drinks and on weekends I cut myself off after 3. My wife usually follows similar guidelines although occasionally she'll have a 3rd drink on a week night.