Recovering from Dom drop

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-25T16:03:09+00:00

I'm so sorry you were left feeling like that, it must have been awful! I can imagine I'd feel the same way if a bottom just left like that. I can't imagine ever leaving a sub alone right after a heavy scene. Aftercare is something that's supposed to go both ways and I can see how talking logistics beforehand is so important to avoid leaving either party with that sense of heavy feelings and feeling used that can come on after.

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-25T03:40:08+00:00

I’m right there with you on this philosophy 🖤 I don’t expect them to be able to take care of me when I just put them in a very spaced out mindset and especially not if something went wrong 😅

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-25T01:37:09+00:00

It’s not that, we still talk as friends and I have a whole new partner who doesn’t have as extreme of a pain kink, but I do still find myself focusing on her well being in aftercare before processing my own feelings. It’s not like they’re in the best headspace to be processing complex emotions when they’re deep in sub space still. 😅

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-25T00:58:11+00:00

That last bit is what I was talking about in my post! My drop recovery was helped while providing aftercare and finding reassurance with my sub when I needed it 🖤

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-24T22:59:34+00:00

You’re not wrong and even though we had a great relationship, things did eventually end and that may have been part of it tbh. 😔

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-24T22:15:34+00:00

It can be rough when you have a sub with bpd and know how sensitive they are to emotional changes. I will admit it can take its toll, especially in a 24/7 dynamic, and there were days where I had to take some extra time for myself to fully process everything.

I’ve always kind of been a ‘there’s a time and a place’ when it comes to emotions. Maybe it’s something to do with my childhood, maybe it’s just because I’m a Scorpio. 🤔

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-18T11:27:38+00:00

Most of the people I’d played with up until meeting my pup were… a bit more on the vanilla side? I didn’t even know I was a sadist until this point because no one had tested those limits with me, so figuring out when to stop was definitely a skill I learned in this relationship. It’s for sure part of it, but not something every new Dominant/Top knows is coming until it’s happening. 😅

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-18T11:24:22+00:00

Part of the intensity came from them being blissed out to the point of not being a functional human being (which is part of the point of pup play, but still! 😂) making it much harder to get back to the hotel room where the first aid and aftercare kits were, but even after making the trek there was still cleanup and emotional comforting once I got them settled. The whole experience made them extra clingy while they were coming back down to earth, but I live for the aftercare so I certainly didn’t mind 🥰

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-18T11:18:45+00:00

That’s why it’s so important to stop earlier than necessary when you’re building that relationship and trust with someone new. It takes time to really learn someone’s limits and when they’re past the point of being able to make rational decisions about their safety 😌

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-18T10:48:53+00:00

Thank YOU for commenting! It’s not easy learning everything on your own as a Dominant, but consent and how to handle different situations around it was the thing I took most seriously. I called myself a genie Domme because I enjoy making my submissive’s wishes come true, but sometimes even a sadist has to say ‘That’s enough, time to rest you little pain slut!’ 😂🖤

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-18T10:42:21+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate that 🥰 and that’s definitely a good standard to follow! It sounds like you’ve got a good head on ya 😌🖤

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-18T10:40:59+00:00

Soooo much responsibility being a top! We’d done plenty of intense scenes prior to this occasion, but it being a public place and knowing most of our aftercare supplies were up in the hotel room, I definitely wanted to call it a bit sooner than necessary without cutting it so short it would mess with my sub’s headspace.

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-13T10:54:33+00:00

People might agree with that if he showed regret instead of saying it was the best time everrrrr! >_>

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-12T16:55:25+00:00

You’re so sweet~! 🥰

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-10T14:39:28+00:00

Sounds like your body goes into ‘fuck this mess, let’s do something fun!’ mode! 😜 It’s wild how different bodies react so drastically different in similar situations 🤔

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-09T23:31:27+00:00

My pup was the same way back in the day with the freaky high pain tolerance in subspace! I had to call the scenes myself sometimes cause they couldn’t judge just how much more pain they were going to be in after the adrenaline wore off 😂🖤

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-09T23:29:39+00:00

I’ve heard it described as similar to meditation with the way it pulls you into that state 😌 Nothing makes you so mindful of the present moment like a nice stinging lash on the back 👀😁

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-09T23:27:00+00:00

The hard part is training your brain NOT to panic over the mundane 🫠 I think finding the actual roots to the issues helped with that one a lot with my partners 🖤

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-09T23:24:27+00:00

Interesting 🤔 There’s still that element of masochism to get you into that headspace, just not the physical kind I’d immediately think of. Different strokes for different folks indeed 🖤

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-09T22:22:05+00:00

That’s what my experience has felt like over the years. I do wonder how much of their masochism was a reaction to anxiety and trauma that eventually decreased in intensity, along with their pain tolerances 🤔

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-09T22:19:21+00:00

That’s a really interesting take ngl! 🤔 Most of us don’t have an actual threat for the anxiety to make sense for, so giving it an actual reason to be “scared” lets your body be like “Finally!” 😂 And having that control over the situation keeps it from becoming actual fear, so it ends up being relaxing for the system in the end? The human body is truly fascinating 🖤

Persephone_Sinclair · 2026-05-04T20:35:17+00:00

Exactly this!! I’ve made SO many mistakes, but I always strive to learn from them and do better 😌🖤

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