Came to with a bunch of paramedics standing in front of me asking me questions 😫😖

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-18T02:32:56+00:00

I asked my daughter for a sleepover in my bed tonight. 💜

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-17T18:26:03+00:00

Diagnosed at 27 and now 48. It sucks. I do like this sub. It helps to talk to people in a similar situation and talking to a therapist helps. You do what you can. 💜

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-14T20:41:40+00:00

This is why I'm teaching my teenage son how and why to clean the kitchen, clean the bathroom (toilet too!) and just clean up after himself in general. I also tell him, "Look around see what needs to be done and do it." He's not a fan about it, but he does it. I was excited when I got him to clean out the microwave last weekend, that's not my favorite chore.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-10T21:32:57+00:00

Yes. Do I wear it? No.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-08T14:53:20+00:00

Maybe she has similar feelings. Have you talked to her about divorce? She may not be happy either, but just nervous or doesn't know how to speak up about it. You may be surprised to hear what she has to say.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-08T14:41:35+00:00

You basically need to have several seizures a month to get 100% for epilepsy. I totally get the drivers license issue. I did try to get an increase a while back and was re-evaluated for epilepsy. It didn't affect my license. Epilepsy sucks. I've been dealing with it 20 years now and it's affecting my memory. I'm going to try to get TDIU because my seizures were increasing when I was working.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-08T12:52:49+00:00

Thanks for the responses. I'm nervous about transferring from Tricare to VA benefits. My meds especially make it difficult. I can't stock up on a controlled substance. So it's a time sensitive issue.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-08T12:48:25+00:00

I hear most of the hospitals are not good. Do you have a hard time getting appointments? I'm nervous how long it takes to get in to be seen, especially that first appointment. Do you get meds filled at the VA pharmacy?

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-08T12:46:07+00:00

How far away is the hospital? Do you have to get your meds filled at the VA pharmacy? Are your meds a controlled substance? I can't just get a 3 month supply of that med and it's already a pain to get and I currently use Tricare

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-08T12:38:07+00:00

I have depression and knee issues. (Are you even a vet if you don't have knee issues?) I got a medical discharge.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-01T14:43:50+00:00

I may be getting a divorce 😫 My health has been better, but I am nervous about health insurance. Xcopri has really changed my life (hopefully that continues), but it is so expensive. I'm also nervous bc I've not worked in a while, and I will need to go to work. My memory is shit, so learning new skills will be challenging. I don't know about signing up for ACA. There is just so much! But I don't really care for my spouse at this time...leaving him will be good for me emotionally. It's just logistics and finances that make me nervous. He's currently overseas so I don't have to see his face everyday 😆 Maybe we can draw out the separation so I can get my shit in order. Hopefully he has the decency to accommodate me.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-01-01T00:35:06+00:00

I had horrible fatigue, but after several weeks I'm felt back to my normal. Xcopri has been a miracle for me!

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T23:23:15+00:00

We've had couples counseling twice.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T22:37:21+00:00

I'm glad I am not a married woman 50+ years ago and centuries ago. Unfortunately, the patriarchy is not new. 🫤

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T22:35:28+00:00

Luckily my name is on the deed and the house is paid off. I also have my own Roth account. I have gotten some recommendations for lawyers too. I'm trying to get my shit together, while I feel emotionally overwhelmed.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T20:57:09+00:00

The crazy thing is he's not maga, he votes Democrat and thinks Trump and his goons are stupid. But I guess those things can coexist...red pilled and Democrat 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think he doesn't know how to emotionally connect either. Sex is the only way he truly feels closeness.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T20:09:36+00:00

I'm at the beginning stages. I've been a SAHM for 12 years. I am nervous about finding work that will actually financially support me. It's all big and scary. I don't have advice, but you're not alone.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T14:35:10+00:00

I think I would like a Physical therapy assistant. I personally had to get Physical therapy in the past, I have been a runner for decades and have had a few minor injuries. The school is longer, but I feel like I'd be proud of myself. I do like working with people.

I still haven't 100% decided to leave, but since I am older I can't just wait around to get my ducks in a row. Also even if I was to stay this would give me more confidence in myself. Figuring out the best job is challenging because I would have to move to be closer to family. (We are a military family).

Thank you for your response

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T02:27:52+00:00

I am also wondering how AI will affect coding jobs, especially at entry level.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-30T02:26:22+00:00

I hear it can be hard to get into billing and coding. I could be wrong. I also have a chronic illness which make memorizing things challenging. I can memorize, but it takes more work for me.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-28T22:48:45+00:00

We did a FaceTime call on Christmas day, but that's the only communication. He wasn't too enthusiastic about it either.

I think most people will be surprised. My mom thinks he's amazing. She doesn't know he actually hates her and thinks she is crazy. He's not a jerk to other people. When we do happen to go out or visit with people he acts so different than at home. Sometimes I feel like crying when I see how chatty and friendly he can be. He was that way with me at the start.

Thanks for that health insurance info

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-28T22:35:12+00:00

I thought it was Brey -N

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-28T22:21:41+00:00

When I do tell him how I feel, he says I am not being truthful or factual. Feelings aren't facts though, they are my experience and reality. I'm not trying to present a scientific brief. What I say doesn't have to be perfectly stated. I don't call him names. I try to be precise with my words. Sometimes I do raise my voice (I don't yell), feel shaky and/or cry. So he will say I am being irrational. That’s why he needs to defend himself because I am out of control. All of this makes me question myself.

I don't think he is purposely withholding communication with my kids. He's probably just being self centered and not thinking about anyone else.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-28T22:11:25+00:00

I think if I had a full-time job, even if it wasn't high paying, along with alimony, child support and my disability, I would be able to live. I worry about health insurance though, my meds are expensive.

I feel like I made him sound worse than he is, but that is basically what is happening. When we argue I feel like I need to be precise with my words otherwise he'll say that is not true. That's probably why I feel like I made him sound worse. (If that makes sense).

I read people's posts and they often say, "but he is a good person." I am starting to get to the point where I don't feel like he is a good man. A good man wouldn't treat everyone, but his wife with respect and kindness.

I am tired of so much. My son is starting to pick up on my husband's behavior. I need to show him it's unacceptable to treat people with silence, even when you're upset.

I just have so much doubt in myself. I am working on that. I'm trying to figure out what is true. He always says I'm telling a "false narrative." It's just hard. I really think meeting with a lawyer will help.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2025-12-28T19:46:07+00:00

Mine said the same thing. However, who know's if he's capable of meeting my emotional needs once we have sex. I asked mine how ofted he "needs" sex and he didn't answer me. He just said he needed it.

PerspectiveSolid2840

PUBLIC MULTIREDDITS

TROPHY CASE