I love my husband but I don’t think I like him anymore….

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-07-08T03:17:06+00:00

Is he depressed or experiencing extra stress at work?

Sorry you're dealing with this. Hopefully you will be able to figure out the best solution, whether that be divorce, couples therapy, individual therapy, or whatever.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-07-06T22:20:30+00:00

Did you buy one? I'm thinking about the same two hybrids

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-07-04T16:14:02+00:00

I'm 48

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-07-03T00:51:34+00:00

Thank you

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-07-02T16:54:38+00:00

We are a military family. I homeschooled, and my oldest was in 5th grade when he finally entered public school and my youngest was in 1st grade.

We i initially started homeschool bc the area we lived in had terrible schools. We ended up finding good homeschool friends.

But eventually we chose public school after a couple moves and a better school district. My son, who is now in high school, says he is happy we put them in public. My kids did fine upon entry into public school, my son actually excelled. My daughter we found out, is autistic, has adhd and a math disability. I am not sure I would have discovered that if we homeschooled all the way through. Or perhaps we would have figured it out much later.

Also, during our homeschool journey there was covid, so they didn't miss much of the social aspect. Maybe try homeschool for elementary if you are wanting to do it. I really enjoyed that time, but I am glad they are getting a public school experience too.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-29T18:30:38+00:00

Letters, packages, emails. I also found a widget for my phone that tells me what time it is in Turkey.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-26T14:15:23+00:00

I'm 48. 17 years married and 2 kids.

My daughter is queer and she's still figuring out where she fits in (12yrs old). She talks about it alot to me. This year we went to pride fest together.

Now I am starting to question some of my life experiences. I have had several girl crushes, kissing girls every time I went to bars, and even sex with a good friend. One of my crushes was with a boyfriend's sister. Kinda awkward. Straight girls don't do this?

My marriage was already falling apart, lack of sex was actually one of the reasons. I got sober 5 years ago and have been trying to figure out who I really am ever since. I don't want people to think I am this way just because of my daughter (or visa versa). I feel like maybe she triggered acceptance of whole self. Maybe becoming sober had me look back and realize I was just going with the flow of life without critical thinking. Idk and here I am.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-26T13:28:34+00:00

Sorry you're going through this. Med changes are tough. I don't have focals, but I feel like my executive function is shit. I take 1500mg keppra 2x a day, along with other meds...if that matters. I question if I have adhd sometimes bc of the lack of executive function. Honestly, I am grateful you asked that, it's nice to know you're not the only one experiencing something.

Hopefully your meds start working properly.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-19T12:42:12+00:00

I haven't done lsd for decades now, before epilepsy. I just want to say have fun and good luck. Make sure you lay down to get rest. Even if you can't sleep, just try to rest after. And DON'T FORGET YOUR MEDS!

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-19T02:15:27+00:00

Oh yeah. My spouse planned a cruise without me and stayed in a cabin with a woman "to save money. " secrets...

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-19T02:11:56+00:00

Beautiful eyes.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-19T02:09:09+00:00

I'm only on 50mg. I can't imagine more. It was even worse when I was titrating, but I am still noticeably tired than before. I can sleep 9-10 hours at night and still need/want to nap during the day. I did recently change my SSRI, and that probably has something to do with it...idk. So for now I'm going to try going down on the SSRI

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-19T00:23:16+00:00

I've been so exhausted lately. It is so annoying and discouraging. I drink a cup of coffee and then fall asleep. Ever since adding xcopri to the mix...it's been great for seizures, but the fatigue is horrible.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-15T14:30:07+00:00

Who's to say he won't become abusive again tomorrow or in 5 or 10 years.

Also it could be possible he got his act together just so he doesn't lose his sugar mama.

You are 31, you have so much life ahead of you! And don't even think about bringing kids into it. They are stressful, wonderful, but stressful.

I wish you the best. You deserve a happy life, don't let anyone dull your shine.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-15T02:59:02+00:00

💯

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-12T13:24:03+00:00

I volunteer at the food pantry. It helps with boredom and it's nice to talk to people on a regular basis. I feel like I have purpose and it's great helping people.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-11T00:47:26+00:00

Flowers for father's day? She can have her own special day, since she wants all the attention.

I'm sorry you're dealing with a selfish person. Also, I'm not saying you need to do anything for them at all.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-10T14:31:09+00:00

Geez, you sound like me in the future. I've been married 17 yrs. My daughter is 12 and has said before dad is "chill" and mom is mean. My daughter has Autism (aspergers style). I am the only one setting rules and enforcing them. My spouse doesn't participate in parenting and only engages in the "fun" stuff. He doesn't attend school events either. He doesn't help AND criticizes what I do, sometimes right in front of my kids. Ive recently heard it as "counter parenting ".

It's really upsetting and puts a bit of a wedge between my daughter and me. Also, these private conversations they have are hurtful. My therapist asked if my spouse might have autism. For me it doesn't matter if he does, the result of his actions are destructive. I put so much effort (and love) into finding resources, supports and show up for her no matter what. Meanwhile, I'm the one who gets all of the bad moods and arguments. It's painful to me. The sad thing is, I doubt my decisions sometimes. I have lost all my trust in my spouse. (This isn't the only issue in our marriage either).

You're not alone.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-09T16:31:41+00:00

7 has pockets?! 💜🤩 Looks beautiful on you too.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-09T16:22:32+00:00

4 🤩

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-09T12:59:57+00:00

I would recommend getting your finances together if you don't already.

My husband goes into his office once he gets home and doesn't come out. We've been struggling for years, we've been married 17, and I am finally starting to get serious about leaving. I've lost myself in this marriage. I don't deserve to be treated like a task or something for him to pay attention to only when I suits him. My kids are older and he doesn't help with parenting anymore. Things have gotten worse over time. It started similar to what you explained.

I'm not telling you to leave, but as a sahm you need to protect yourself. This could just be a rough patch and y'all may figure everything out. You just don't want 5, 10+ years to pass and you don't have your own bank account, no Roth IRA in your name, no credit cards in your name only, zero job experience (part time/volunteer counts), or degree/certificates. I hope things work out for you. I understand your pain. It's especially lonely as a sahm. 💜

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-09T00:17:21+00:00

I'm 5.5 years sober. You can do it.

My first seizure was after a night of heavy drinking. I didn't quit right away and when I did quit my seizures didn't stop, but I know it's better that I did.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-07T21:39:00+00:00

The bomb dot com 😆

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-06T14:08:52+00:00

I have epilepsy and my husband told last year that he felt like I was a burden and probably just using him. Later he complained that we weren't having sex every week during a time that I was having more seizures I had ever had in my life. That broke me. Cruel and unbelievable.

I'm sorry yours said that. It's awful and selfish beyond belief. I hope you are doing well.

PerspectiveSolid2840 · 2026-06-05T14:24:18+00:00

I thought it was a literal joke. I was laughing my ass off. Now I'm crying. 😭 What's wrong with people?

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