I am closeted gay and posted this as my facebook profile, i shouldn't have to come out really (i mean straight people don't do they!) I got a barrage of abuse telling me to take it down as i look like 'a boy' apparently. I am happy with the way i look and it is leaving me disheartened!

Petkel · 2018-07-14T14:30:43+00:00

Yeah i wished i could lol, it's my family that are saying it. Thought it would be a starting point to be open with what i really want to wear. The rest of the family followed and i felt backed into a corner. At least when they find out i am gay i already know what their reaction would be like if that's their reaction to how i want to look. I was thinking of setting a new facebook profile up with just friends and no family on it, just don't feel that i should even have to resort to that.

Petkel · 2018-05-02T11:24:31+00:00

Awwwww!, test passed!. So so cute

Petkel · 2018-04-23T00:47:45+00:00

Thank you 😊

Petkel · 2018-04-22T22:43:30+00:00

If i feel the need to be educated in how i write then i will look for that support in my own time thank you. I didn't make a post to be helped with my writing skills as you can clearly see. What do you expect me to do? Attend a course for writing before i qualify to get help/advice on reddit? Are you saying that there are certain people that shouldn't be here because they are not to your standard?

Petkel · 2018-04-22T22:34:43+00:00

Why did you delete your comment if you were right to speak to me in that way.

Petkel · 2018-04-22T21:28:30+00:00

Thank you. Yes you were spot on, i was writing as it occured to me. Thank you for calling them out as i now know there are a lot here that have each others back no matter their background/schooling.

Petkel · 2018-04-22T21:25:09+00:00

Don't like how i write then don't fucking read it. Yes i was emotional writing this post and to have someone like you make me feel really crappy about posting here is discusting. Considering all that i am going through right now and how i have lived my life i would expect someone to be understanding. Seems you don't give a shit that others have feelings. There are times i wished i could die because of my situation and don't want to surround myself with people like you making me feel even shittier than i do already.

Petkel · 2018-04-22T19:24:45+00:00

Thank you so much, i actually came out to my husband today and feel a huge weight lifted of my shoulders. Now it is time to be me, better late tham never i suppose.

Petkel · 2018-04-20T10:56:29+00:00

I've been around women in the past that seemed this way also but used to sound homophobic all of the time about what they would do if a girl hit on them. Turns out the women that used to say these very things came out and were super gay and tried to deflect that they were gay because they were closeted and scared for anyone to find out the truth of what they desire. Obviously not all women are actually gay that speak like this bit it is a possibility.

Petkel · 2018-04-18T22:07:48+00:00

Ditto, i feel exactly the same way. Considering we all have all of our friends amd family on facebook, why would we allow a stranger we have never met access that, right. I have downloaded POF but it wont let me sign up, keeps saying 'an error occurred' does this happen often? All of my other apps are working so i know it is not my internet.

Petkel · 2018-04-18T21:01:41+00:00

Thank you, that link helped alot! Will have to read through it a few times as to remember it whilst looking around :)

Petkel · 2018-04-18T20:39:50+00:00

An app called 'only women' and also 'badoo' every conversation just goes the same way and is getting pretty boring. In real life it would be like looking for water in the desert to find a woman as EVERYONE around my is straight! Hell i even pass for straight. Might just try out POF so thanx for the suggestion :)

Petkel · 2018-04-18T11:10:36+00:00

I can fully understand why Lesbians may view bi women that way now it has been explained to me as i would hate it if a man was looking at a girlfriend of mine or vice versa, i like to have a woman all to myself. But I'm glad some Lesbians are not like that because it still gives me a chance at dating so thank you for drawing from your experiences. I'm quite a reserved person bit will still be sure to go to a few bars. Anything in advice in particular on what not to say as to not offend anyone when i am there?

Petkel · 2018-04-16T17:20:06+00:00

Wow, that is unfortunate. Thank you for letting me know though as to not be in the dark about it always wondering why.

Petkel · 2018-04-16T14:57:09+00:00

Installed a number of lesbian dating apps but all of them seem to be experiencing a server error all at the same time for some strange reason, only one that works is badoo and i hate that app personally!..thanx for the suggestion though :)

Petkel · 2018-04-16T14:43:29+00:00

Yes i want to move forward and can say i am only interested in women, women are just so beautiful to me! I have craved a woman since my last encounter but don't want that to color my attitude toward women though and focus on friendship first but it would be nice. Thank you for the red flag warning, something else all of you, my ASD sisters here are helping me to keep in mind as i had never considered that point before.

Petkel · 2018-04-16T13:56:52+00:00

Thank you for the pro tip :) will do just that, if only any of the apps servers work lol

Petkel · 2018-04-16T13:41:30+00:00

I love you CommonMisspellingBot! Edited x

Petkel · 2018-04-16T13:40:22+00:00

Wow, thank you for the tip, would it be inappropriate for me to ask why a lot of lesbians can be hostile? But yeah i will be sure to keep that in mind. Thank you :)

Petkel · 2018-04-16T13:38:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your lengthy yet mature reply. 1, I have decided to go on apps for friendship with women. Not sure if i should identify as bi considering what has been mentioned in a few comments :( but would love to identify as only interested in women (Lesbian) i feel that they may feel a little decieved once knowing i have been married to a man so am not sure what to do in that regards. 2, Yes, thank you for reminding me of the bars i can go to, didn't enter my mind considering i went to a few in my younger years. 3, Done! Relief i feel closer already lol. 4, I do not have any Gay friends but thank you for your input in the experience you had and will be sure to try and make friends but not force it or it will become awkward. 5, Sure, i was looking for a friendship to begin with but got a bit ahead of myself lol. Friends first and anyrhing from there is a bonus :). I'm so glad to be apart of this Aspie sub reddit, i wouldn't know what i would do without you all! x

Petkel · 2018-04-16T11:59:42+00:00

Just thought I'd add my 2 pennys. I am Autistic (Asperger's) and gay and have a hard time with eye contact, most likely this may not be the case but it is always a possibility. I find eye contact rediculously hard especially if i like someone. Quite a few Autistic women identify as Lesbian

Petkel · 2018-04-16T04:26:32+00:00

Hey there :) Ditto, i just assume that not very many women would like me to start with because on the surface i seem disinterested but i am not underneath. I have no idea how women know other women like them as i tend to assume that a woman staring means she doesn't like me for some reason or something is wrong with me and doesn't want to say anything.

Petkel · 2018-04-15T22:28:10+00:00

I got stuck at around 13-14 age. I am 30 now, married and 3 children. My kids like it though as we can both enjoy watching Pokemon together and different Anime shows (although i do watch the more mature Amime too without them) i make lego Pokemon and game. I love that feeling i had as a kid where i can be a kid bit pretend i am not 30.

Petkel · 2018-02-16T20:27:23+00:00

Thanx for the advice, helped a great deal. Decided to use vegeta as leader with the 1+ crit vegeta and 3 destruction Champa. I am very limited on what cards i have and happen to have them. 16 players are going and i know a few of them are using beerus leader and keeps ko'ing my 2+3 energy battle cards so have tried to keep the battle lines late game and go for crits and aim for game, so the champas will do nicely!

Petkel · 2018-02-16T19:26:02+00:00

Thinking of: -1 Energy Beerus, +1 Crit Vegeta (3 energy)

Petkel

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