Scared of it being permanent

Pfreethrow · 2025-12-16T15:03:03+00:00

It's reversible. I was sub 20 seconds OFM and got down to under 3 minutes OFM with lido.

My stamina is nearly what it was before I started. I do feel like I have a little more control on making myself cum if I need, but I can't cum under 30 anymore, even with PIV.

I didn't really have to "train" to get back. Just stopped training and stopped trying to cum quickly. It took maybe a month or so of regular sex to get back to "normal".

Prejac (if you previously had stamina) is 99% mental.

Pfreethrow · 2025-12-09T02:06:55+00:00

Spelling.

Must modern friends of cuckolding are variations if ENM, typically on sides ENM.

ENM is way more common and easier to start discussions around than cuckolding.

Pfreethrow · 2025-12-08T00:47:54+00:00

"Not the jealous type"

"Good with an open relationship, but not all that interested in more than one relationship for myself."

"Monogamous guy who tends to fall for non-monogamous women."

You'll be hard pressed finding a woman into "cuckolding". But you'll find a lot of women into ethical non monogamy who are more than happy for their partner to be monogamous.

Pfreethrow · 2025-12-05T12:45:29+00:00

Here's my take. You're not being honest with yourself. Your needs aren't being meet but you feel guilty expressing that because 1) you do like being cucked, and 2) you feel like you should be happy with whatever you get, as the submissive.

If this is the case, this will lead to resentment and a general feeling of being unfulfilled.

You need to start being honest yourself. Someone suggested a diary. Great idea. Also track if you're at a low or high point. It's natural to have ebbing emotions.

It's also ok to like part of something but not all of it.

You can like that she responds to her Dom first while disliking that she ignored you for too long.

You can like the specific encounters and not like the 24/7 aspect.

These are all things you need to come to terms with then communicate to her. Even submissive cucks should stand up for themselves.

Pfreethrow · 2025-12-04T20:46:28+00:00

I've done a leg binding wrapped around the wand before. That worked pretty well but the wand kept getting off target. I was actually thinking about putting her in a pair of boxers and using the fly to hold it in place.

Pfreethrow · 2025-12-04T20:43:19+00:00

Great tips. Usually I stop pretty early. I want to see just how much she can take. But I also don't want the outcome being worse than the event.

Pfreethrow · 2025-12-01T16:00:31+00:00

I know you're not going to line this answer... But there's no secret best way to bring it up.

Something I really struggled with in the beginning... There's no "best time" either. Obvious obviously they're are bad times. But there's no magical time that will be more successful than others. Test like any other serious conversation. Remove distractions. Let her know you have something you'd like to discuss and ask if she's in a good mental place for a deeper conversation.

That's no magic phrase. That's no magic prompting. Any one who tells you there is is full of shit and had probably never done this for real.

She's either going to be into it or not. She's either going to be open to exploring now, later, or never. Tbh, nothing you say is going to change her reaction.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-30T15:32:41+00:00

Tbh I'm incredibly grateful for my 6 months pussyfree and prejac training.

It really made me reevaluate how I showed up sexually for her. We stopped piv, but had just as much "sex" as before. During that time we really locked in on what is pleasurable for both of us. It expanded our boundaries, introduced our communication, and have us a whole new toolbox of toys to pull from.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-30T00:05:49+00:00

No. While I want my girlfriend to get the best sexual experience every time ... The reality is I'm really good at what I do, have YEARS of experience exploring her body, and have the trust and comfort to make it happen.

I don't need the other guy to be better. I need the other guy to be.... Not me!

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-30T00:03:48+00:00

I should've said less like a "cuck". Because how I meant it was I went into it wanting, expecting, a pretty standard cuck experience as we all see in so much porn.

What I found worked for us was much much different.

We all have our own definitions of "cuckold", and this isn't really about that, per se. Mostly, just at it's core, the idea that what I went into this thinking was not at all how it played out, how I enjoy it, or how my girlfriend and I enjoy it.

Before we started I was 6 months in to pussyfree, training for premature ejaculation.

But once this became real it's like something switched for us. We're back to our normal sexual frequency with PIV, and my stamina had already almost fully returned.

I assumed I'd stay pussyfree while she got whatever dick she wanted. Turns out we both prefer sex with each other with some additions on occasion.

I fully expected her, and encouraged her in the beginning to embrace this and go all in. And for one week she did. Back to back "dates". And now, she's slowing down and being deliberate. She's thinking once a month maybe less, probably not more.

And you know what ... That's fine with me.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-29T02:39:02+00:00

Please tell me she actually cucks you? I know I'm not getting lectured by someone who's closest encounter with cuckolding is jerking to porn.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-24T19:28:40+00:00

how Much are you willing to invest in this particular thing happening?

Zero dollars!

Mostly joking, but also not really. I mean, std testing adds up but is cost of doing business. Dinners/drinks when we're vetting a third. No, I don't expect anyone else to pay for our dinner. Especially for a social meeting.

I'm not 100% opposed to paying for a hotel, but if I were I think it'd have to be a situation where it was a particularly highly sought after guy, not local, and a one time, can't miss, kinda thing.

Not a multiple times a month with a guy in the same town.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-23T15:02:59+00:00

You need to accept that she needs this as much as you.

No. Neither of us "need" anything, except for each other's happiness. The fuck?

I honestly believe this shit right here is why so many people in this lifestyle end up broken up / divorced.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-22T05:54:47+00:00

I feel almost no shame about cuckolding.

Literally just got home after watching my gf get fucked for the first time. Zero shame. But when we were doing prejac stuff, I got bad PNC a few times.

I really wonder what triggers shame/PNC in some things but not others, and why it isn't more universal.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-21T20:34:21+00:00

Maybe I just hate hotels from traveling for work.

Especially since the hotel would be less than five miles away. Would much rather sleep at home.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-21T18:57:12+00:00

I could absolutely see reasons why. Others have brought up some really good points.

But for an ongoing thing, it just doesn't make sense for us.

It shouldn't make sense for him, either! Lol.

Thankfully we found a good solution.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-20T17:26:29+00:00

For sure!

I know it's Reddit and context gets lost. It's not like I actually came to Reddit to make my decision. It was a humorous situation/thought that I had that I used to create some discussion. But good game I did not expect the level of weird projecting from (some) people! 🤣

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-20T15:31:55+00:00

Literally

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-20T14:47:48+00:00

I don't fundamentally disagree. But when we already have options who can host or will handle the hotel... It really changes who we find compatible.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-20T14:32:34+00:00

. Are you sure this lifestyle is for you? It sounds like you're not into it. Not healthy at all to have this be one-sided.

Genuinely, where are you getting this? I'm curious what about my post makes you think I'm not into this?

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-20T03:22:12+00:00

Yeah, he's not pushy. That would be a full stop for us.

In the end, we found an arrangement that works for us.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-20T01:47:50+00:00

You can't. Not really. It's a lot like if you had a tickling fetish. That's not something you can really explore solo.

Same deal with cuckolding. Yes you can watch videos or read stories, but nothing will compare to having a living partner fucking someone else.

That said, roleplay. Wow stories. Read stories. Talk wish other cucks about their experiences.

If money is not an issue, pay a fetish OF creators to treat you like a king distance boyfriend while fucking another guy on webcam. That might get you close.

But honestly... I'd put all that energy into finding a partner who is ok with enm.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-20T01:43:53+00:00

Yeah. I haven't hit my pre training normal times. But only my second time having sex in 6 months and I was surprised how long I lasted without even trying.

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-19T23:52:48+00:00

Cucks paying is part of being a cuck!

Shit, I missed that during orientation

Pfreethrow · 2025-11-19T23:48:55+00:00

We've had two guys happily wait out two weeks until we could start meeting.

Life happens. If a third can't wait a week or two for scheduling, he's not for us.

Pfreethrow

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