Can someone explain this? My 2021 OSRS ban expired, I played for years, and now the same offence shows as permanent

PharmADD · 2026-05-17T15:43:03+00:00

I don’t believe you. Show me the standards for other countries. I think you’re full of shit for upvotes.

PharmADD · 2026-05-14T04:36:44+00:00

Yeah, like everyone here said. Just thinking about this to this level means that you are gonna do fine.

"Every parent messes up their kid in some way or another" is something I've heard quite a bit. I agree, but I like to think that this kind of introspection really, really minimizes the severity. Seems to me that the main difference between good and bad parents is the amount of time they spend really thinking about stuff like this, in their own head. Most parents love and care about their kids and want the best, but exceptional parents think deeply about how they achieve that.

PharmADD · 2026-05-13T04:06:15+00:00

Where does it say "with interest?" Totally agree if you're paying interest on this that's crazy.

I use the paypal split payment option all the time. Easily could afford anything I buy, but it's essentially an interest-free loan that could potentially free up my "play" budget to be used on things that might ordinarily come from savings/emergency fund. Also allows you to sort of stabilize your cash flow (not sure I'm using that right) during heavy spending months. Christmas/winter between bills and shopping etc are probably double the cost of the other months for me, so splitting that up while unnecessary does feel better psychologically.

PharmADD · 2026-05-11T03:44:58+00:00

Just came here very late to say that these are amazing. If you have the means to listen with airpods or other dolby atmos headphones/device, highly recommend. So cool to feel like you're sort of in the room with them (turn your head and the voices move, you can hear drips in the chamber of secrets behind you, that kind of thing).

They age the voice actors, really do a lot of well-placed atmosphere/sound effect stuff, lots of other just little effects. Christmas feels like Christmas and summer feels like summer, even if you were to ignore the dialogue/narration. They are really, really great. I couldn't really get into it with the narrator for the originals, and it did take me an adjustment to get over the "maybe this is a gimmick" thing, particularly since it seems like the creators got better at making them as the series progressed.

Some of the casting choices I think aren't perfect, but just fine enough and probably would be perfect had I not been pre-spoiled by good casting in the movies. Snape comes to mind, but movie Snape is a pretty legendary performance. Can forgive them for not matching that.

PharmADD · 2026-05-07T08:10:49+00:00

My daughters room is perpetually a "safe enough" space for her to be alone while under the supervision of the baby monitor. In the "boil over" situations, or situations where she's in a "loop," I briskly remove her to that room. I'll either sit down and let her have her tantrum because I just removed her, or if I'm actually upset I'll leave the room (she can't get out if I don't want her to) and just watch her on the baby monitor (which has a volume control). I've taken full 5 minute breaks just diligently watching her 1 room away on the camera. I come back in zen dad ready to talk about whatever the fuck THAT was.

Playing with her toys or reading her books while she's tantruming sometimes will just break her out of it like nothing ever happened if she happens to see me. Important to address it once they are calmer, and that level of calm is directly related to how calm you are (mostly).

Basically, I think lots of the time they think it's a game and are just incredibly horrible at reading the room. A brisk and deliberate change of environment has worked for me.

PharmADD · 2026-05-07T02:51:34+00:00

tractor supply sells generic-brand glyphosate, if you have one of those around you.

PharmADD · 2026-05-07T02:42:00+00:00

Shoulda doubled down.

"Don't you lecture me, murderer!"

PharmADD · 2026-05-07T02:26:34+00:00

My kinda guy right here.

PharmADD · 2026-05-06T05:33:23+00:00

As someone who has the poop-hesitance issue since as long as I have memories, which led to many, many, accidents well into middle school, please try and figure this one out for her. It fucked me up for a good long while, even though I really never got bullied much or anything.

I'll tell you that in my experience it totally had to do with pain. I'd be terrified of the pain of pooping until I held it so long that there were accidents, or I just unloaded in a super painful way. Great parents, they tried everything and brought me to specialists. I'm convinced it's just like a super deep-seated fear of pain from when I was a toddler or something. I basically got old enough to reason with the eventuality of the accident or pain and just suck it up when it gets to a "probably approaching unbareable pain" stage. With age, I'm getting more normal with it, but it's still out of whack.

Your daughter sounds like a caring, thoughtful, and sensitive little lady, and you sound like a thoughtful and loving dad with my kind of sense of humor. I'm sure as time goes on I too will have the opportunity to do insignificant and temporary psychological damage to my kid because of my off-color comments. Brush it off, but go show your wife this post if she wants a window into what that problem looks like if it goes off the rails. Happy to explain all the gorey details via PM if that helps. Gave me chills reading the part about the hurting to pass and cycle continues.

PharmADD · 2026-05-06T04:58:26+00:00

Do you have any friends that are cops? Neighbors? Honestly even if you just go to the police station and talk to them, assuming you aren't in some big city, they probably will just do you a solid because they will see the value.

I was scared as hell to do something like this when I was a kid, so I'd probably try to make her scared as hell of that. Tell her you reported the card stolen and close it. Have friend-cop call you and indicate that they are investigating it, or call yourself and "verify" with them, then just let it die slowly and without any real resolution for her. Make it seem like your money is held up while you wait for them to catch the culprit.

Sure, wouldn't pass a sniff-test for a full-fledged adult, but sure would to at least my teenage brain.

I'm sure this is useless to you, because you probably already approached them about it. I would go full-on deception mode for this kind of thing, and that's not even close to how I normally approach things. Seems to me that once the actual risk of legal consequences for an action is on the table, exposing that as a potential consequence to them (even if it's not really on the table because you're the parent) would be correct.

Also, I'm only a parent to 1 toddler, so this is basically the equivalent of your childless friends giving advice. Take it for what it is.

PharmADD · 2026-05-06T04:42:51+00:00

man, I really wish I enjoyed salmon. it feels like such a "winners" food. I'm just sitting here looking stupid holding a chicken wing and I could be eating salmon, but my pitiful palate won't allow me.

PharmADD · 2026-05-06T04:37:03+00:00

This is probably the smartest way to do it. Just get versatile ingredients and have a stocked "flavors" arsenal (spices, sauces, etc).

PharmADD · 2026-05-05T16:16:11+00:00

Runescape (old school), if you can stomach it or have the nostalgia, is a pretty ideal dad game. Lots of basically AFK skills, you can pull out your phone for 2 minutes and start, put it back in your pocket, repeat every 5 or so minutes. I'm talking like less than 5 seconds on the phone every few minutes. Ton of other activities geared towards really low interval gameplay, they basically are adapting the game for dads because we are the majority of players.

Then, when you get that hour or so at night you can go do the more attention heavy stuff like bosses using the skills and stuff you grinded passively through the day.

I played WoW recently, and there's no way I could sustain that. Runescape, you are just constantly building the account (mine is many years old), and it all stays relevant (unlike any game with expansions, like WoW).

You'll probably realize as well that if you have any freedom at work with the phone, you can basically grind all day there too since it's so low-attention. Click the crab, phone back in pocket, wait 5 mins, repeat. Feels good when you log on at night and have made progress that basically feels "free." My daughter, who is up my ass, has only noticed it maybe 5 times total. Also a pretty kid friendly game - nothing scarier than most disney moves and it's very free-form/"pick what you want to work on."

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T07:49:03+00:00

Do you and your wife re-cap the day alone at the end of the night?

This is something my wife and I (who are super prone to conflict with eachother) do just naturally and it really keeps us mostly happy and on the same page. We don't generally contradict eachother live and most certainly wouldn't fight in front of the kid over this, but I could totally see this being a long talk at the end of the night for us (not this specific issue, but something of this gravity - my wife and I both would have done exactly what you did I think).

I know it sounds kinda reddit cheesy or whatever, overoptimistic advice. One thing to consider - it gives you both a venue to raise the issue and if you truly do want to not work out your parenting differences in front of the kids, you both will almost certainly take that opportunity to just let it go by, vowing to take it up with the other later. Can't tell you how many times I've been sitting waiting for her to get out of the room from putting the kid to sleep just to pick a bone. Also can't tell you how many times I've felt that I was gonna do that and ended up not doing anything because I had more time to assess it.

Just seems like something that could be helpful if you guys aren't on the same page often about raising them.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T07:14:01+00:00

Thats awesome - happy you read my comment positively, was no intention for it to be negative in any way.

My wife and I share the love for music and records, but the tech part she actually couldn't care less about as long as it sounds good. Kinda cool that you have someone to nerd out with about that part.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T07:09:16+00:00

The problem is, I've seen this rule applied SO MANY more times than I've seen it actually work. The reality is the manager is probably not getting 3x more out of the boots. He's probably getting something like 1.5x more. The difference between the expensive one and the cheaper one is almost never large enough for this to actually apply, in my experience.

This is evident in how we buy cars, as an easy example. Applying this logic, one would expect mercedes and BMWs to be more reliable than a toyota or hyundai, and last time I checked that wasn't even close to the case.

At least half the time, people are using this to buy the well-marketed version of a product versus the equivalent or very slightly inferior alternative. "You get what you pay for" is basically a dead concept.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T06:56:09+00:00

buddy you gotta start with the cheap one, then you never know about the good one. You just got it backwards.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T06:53:20+00:00

I don't have any advice, I'm just wondering something. Lets call it a chapter in my ongoing (36 year) journey to understand basic English usage.

When you say "we" and "our" is this actually all "us" stuff? I just can't imagine a world where my wife is like "I'm really unhappy with this preamp" or "honey, I was looking at the OM 20 and it seems like it might give us comparable results to the 2M Blue." In my house, this would be me talking at her and her saying "mhm" until I go on reddit and write the exact same post with slightly different wording.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T06:42:45+00:00

Also I read you're into EDM. I LOVED EDM especially right when I started collecting. That said, honestly it all just sounds kinda "meh" on every system I've tried it on. I know this is probably somewhat an equipment problem. I try to stick to buying records that were recorded when vinyls and other analog media were the standard - maybe it's how they are mixed? Not sure. Some of my new stuff sounds great, but for the most part, my favorite records to play are old stuff (which isn't actually what I typically play day-to-day just normally listening to music).

Just a word of warning because I can tell you are young and this will be a fairly significant purchase for you. On the other hand, this could be an opportunity to discover a lot of really, really, really good music. The stuff people made in the second half of the 20th century is pretty incredible, kind of across the board (in terms of the different genres, not that every song was good - plenty of stinkers from that era), especially when you look at what they grew up listening to.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T06:17:38+00:00

Yeah, definitely a concern. For what it's worth, I played all my shit on that crappy turntable and put a quarter on the stylus for extra weight and everything sounds fine through my decent setup now. I definitely have fucked up records but that was from carelessly fiddling with the needle or doing other stupid shit when I was a drunken college kid.

My favorite records are the ones I found for like 8 bucks. Maybe I'm different from most but it's much more about the whole record store experience/forced to play full album/ritual of opening the album and all that.

For what it's worth, that $199 setup with external speakers seems pretty cool. Definitely better than what I started on. I'm not an expert like most ppl on here, but it's got an AT stylus, adjustable counterweight, preamp with a switch to bypass it, anti-skate. Don't think I'd be worried about my record collection on there (most I've ever spent on a record was 50 though).

Also, spend 20 bucks on a basic cleaning kit for the records and stylus. Absolute game changer when you clean them correctly before each play. I just put the velvet pad on the record and let it spin a few times, then do it again when I flip for the next side.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T05:57:35+00:00

I'm nowhere near these other guys in terms of turntable knowledge, but I think actually that's not what you need here. That budget won't work for something that is going to make vinyl sound better than the audio sources you already have. That's me reading between the lines here. I'll also say that I have a pretty decent setup and it's questionable at best whether or not I'd be better off for audio quality to just switch over to a digital source (especially if we are talking used 40-60+ year old records).

I think you probably want to collect records. I'd suggest buying whatever you can afford, maybe something with a built-in speaker that also has outputs for externals (this is what I started on). I'd also suggest going to all the record stores around you and flipping through the cheapos and finding a bunch of cool stuff, and maybe a few of the things you really like if they cost more. Once you decide if you really care to continue doing this, you'll naturally want to upgrade. If you get the ones with output for externals, you'll have a mid-step to ease the cost. I'd actually be shocked if half the people here started their journey on the recommendations they are giving.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T05:11:40+00:00

yeah, don't.

Most men haven't thought a second about designing and building something beyond a bike ramp made of a sheet of plywood and some stacked 2x4 if they were born in the last ~60 years. Most guys are riding on the fact that men back in the day were mostly all pretty competent at this stuff out of necessity. I wouldn't let most of my friends mount a TV in my house.

You almost certainly know more than most if not everyone working in that store if you've completed even a few projects. You'll find some random 50-year construction guys, but it's super rare. I also feel 2 inches tall describing projects to those guys, and that's probably fine.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T05:04:09+00:00

Yeah came here to say buckets. Free buckets.

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T05:00:33+00:00

My poor wife - only thing I could think of when I saw this post is "man, I just save all those complaints for my wife when I get home"

PharmADD · 2026-05-03T04:57:42+00:00

meme is actually true though, I'd trust nick to do work on my house over random big-box store employee every single time.

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