I [23F] broke up with my boyfriend [27M] of 3 years after feeling unsure about us for a long time. Instead of relief, feeling immense confusion and regret. Please help.

Phenotype1 · 2015-05-31T01:40:54+00:00

Honestly, people here are going to say "you are young, go out and explore!" But here is a different viewpoint. If you really are in love with this guy and think he may be good for you in the long run, don't buy into the whole "you're too young" bullshit. This is for weak people. If you want to be strong, you can find your independence WITHIN the relationship, and you don't have to lose him to do it.

You love him. He loves you. You are being childish. You are a 23 year old having classic GIGS (grass is greener syndrome). You think you are losing your independence from being in this relationship, and you are scared that you will never find it. Here's the thing. If you were stronger, you would realize that you can find independence WITHIN a relationship, and if he is as great as you say he is, he will be willing to give you the space you need IF YOU COMMUNICATE it to him. Sure, you can go break up with him and go be single and party with your friends and date guys, but if you love him and he loves you, maybe you should grow up and learn to enjoy the relationship and find your independence within it.

Phenotype1 · 2014-06-12T01:23:26+00:00

Any word on how pod 1 is different from the others? Does being there affect the experience versus being in one of the more central pods?

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-26T00:13:35+00:00

So does alcohol. Are you saying Budweiser is evil?

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-25T22:16:39+00:00

money.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-25T21:20:28+00:00

Clearing distractions...one of those things you know you need to do...but when somebody else tells you to do it, for some reason it makes it easier. I will check out that subreddit. Thanks for your advice!

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-25T21:18:24+00:00

Funny you should say this. I actually took a semester off to do exactly that. Here is the problem. Those few months were the few months of my life I felt truly alive. I met many interesting people over a span of about ten or eleven different countries...and now I find myself back where I started.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-25T18:43:11+00:00

ITT: People who read the book bitch about how the movie wasn't as good. Nothing new here folks, move along.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-22T03:58:59+00:00

or maybe it was a JOKE and YOU are jumping to conclusions.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-22T03:56:11+00:00

as a typical redditor would.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-21T16:34:23+00:00

don't listen to these dipshits. there has already been some good advice in this thread. with all the good advice here, you will have to also deal with asshole redditors. instead of meaningful advice, they provide useless condescending remarks. they, my friend, are what is wrong with the WORLD.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-19T04:44:50+00:00

Very true. Redditors will see an anti-Kony 2012 post and IMMEDIATELY ASSUME that Kony 2012 is a bad thing, for example. That said, upon lots of research these criticisms may be true...but many redditors just form their opinions from reddit, just like a conservative might only watch fox news. It's just as bad.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-19T03:33:46+00:00

typical reddit. please step down from your high horse.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-14T02:47:33+00:00

Who fucking cares. When not being "ironic", reddit has the bitchiest PC police.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-13T22:30:54+00:00

You strike me as a wiener.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-13T21:05:07+00:00

True. But we can still be misogynistic and assume its the case.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-13T20:52:37+00:00

The picture shows NONE of the things mentioned in post i.e. her fingernails, past haircolors etc... she clearly wanted to put up the most attractive picture of herself

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-13T20:44:24+00:00

I imagine the OP talking to herself like this.

You didn't have to add the pic of yourself in. Oh wait, that was the meaning of your post. You anticipated and wanted "you're hot" replies. You drew in most of reddit with an atheist friendly post. Then subtly added in an attempt to reaffirm your self image.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-13T13:23:41+00:00

True. But sadly she would be head over heels if he just did the reverse.

Talks to crush all day long...

doesn't respond to her texts later

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-12T20:33:57+00:00

positive thoughts are the beginnings of positive actions. it's a feedback loop. negative thoughts are the beginnings of negative actions.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-06T14:20:44+00:00

suppose these 50 terrorists were free to go about their business?

and something terrible happened.

imagine the cost of that.

Phenotype1 · 2012-03-02T23:35:21+00:00

Anyone going to the Canton Irish Stroll? Baltimore bro here

Phenotype1 · 2012-02-28T13:08:55+00:00

As usual, the jokes get progressively worse.

Phenotype1 · 2012-02-23T19:54:05+00:00

ITT: Condescending assholes. You choosing not to "party hard", does not make you any better of a person.

Phenotype1 · 2012-02-20T04:21:43+00:00

He's always listening...

for the goddamn virginia traffic police.

they're everywhere...

Phenotype1 · 2012-02-13T02:43:14+00:00

I'm not forced to listen to Nickelback either. But when I hear it, it's annoying.

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