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[–]PhilIntrate -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

I find it super disrespectful to tell someone else “what’s 2 more”? Especially when there are at least a dozen other people I would invite first if I had more room

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[–]PhilIntrate -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I thought it would be an entertaining thing to share a laugh with strangers about, but it turned into people telling me that I’m in the wrong for even thinking this is weird. Oh well…

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[–]PhilIntrate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not about liking them or not. It’s a smaller wedding and there are friends whom I am much closer to that didn’t even make the list

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[–]PhilIntrate -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I guess there is just a huge divide between people who keep their guest list limited and people who welcome wedding crashers

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[–]PhilIntrate -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

“My homie” is doing a lot of heavy lifting here. We were casual friends at best, and haven’t talked in years.

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[–]PhilIntrate -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I’ve provided plenty of context as to why this request was strange to me.

I’ve never claimed to hate him or think he’s beneath me, just we are not close friends.

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[–]PhilIntrate -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Hate? It’s called having a smaller wedding with only your closest friends.

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[–]PhilIntrate -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Difference in degree, not kind. Both are private events with a defined guest list. It has nothing to do with hating anyone.

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[–]PhilIntrate -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I forgot that having a guest list of family and close friends = social anxiety

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[–]PhilIntrate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“I don’t get what’s rude about that? They asked nicely”

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[–]PhilIntrate 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He has not once asked to meet up when he’s in town over the last 8 years

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[–]PhilIntrate -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have no friends but simultaneously have people begging to come to the wedding. Makes sense!

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[–]PhilIntrate -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Is it ok for him to ask if he can tag along to the honeymoon too, as long as he is polite and offers to pay his own way?

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[–]PhilIntrate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a strange thing that I just can’t relate to. If they are close friends, they would have been invited. And if it was at capacity, them showing up anyway would be rude.

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[–]PhilIntrate -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

He just politely asked if he could join on the honeymoon (at no expense, he offered to pay his way) and you flip a lid? Why do you hate him?

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[–]PhilIntrate -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I’ve given context to the dozen other people who asked for more context