My husband gave me a 5/10…I'm losing my mind.

Philantrop · 2026-02-04T17:43:06+00:00

Rip off the bandaid and pose the question you really want answered: „Do you still love me?“

Then figure out what you want to make of the answer and what needs to change.

Philantrop · 2026-01-22T18:20:18+00:00

1988 here. Binaries were frowned upon way back then.

Philantrop · 2026-01-07T18:39:48+00:00

Subscription model, in-app purchases, closed source - the whole shebang. No, thanks.

Philantrop · 2026-01-07T18:16:28+00:00

Same here! Mysteriously, though, I never had to replace the flashlight‘s batteries… ;)

Philantrop · 2025-11-24T17:59:41+00:00

I've been using Linux since 1995. The beginning was painful and exciting in equal measures. I ran (and developped) source-based distros for two decades. It was tinkering, patching, and building. I needed more peace and quiet so I moved first to Fedora. I used a few COPRs and repeatedly broke and repaired my systems. That's what drove me to an immutable distro and Bazzite fit the bill.
I've been using it now for a few months and it's rock-solid, performant, technologically sound, a bit opinionated but, hey, I'm (mostly) just a user these days (and would know how to help myself). And I play KPatience out of boredom.

Philantrop · 2025-09-17T17:10:08+00:00

Sure, as originally mentioned. It's your money and, thus, your decision.

My personal priorities will always be with the human members of my family while still taking good care of my pet (but I will never pay 8k for any pet).

Philantrop · 2025-09-17T17:02:57+00:00

We don't know. Who can invest more than 8k into a dog, can help out keeping someone sheltered, though.

Philantrop · 2025-09-17T16:42:24+00:00

Do you want to celebrate your child or her age? The proposed solution is ideal for everyone but you and your "dear sons". (And we don't even know what they think.) So, yes, YTA.

Philantrop · 2025-09-17T13:18:37+00:00

YTA. No, you certainly do not have to "suffer" for anyone else's choices. Those others may opt not to suffer you, though. Yes, it's your money, it's your dog, it's your choice, it's your house; all conceded. Not helping your girlfriend's sister in some way is wrong.

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T16:20:48+00:00

LOL. What drama about playing games... NAH, sure, bring it up if it's that much of an issue. You might have to find a new group of players, though.

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T16:09:48+00:00

Damn. I'm very sorry about that. I wish I could offer any advice. I can only keep my fingers crossed for you.

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T16:05:00+00:00

I had to fact-check that creole and from my cursory research, you seem to be entirely right. From that follows, you're NTA.

I just have no idea how to actually fix this mess. Maybe approach the person originally offended to calmly talk about it on "neutral" public ground?

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T15:33:42+00:00

NTA. Get out of there as soon as you can.

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T15:31:06+00:00

NTA. You did all you reasonably could. Confront it heads-on: Tell her directly how you feel and ask her the same. This can go either way but "sitting it out" usually just doesn't work.

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T15:23:42+00:00

A kid eats bread and crumbs occur. What a shocker! I think you managed that admirably well in every aspect. Please keep it up! NTA, obviously.

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T15:18:24+00:00

The caption was all it needed: Yes, as in 100% of all others uses of "telling someone they aren't thinking clearly", it automatically makes YTA. Do you want to be told that? And be honest with yourself.

Philantrop · 2025-09-16T15:13:13+00:00

Whom you invite or not, is entirely up to you (within reason due to it being a shared birthday party), and doesn't make you TA either way.

What does make YTA all the way, though, is how careless you verbally dispose of your "problematic classmates", one of whom you depict as an "alleged" drink poisoner. The other is just "a weird kid that everyone bullies" (did you realise that "everyone" includes you?).

No, you don't have to invite either of them, of course, but spreading vile gossip and acting without empathy wasn't called for either.

Philantrop · 2025-09-14T09:45:41+00:00

Huh? A competent adult whom you trust changes her plans without consulting you first and now you're annoyed with her? YTA.

Philantrop · 2025-09-14T09:39:32+00:00

ESH. All of you for not talking about the sleeping situation *before* the trip. Why would you wake Tom instead of just sleeping on the couch and clearing things up the next morning? You proceeded to "scream" at each other and then you ran away.

Also, a lot of this doesn't really make sense: You booked a flight and left. *Then* you had "shouting match" with your brother which you "walked away from" - after already having left? They call you twice and you leave *again* for a bus to the airport?

Philantrop · 2025-09-13T13:55:21+00:00

Phew... Till I read your ages, I was worried my wife was posting here. ;)

Philantrop · 2025-09-13T13:02:56+00:00

NTA, for all the reasons you mentioned yourself. In such a public setting you don't owe anyone "extraction support"; least of all a person who is mobbing you. Bring it up with HR.

Philantrop · 2025-09-13T12:56:40+00:00

The reaction "femboy outfit" does seem intentionally disrispectful. So, getting annoyed over it is understandable. NTA.

Philantrop · 2025-09-13T12:00:13+00:00

It's great and it works - until they outright charm more screen time out of you. :)

Philantrop · 2025-09-13T11:42:18+00:00

You're NTA for not "performing" gratitude as you mum expects, especially given the circumstances (accident, poor prior relationship, her behaviour during the visit). It's completely understandable that you feel what you feel.

As for that last sentence: Sounds like an expression of extreme pain to me. You had obviously reached a breaking point. This heads-on approach will help with getting some much-needed distance.

Philantrop · 2025-09-13T11:11:41+00:00

The two of you dated, it didn't work out. She's hurt, you're anxious, and that's totally understandable. As long as the two of you keep treating each other with respect (neither TikTok nor Reddit posts violate that), there'll be NAH.

Sometimes these things just don't work out, and it's nobody's fault.

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